Only children - To be utterly fucked off

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...with reading constant hurtful posts on here all the damn time?!

"Ooh I could never have just one, that would be cruel"

"I want to give DS a sibling as it would be unfair otherwise"

Lonely...fucking blah blah.

Do you have ANY IDEA how hurtful this is? God I wish people would STFU.

People comment on families of all sizes. I'm pregnant with number 3, have a boy and a girl already, people told me I didn't need to have another! Charming!

For what it's worth I'm an only child, yes there were and still are lonely times. I don't resent my mum for it, that's life.

Ninja you don't sound bitter - just frustrated.

Please read the article I linked to below. I think you would find it really interesting.

Op
I'm in the same position as you. People always want to know when you are having another as ds needs a sibling )apparently any issues would be solved by giving him a little brother or sister. Now I just turn round and say actually we can't have any more and it's heartbreaking. Soon shits them up

So with you op ( one child not through choice) hurtful in real life and on mn.
What gets me down is pfb - when you spent 8 years desperate for a baby get one and know it is ( has been unlikely 4 years on) to have another...of course they are f*ing precious

I would love to have 4 kids

I'm with you OP, only DD, not by choice, I've heard it too. So. Bloody irritating 😠

I am an only child, my Dad is an only child and I have an only child, DS (4).
I can't say anyone has ever really commented. Occasionally I'm asked if we're having another - answer no we're happy with one. They never say anything negative in return. I think a lot of the time people are just making conversation.
I like being an only child but then I've never known different. I can see positives and negatives to it. I have friends with large families, I sometimes feel a bit sorry for them and their DC, but can see some positives too. I guess they think the same about my family.
I do remember how lucky I am to have DS, not everyone is that lucky. Maybe if we had got and stayed pregnant easily instead of him taking 3 years we might have thought about another, but I'm not sure. If we really wanted another we could try again, but I feel done.

Yes pfb really annoys me it insinuates so many negative things. Recently had to stand in a group commenting on how hard it was to have a second. I just wanted to shout out well it can't be as hard as desperately wanting one and not being able to have one. Being begged by your "pfb" for a sibling. Shout out to all the mummies and daddies in here suffering the absolutely devasting pain of secondary infertility. It's shit, ignored by nearly everyone, apparently not deserving of any nhs help but apparently people think this is all overcome by people saying "just be grateful for the one you have" (btw those people can fuck the fuck off)

sorry to hear you OP and others have experienced ill mannered comments about your only DC.

i have an only DC and I've never had any comments like this .

who are these people making horrible comments? friends? family? schools mums?

it's no ones business how many kids we have or don't have.

I could only have one. My pregnancy messed with my liver so badly, that it would have been foolhardy to try for another.

DS is now 18, and after several years of insensitive comments after he was born, I just decided to be blunt about it.

It soon shut people up.

I also could only have one, and there are advantages! I worked with someone who couldn't have children, so that put it into perspective, and I have friends with 5, who are all now adults, but seem to boomerang home or have problems that their parents need to help with.

Both my parents were only children, but I have a sibling, and I wouldn't say we are close, though I would go to him if I were in real trouble.