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To discharge myself from this horrible, torturous place?

207 replies

MaisieJ · 31/10/2016 12:17

I am in hospital following an elective knee replacement. When I got back onto the ward the pain was pretty bad and I'd been told to buzz for painkillers so I did. auxiliary came in and said she'd let the nurse know. 30 minutes later no sign of nurse and pain is worse so I press buzzer again. Brash auxiliary came in and turned off the buzzer saying "I've already told her, constantly pressing your buzzer won't make her come any quicker!" 😲
At this point I also needed a wee but thanks to her attitude I didn't feel like I could ask her so thought I'd hold on for the nurse. 30 minutes later I'm busting to go so reluctantly pressed the buzzer. Same woman comes stomping back in 10 minutes later and snaps "is this about painkillers again?!" So I said no, I needed a bed pan. So off she strops, comes back in 10 minutes later and tries to drag me onto this horrible disgusting bedpan. Baring in mind I'd had no pain relief yet. I cried out and told her I couldn't do it so she said she'd go get help. 10 minutes later, no sign of her and I ended up pissing the bed. Mortified and I tears I tried to wipe myself best I could. Next minute she's back with another auxiliary, they fling my covers back rattling on about "getting on the bedpan" and realise my bed is soaked. The big horrible woman says loudly "you've already done it!!! Are you normally incontinent because if not, you shouldn't be incontinent in hospital either!" Basically making out that I'd done it on purpose.

Cut long story short they changed my sheets and I ended up drifting off to sleep. A while later I woke up, horrible taste in my mouth, I groggily reach for my glass of water and end up knocking it all over my bed. I called dh in tears saying my bed was wet and the auxiliaries were going to go ape at me. He insisted I press my buzzer and said he was making a complaint. I tried to clean it up myself but another patient saw and pressed her buzzer. Next minute I hear one of the auxiliaries say "she's gone and chucked water all over her bed now, well she can stay like that until I've finished with meals."

I eventually got clean sheets but I feel horrible. The auxiliaries have said stuff to the other women in the room like "when certain patients constantly demand attention it takes care away from those that genuinely need it". Now the other women in the room have started being funny with me too.
This morning I was woken up by a clattering trolley. Auxiliary said "what do you want for breakfast?". I said "I'll have a cup of coffee please" to which she rolled her eyes and snapped "im doing cereals! Not drinks! " I then heard her say to a student nurse "I swear I can't be doing with another day of her!"

What have I done???? I just want to go home whether I'm ready or not. DH is coming later so I'm considering asking him to just take me home with him. Bollocks to infection

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wannabestressfree · 03/11/2016 15:35

Such lovely stories from some people....justaboy your wife sounds like she was a lovely lady.

Fifteen years ago I feel pregnant very quickly after having my second son. I was very young and it was less than ideal circumstances. At eight months I went into labour (I had two sections previously and my waters had never broken naturally). I was at home with two very young children and waited at home too long (there was no one to look after them)

When I eventually went to hospital I was told I was a 'stupid girl' and that there was nothing 'doing'. I gave birth to my son still fully dressed and repeatedly rang the buzzer but stopped after an hour (I was bleeding out and went into shock) Eventually an older HCA came and asked me if I was ok and discovered what had happened. My son died and they had to restart my labour holding me up by my arms to deliver the placenta.....

I wish I had sued. I had a sorry by letter. I was 23.

AnUtterIdiot · 03/11/2016 15:42

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lightsandresistance · 03/11/2016 16:05

I have a massive family link to the NHS. Most of my family are nhs workers or ex workers

They have all said that nursing attracts the very best and worst of people. I know some horrendous bullies who should be kept away from people never mind patients and some amazing people.

I suppose it is like any job but unfortunately the shit one appear even worse when because you are so vulnerable.

I have had utterly shit treatment and almost lost my dc and ended up having emergency surgery because of appauling attitude and care of senior staff in labour. Resulting in the surgeon bollocking them.

I nearly lost her again at a few days old when she went blue and floppy and nothing was done until i rang a nurse i knew on another ward for help.

I have also had amazing care.

slenderisthenight · 03/11/2016 16:34

Oh I do apologise. I found the first paragraph so traumatic to read that I skimmed the last portion. I'm so sorry mait.

Flisspaps · 03/11/2016 18:53

OP, I wish you'd been on the ward I was on today.

Every single staff member I saw, from the HCA to the surgeon was magnificent. Treated me with respect and none of them could do enough for me, even when I set off my call button accidentally - twice.

I hope you've complained and are now recuperating at home FlowersChocolate

Justaboy · 03/11/2016 21:29

wannabestressfree and the others, thank you for your kind comments this was of course sometime ago now, but in those days there was a feared woman who ruled the roost called Matron! and no one liked to incur her wrath but the place was run very well and efficiently.

I'm out of touch now but can anyone here who is involved in nursing say if that lady is still around or what is the managing structure nowadays?.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 03/11/2016 21:34

You have done nothing wrong
There is clearly a very poor culture
Get through the night , get home and complain

I am so sorry op Flowers get well

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