Last night DP and I were out celebrating his friend's birthday. Half way through the night some of the group including DP decided to go to a nearby bar while the rest of us stayed where we were.
When I got home at about 2, DP had locked me out by accident. He knew I had no keys but was so pissed he forgot.
Luckily I was able to call a friend, and ended up on the sofa for the night.
The next morning, the house was in darkness- DP didn't get up until about 11, by that point I and a neighbour were considering breaking down the door
His attitude was appalling imo. Anything could have happened to me but instead of being apologetic, he got angry and refused to speak to me until tea time, when he asked what was for dinner.
I am furious. This is the latest in a long line of things that have caused me to doubt our relationship.
He still goes out partying and drinking with the same friends he has known all his life. He drinks to the point where he cannot stand and wets himself. It's a big group and they are all marrying, getting engaged so lots of nights out. They are in their early 30s I am mid 20s
I try to talk to him about it but he gets angry and shuts off. He can't just have a couple of drinks, he has to get utterly fucked
I have to drive everywhere because I don't trust him to drive. I don't feel safe in the car with him.
Financially I think I am the higher earner but I don't actually know. He pays for the TV and half the rent. I pay everything else and the car is in my name. He always has plenty of money for things he wants though.
I do all the housework and most of the cooking. We have been living together for three years and he is yet to clean the bathroom
I would like to be more financially stable but he thinks there is no point buying a house when you can rent one. Though he is currently saving to go on am expensive gambling holiday.
Our sex life is shit, we've had sex once in two months, however he will go upstairs and masterbate loudly to porn.
I'm trying to think of good stuff, but now I have written down all of the above, it's hard to remember any. He used to be very romantic and thoughtful over gifts etc. We have had some fab holidays together.
The thing is, he is now saying he wants children. We are engaged but had decided to wait a good few years to marry and I still feel too young to have children.
Sorry that this is a long post, my friend is a regular member of mumsnet and she suggested I should post here