I have 4 kids what does he expect?

[Busybeesbum]

Grrr. Ive been seeing a new man for a few weeks and last night we had sex. Afterwards he was basically moaning but trying to be polite! His words were 'youve got a great body for a mum of 4 but down below yikes!' Wtf?

[RetroImp]

There are some spiteful guys out there who seem to have watched too much porn and no real life experience of how to have mutually enjoyable sex. Seeing my single friends venturing out in the dating jungle, many have reported that there appears a trend among a fair few guys to put women down, even very early on, so they have low expectations and can be 'managed' without a lot of effort. Am glad you kicked this fuckweasel out.

[Branleuse]

what a horrible thing to say :(

[TheUnworthy]

Is he doing that 'thing' where they insult you to make you want to impress them?

[Bertucci]

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

Was he any good? I mean like so good you almost died of pleasure but not quite and he was so beautiful all over you actually cried?

Because if all that was true I might put up with him being a totally ignorant thicko.

Otherwise? Not so much.

[TheWeeBabySeamus1]

Horrible bastard! I'd have told him every vagina seems big when you're hung like a hamster!

He was probably doing that thing that bastards do - give a compliment followed by a nasty comment. It's designed to make you both grateful that he "likes" you and also make you self conscious so you don't start looking for someone better. Arsehole

[ClopySow]

Dump him.

[ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess]

unworthy Negging? The approach of choice by insecure numbskulls who pay £100s to listen to some arse-wipe tell them how to pull because they couldn't ever meet a woman normally without having to attempt to lower her self-esteem?

[thisisafakename]

What a massive twat. Has this become a thing now, that you comment on people's genitals after sleeping with them? I thought that was the height of rudeness (unless you're being complimentary). If someone said my vag was 'massive' after sex, I think I would assume that they weren't all there in the head. That would be the exact equivalent of a woman telling a man he had a tiny dick. I hope you told him in massive detail exactly why you were dumping him.

[thisisafakename]

Is he doing that 'thing' where they insult you to make you want to impress them?

God, are some men actually that thick that they think that would work? If someone started dropping hints that I was fat and ugly and stuff, I would run for the hills. Yes, it would upset me and WOULD knock my confidence, but there would be 0% chance that I would carry on dating them or speak to them again. Compliments is the way to go.

[TheUnworthy]

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess that's it!

When I was just starting to get to know DH he brought along a couple of friends to a night out.

Future DH popped to the loo and his friend (who later turned out to be a complete weirdo who wept and broke his phone because I didn't want him over DH when we'd only briefly spoken a few times ) came up to me and said,

'You seem really nice and classy but if you don't mind me saying you look like a dirty slag'

And this man was genuinely surprised that I didn't toss a fledgling relationship away to fall at his feet.

Anyone who does this is severely lacking

[Tomorrowillbeachicken]

I'd dump him like radioactive waste

[WeAreUglyButWeHaveTheMusic]

Fucking Hell! That's shocking!

Kind of makes the shit I've heard pale into insignificance!

Honestly, what are some people thinking?

Yes, unless you agree to talk so that you can report it back to us and we can all laugh at him, then block and do not have anything else to do with him. What could he possibly say after that to redeem himself?

[Scrumptiousbears]

Where on earth did you meet this cock?

[thisisafakename]

'You seem really nice and classy but if you don't mind me saying you look like a dirty slag'

I just snorted tea all over my desk. How can anyone be that inept that they think that is going to work? But yeah, how come you turned him down? Wonder if he's still single- maybe I have a chance.

[Coffeethrowtrampbitch]

Unblock him.

Send a link to a penis enlargement device.

Block again. Point made :-)

[derxa]

Love you OP

[BigFatBollocks]

KING I laughed out loud at that!!

[TheUnworthy]

thisisafakename last DH heard was that he has moved in with a newly divorced mother.

I hope for her sake he has massively changed. The thought he might have taken advantage of someone in a vulnerable situation sickens me.

Op you have had a lucky escape, it was very hurtful but thank god he showed his true colours sooner rather than a few months/years in!

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

Dirty slag guy sounds like someone who tried to chat me up in a night club a hundred few years ago. He said something along the lines of "I think you're really attractive and I would really like to take you out But I don't like your hair like that or your outfit or your shoes".

Luckily I was quick off the mark having been literally beating them off all night (nothing to do with me, just the most disgusting misogynistic club behaviour-wise in London). "Well," I said "I wasn't going to give you my number any way and we clearly have nothing in common because I love my hair and my outfit like this". And off I stalked!

[Helloitsme87]

Is this for real. Do people actually say this kind of thing.

[ohforfoxsake]

Oh OP! Do 'talk' to him, just to post on here PLEASE!

I've got 4 DCs, all vaginal, no tearing, and a prolapse - no complaints from DP (who frankly thinks he's the lucky one!) .

"I've pushed four human-fucking-beings out of there" would be my response. And the door would be shown.

[2kids2dogsnosense]

Looks like something that should be hanging out of a shark's mouth.

Spat wine all over the keyboard here!

[PirateCatOvenGloveOption]

Just laughed so much I can hardly breathe at a foof being described as a wizards sleeve! I bloody love MumsNet!

[DeleteOrDecay]

That's awful, LTB.