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AIBU?

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To hate it when men 'joke' like this.

647 replies

KindergartenKop · 17/09/2016 19:29

Maybe it's not always men but I've never experienced a woman who has done this.

So today I took DS1 to a charity shop. He picked two books at 50p each. I gave Ds a pound coin. The man at the till took the books and said, 'That's four pounds please'. Ds looked worried and the man said 'Only joking, it's one pound'. We paid and left.
I've had people say this sort of thing to me so often and it always beffuddles me and makes me feel stupid. Am I the only person who attracts this form of idiocy? Aibu to be pissed off that this man worried my son? It's not fucking funny!

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AndNowItsSeven · 17/09/2016 19:30

Yabu, he was joking.

MurphyJim · 17/09/2016 19:31

It wasn't a funny joke and I'd have told the man 'Well it wasn't very funny' when he said he was joking.

LottieDoubtie · 17/09/2016 19:31

Yanbu it's not a joke if the intention is to make the other person feel like shit. In this case a child so the person saying it was twice as much of a prat.

PissPotPourri · 17/09/2016 19:32

Good forbid people in retail try and pass their day with a bit of banter. They should know their place, there to serve.

Giratina · 17/09/2016 19:32

It's not funny but neither is it worth still being pissed off over hours later.

Crispbutty · 17/09/2016 19:32

Really cannot see a problem.. At all.

NavyandWhite · 17/09/2016 19:32

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Saucery · 17/09/2016 19:32

Teasing isn't confined to men, so YABU on that point. But it is very annoying, whoever does it. They don't know the child, they don't know how the joke will be received, they should just be kind and polite.

PissPotPourri · 17/09/2016 19:33

And for that matter, why is it OK when women do it?

Pineapplemilkshake · 17/09/2016 19:34

Oh I've always hated this too and use to cringe when on the receiving end - I know it's harmless but it is one of my pet hates!

MorrisZapp · 17/09/2016 19:36

It's irritating as fuck. I like a bit of chat and banter but pretend prices are so not funny.

SpeckledyBanana · 17/09/2016 19:36

I'm with you OP, I don't like this kind of teasing. The joke is at the expense of child, not for their benefit at all.

FIL was prone to this and we cooled contact with DS until he packed it in.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 17/09/2016 19:38

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FathomsDeep · 17/09/2016 19:38

I hate this. It's not 'banter', it's having a joke a someone else's expense. The purpose of the 'joke' was to wrongfoot a child which is a twattish thing to do. YANBU.

0hCrepe · 17/09/2016 19:41

Oh what a card.

SabineUndine · 17/09/2016 19:41

I hate this. Like a lot of so-called 'banter' it is in fact egotistical bullying, intended to put a weaker person at a disadvantage. Men do it to women, too.

DrunctioningFunk · 17/09/2016 19:42

Hmm can't say this has happened to me

Lazyafternoon · 17/09/2016 19:42

It's a bit of harmless banter.

But kids don't get jokes like that. I always get annoyed when sales staff etc try and tease or say something 'funny' that they just don't get. DS has got upset before when he's not understood a 'joke'. Like once similar thing I gave him the money to pay for something and person on the till pretended he couldn't have it! Why do that to a little kids?!

OK so not everyone is able to understand what a little kid would find funny or get upset by. But then again it's not worth getting worked up about it!

KindergartenKop · 17/09/2016 19:43

It's not funny when women do it, I've just never had a woman do this to me. It seems like the person is trying to make me feel shit or stupid. It's especially not nice when it's a four year old they're taking the piss out of.
Fwiw, I love sarcasm and I'm in no way a serious person.

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PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 17/09/2016 19:43

Mumsnet in collective sense of humour failure shocker!

CancellyMcChequeface · 17/09/2016 19:43

YANBU. It's not very funny and it was at a child's expense.

Vvlgari · 17/09/2016 19:44

It's hardly a big deal, nor is it a men thing. Move on, I say.

LemonScentedStickyBat · 17/09/2016 19:45

These people are convinced they are hilarious. They are stupid irritating fuckers.

KindergartenKop · 17/09/2016 19:48

What's funny about thinking you don't have enough money for the books when you're four? I really don't see how confusing or upsetting a person is amusing.

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deathtoheadlice · 17/09/2016 19:50

Irritating. Scoring a little point, with an audience of no one, at a four year old's expense? So hilarious. And fwiw I have a great sense of humour :)