To not have DD's best friend for a sleepover tonight?

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She's a lovely girl and she normally stays when she spends the day with us. I made it v clear when I messaged her mum with the invitation to bowling/cinema/dinner that I would be dropping her home on the way back.

Have hardly seen DH all week, DS also been away for two days and due back this evening so I really just want a night with just us. She really is a lovely girl but has quite significant medical needs - which I'm fine with and can deal with - so it's not a time to relax if you know what I mean. Her mum has just messaged me to say that she has forgotten her overnight bag and can I pick it up on my way past.

I feel a bit shit saying 'not tonight', but I'm tired, I want to have a couple of glasses of wine, relax and watch some shit telly. Am I being a horrible cow?

Never apologize, never explain.
(Wrong context, perhaps? )

Oh ok I'll cancel my night out. The cheek, she's playing you. She's presumed you'd back down as she knows fine well you weren't having her overnight, hence the oh I've forgotten her bag bollocks!

My reply would be yes please do, I'm not cancelling mine for you!

How did it go?

Reading the last post from the OP, I am wondering if she will find the girl's mum at home or not!

Oooh I wonder

Cheeky bitch! You shouldn't cancel your night in because she's cheekily put you in an awkward position. She knew you weren't having her tonight, she's being a complete chancer.

She's got a brass neck, that one.

Even if it were a genuine mistake it wasn't its very off to mention cancelling plans. That was a none-too-subtle guilt trip right there.

Would you say that there is an even give-and-take between you and this Mum with your DDs, OP?
I have a feeling you're going to say her DD comes to you more often than your DD goes to her.

Ooooh she's a bloody cheek! Hope you were in no way apologetic when you dropped her off. She's a chancer!

Majorly cheeky. Does she reciprocate these sleepovers? If not then she's taking the piss.

She's in the wrong, shouldn't be using her daughter to guilt trip you.

I hope it's reciprocated also

Yes, I'd have to check the messages back just to remind myself and the pisstaker what was originally said. I'd also not be able to resist reminding her of that fact, a sort of 'I'm on to you', something like "well as I said when we made the arrangements, this wasn't a sleepover."

OP I hope you haven't disappeared because you're hosting a sleepover

what a chancer...

Yes, you said in the op that you made it very clear in the initial invitation that it was not a sleepover. She's taking advantage of you.

I don't think the mum forgot - you can't read that text wrong.

Does she ever have your DD for sleepovers? Not that it's relevant tonight but I'm just wondering if she uses your kindness as a babysitting tool so she can have nights out.

Very rude of her to try and make you feel guilty after you've given her daughter a lovely day out.

Hope she was at home when you got there!