AIBU to make DD pay for driving lessons (that are from me)?

[woonnoow]

Hi all,

My daughter is 17. She is just beginning to learn to drive. I'm giving her lessons - I have offered to get her 'proper' ones for Christmas, but she finds it better with me.

I take her everyday, so that's an hour of my time. I don't mind, but I work from home, so my time is obviously really important. AIBU to charge her £5 for an hour?

She seems to roll her eyes when I ask for it, saying that her friends' parents don't make them pay (that typical phrase! ) so AIBU?

[shouldwestayorshouldwego]

Why not just say that you don't have time every day so will do it three times a week, or she drives to and from the supermarket and takes half the shopping list and meet at checkout so it takes less time, or she cooks a meal so you can work longer. That is more appropriate.

[SassyPants19]

I'm finding it hard to work out if you're joking....?!?!?! She's your daughter, she's learning a life skill she'll need for the rest of her life and you charge her for your time????? Yes you really are being unreasonable. What are you trying to teach her - that nothing's free, not even your mothers time? Giving your time for your child however old should NEVER come at a cost!!!!!

[Xocaraic]

YABVU.
I hope your DD imposes the same or similar tart if when you are old and need her hel occasionally.
We reap what we sow

[mya83]

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[Fanofjapan]

She's your daughter OP. That's what parents do. Actually, thinking on it, you must be bored and posted on here for a laugh. If not, then you are being incredibly unreasonable. Why would you want money in return for helping your daughter? I'm sorry I don't buy the working from home so losing an hour's pay argument.

[Whocansay]

I'm mildly concerned that you actually think this is reasonable. Of course YABU. And I feel sorry for your daughter.

[anotheronebitthedust]

of course yabu

a) lessons with a professional would cost a lot more, which presumably you would contribute towards (although given your outstanding tightness, maybe not) so taking her yourself is a lot cheaper
b) unless you work 16 hrs per day and sleep the other 8, you are not taking her during your working time, you're taking her during your leisure time so you're not losing money

• also if she passes her test you will no longer have to give her lifts (if you currently do) so will save time in the future
  

c) there is no need to take her out for an hour every day!
d) making her pay petrol and insurance is already excessive and out of the usual
e) SHE'S YOUR DAUGHTER AND IT'S A VALUABLE LIFE SKILL, not a jolly

If you can't afford it, then don't do it!

[VeryBitchyRestingFace]

I'm here, but like I said, time is important.

Congratulations, OP.

This has got to be one of the crassest responses I've seen on this site.

[JellyBelli]

Its illegal.
''Anyone you pay to teach you to drive must be either:
a qualified and approved driving instructor (ADI)
a trainee driving instructor''

www.gov.uk/driving-lessons-learning-to-drive/taking-driving-lessons

[FizzBombBathTime]

Op did your parents ever take you out for a practice lesson? Did they charge you?

[Thattimeofyearagain]

Is op coming back? Is she planning on charging us for her time ?

[coolaschmoola]

I'm an English teacher... When my dd passes her English GCSE's I'm going to present her with a bill for sixteen years of tuition... After all, my time is important enough for other parents to pay me £25 per hour to tutor their children.

Or not. Because I'm a PARENT before I'm anything else. If I can help her with her education then I will - for free. Just like I taught her to use a spoon, tell the time, get dressed, bake, have manners and be kind to others. No charge for any of it.

You are being exceptionally mean.

[Rattusn]

It's actually illegal to charge for driving lessons, unless you are a qualified driving instructor.

[memyselfandaye]

So she pays for the petrol and insurance, and now you want to charge her for spending time with you?

This is'nt real, nobody would be such a twat to their own kid.

[FeedMyFaceWithJaffaCakes]

I call reverse.
Or worse: troll thread.

How can this be real?!!

[Sptownmama]

Yabvvvu and sound like a complete cow.

[kissmethere]

Yabu. Pretty shit you want to charge her. Poor girl with a parent who thinks like you do.

[MrHannahSnell]

Are you s professional driving instructor? If so, then charge by all means. If you're not then YABVVU.

[Couchpotato3]

YABU, but perhaps it's the way you have approached this that is coming across badly. If you are thinking that the money she would otherwise spend on driving lessons could be saved towards a future car / insurance etc, then it would be fine to discuss it with her and put the money aside. However, expecting your kid to pay you for lessons seems pretty mean to be honest.

[Wishforsnow]

Wow! You see your child as a bit of a cash cow. I'm sure the moment she turns 18 there will be rent, bills etc. Hope she does well and spreads her wings far away

[MrHannahSnell]

Take a look at "Reporting unqualified driving instructors" on the UK.gov website OP. It might put you off the idea. You do this and she has an accident while you're giving a lesson and your insurance company won't want to know!

[ElornaElephant]

This isn't real, surely?

[Oliversmumsarmy]

Be very very careful op otherwise you could end up worse off. Your DD might decide that for what you are charging she can find cheaper elsewhere and you wont then get any help with petrol or insurance.

[maldini]

This cannot be an actual parent suggesting this genuinely. If it is, your poor daughter.

[HateMrTumble]

I can't believe that you're being serious.. but if you are WOW.

Maybe she could put some petrol in, but the way you've worded it you actually mean want to charge your daughter for your time.... yes, YABU