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I have 4 kids what does he expect?

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Busybeesbum · 13/11/2016 17:16

Grrr. Ive been seeing a new man for a few weeks and last night we had sex. Afterwards he was basically moaning but trying to be polite! His words were 'youve got a great body for a mum of 4 but down below yikes!' Wtf?

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Busybeesbum · 13/11/2016 17:54

I wasted a babysitter for that shite!

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RubyFlint · 13/11/2016 17:55

Bloody hell. What response was he expecting? An apology? A slap? Some people.

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PterodactylToenails · 13/11/2016 17:55

I would have had to have said to him it is not me that's the problem it is your small dick, your sagging balls and your halitosis.

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Beautifullymixed · 13/11/2016 17:55

OP - I have five dcs, and did the dating thing this year. My body is not perfect at all, and all dcs were vaginal births with no stitches Smile
The way I look at it is - any man lucky enough to get near my lady garden is a lucky devil indeed Grin

I have had some lovely fun this year, not a single complaint was made!
Have fun OP.
Do not waste a single moment on idiots that aren't worth a minutes thought. There are men out there who will cherish every single inch of your body.
Don't settle for anything less Flowers

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mumofthemonsters808 · 13/11/2016 17:56

It wasn't until I come on MN that I become aware this was even a problem for some men.

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DollopofTrollop · 13/11/2016 17:57

I would have said ..... Sorry my Ex was much bigger ... He didn't notice a difference !

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ellamoromou · 13/11/2016 17:58

Oh dear Hmm

I have 4 kids what does he expect?
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BoyFromTheBigBadCity · 13/11/2016 17:58

W.T.A.F?! Well done OP!

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ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 13/11/2016 18:00

It's not a problem for some men; it's that some men are a problem...

So he was a crap shag, he knows he was a crap shag, has probably been told previously that he's a crap shag and he's trying to blame it on you.

I don't think he's worthy of the title 'man'.

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RepentAtLeisure · 13/11/2016 18:03

This reminds of a guy I dated that tried to "reassure" me that he'll know whether I slept with a lot of people or not once we have sex. When I asked what he meant,he asked me if I know the term "bucket".

This is one of those things that makes zero sense if you're even slightly capable of logical thinking. But they're not thinking, they're just mindlessly spouting out their 'keep the women down' bullshit.

I was with my ex for 11 years. We had sex on average 3 or 4 times a week. If a single woman during that same time period managed to rack up the same amount of sex but with different men, why on earth would her vagina become a 'bucket' but not mine? And anyway, given that the vagina is made of muscle, I'd imagine regular exercise would keep it toned, not make it go lax Grin

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ohtheholidays · 13/11/2016 18:07

I'd have said yes I know what you mean and I'm sorry your Penis is to Small! Grin

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AChristmasCactus · 13/11/2016 18:07

What a revolting piece of shit.

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Fairylea · 13/11/2016 18:08

Shock What a vile man! Angry

I've just read this out to dh who is next to me on the sofa and equally horrified.

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RebelRogue · 13/11/2016 18:08

Repent What actually pissed me off more than his skewed "logic" was the assumption we will have sex. Not if,but when.

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PirateCatOvenGloveOption · 13/11/2016 18:09

Still think Joff is right!

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QueenLaBeefah · 13/11/2016 18:10

Bloody hell - what a total arsehole. Well done for ditching that utter tube.

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Whooptydoo1 · 13/11/2016 18:12

Oh my god, what a fucking prick, I'm sure there is nothing wrong with u, tell him he's got a tiny micro penis and he hasn't produced 4 human beings, so what's his excuse?! Sounds like u had a lucky escape, what an absolute ass hat, I'm outraged on your behalf!!

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Thatwaslulu · 13/11/2016 18:14

Jesus. You could have a chuff like a wizard's sleeve and it would still be incredibly rude for him to mention it. I hope you told him where to go!

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Busybeesbum · 13/11/2016 18:14

Im better singleConfused

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ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 13/11/2016 18:15

I sometimes think that this will always be the last bastion of inequality between the sexes. If a guy likes small breasts/big breasts, small hips/big hips, small bum/big bum etc, he can pretty much tell just by looking at a fully dressed woman what her size is.

Not for us women. We have to wait until we're right down to the wire to find out whether a man's 'physique' is what we're after. You never hear "It's not the size that matters, it's what you do with it the counts" about vaginas, do you?!!!! Grrr. Glad I'm single.

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Elendon · 13/11/2016 18:15

It's all shite. I have scars down below and they all think I've had cesarean sections for my three children. I did not. I gave birth to all of them vaginally. The men I've been with post divorce have remarked how tight I am. I bin them. Straight into the bin. The men you meet should like you for you as a person.

He's not a very nice man. Is he? You deserve better.

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Ohdearducks · 13/11/2016 18:17

Disgusting pig. I hope he falls off a cliff.

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EweAreHere · 13/11/2016 18:18

I kinda think you should ask him what he has to say for himself, just so you can share it with us.

And then block him.

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c3pu · 13/11/2016 18:19

Oh for the love of God.

I've got a dick between my legs and while I'm no lothario, I've been with enough women to know that the number of children they've had really doesn't make a discernable difference in how things feel in the sack.

The best sex I ever had was a woman who'd had 5 kids.

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PilkoPumpPants · 13/11/2016 18:21

What a prize prick. I'm sure your lady garden is just fine so please don't let that idiot knock your confidence!

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