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To hate it when men 'joke' like this.

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KindergartenKop · 17/09/2016 19:29

Maybe it's not always men but I've never experienced a woman who has done this.

So today I took DS1 to a charity shop. He picked two books at 50p each. I gave Ds a pound coin. The man at the till took the books and said, 'That's four pounds please'. Ds looked worried and the man said 'Only joking, it's one pound'. We paid and left.
I've had people say this sort of thing to me so often and it always beffuddles me and makes me feel stupid. Am I the only person who attracts this form of idiocy? Aibu to be pissed off that this man worried my son? It's not fucking funny!

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FullTimeYummy · 20/09/2016 15:04

"nauseating"

Only for delicate flowers Smile

MerchantofVenice · 20/09/2016 15:07

Come on fulltime, aren't you going to do a follow up to your earlier well-received post about rape now?

FullTimeYummy · 20/09/2016 15:09

Merchant, you mean the one you spectacularly misunderstood? Doh! That's got to be embarrassing

Read it again

Only1scoop · 20/09/2016 15:10

Arf at 'Other tough-nuts' Grin

Op had a point

The non joke was daft

Not meant in some ways it's been portrayed by other posters, of that I'm pretty sure.

NavyandWhite · 20/09/2016 15:10

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KERALA1 · 20/09/2016 15:10

Yes Merchant and don't forget the "there are worse problems in the world" brigade. Well yes but that would apply to 99.5% of all posts generally Hmm

MerchantofVenice · 20/09/2016 15:13

No, I certainly didn't misunderstand it. It was you trying to suggest that people were being hysterical about the joke and that next they would be comparing it to rape. That was it, in a nutshell, wasn't it. I guess you were going for the shock factor or something. But guess what? Some people don't like people being flippant about rape and using it to score cheap points in a discussion. Therefore I called you out in it. Didn't notice anyone applauding you?

The idea that your point was sophisticated enough for anyone to misunderstand it is actually the best joke on this thread...

FullTimeYummy · 20/09/2016 15:15

Merchant: not everybody needs applause in the way you do. Bless

MerchantofVenice · 20/09/2016 15:17

Navy I was the cashier ffs.

Slowly now... The man was trying to trick mw by feeding me a lie. An untruth. Some misinformation.

So that he could go "Gaahh! Only joking!! Got you! I fooled you! Ha ha I am hilarious."

He. Was. Trying. To. Trick. Me.

The fact that I wasn't bothered has no effect on his intention. How could it?

MerchantofVenice · 20/09/2016 15:19

Ha ha! You're still sore about the way that point fell flat, aren't you? Bet you thought that it was deas controversial.

Dead in the water, more like.

Oh, I'm sorry, am I teasing you now? Poor delicate flower.

Only1scoop · 20/09/2016 15:20

Awful

MerchantofVenice · 20/09/2016 15:22

Anyway, ladies and gents, it's been enlightening learning about how we all need to toughen up to deal with the dickheads of this world.

I'm still of the opinion that it would be preferable just to, you know, have fewer dickheads - but you carry on defending them.

I'm off to laugh at some toddlers.

FullTimeYummy · 20/09/2016 15:26

Ha ha

FullTimeYummy · 20/09/2016 15:26

Ha ha

FullTimeYummy · 20/09/2016 15:27

Ha ha

AGruffaloCrumble · 20/09/2016 15:28

Merchant Grin

Gottagetmoving · 20/09/2016 15:29

Slowly now... The man was trying to trick mw by feeding me a lie. An untruth. Some misinformation.So that he could go "Gaahh! Only joking!! Got you! I fooled you! Ha ha I am hilarious."He. Was. Trying. To. Trick. Me

Talk about paranoia!
The man was trying a light hearted joke. He was teasing you.
The posters remark about rape was to highlight how stupid some of the comments were getting over at what was worst, an attempt to tease a child.
Calling people who don't fall apart or get huffy at a bit of teasing 'tough nuts' is ridiculous.

NavyandWhite · 20/09/2016 15:32

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Mynestisfullofempty · 20/09/2016 15:33

MerchantofVenice I would've taken what the man said to you about finding the £20 note on the floor as a throwaway self-deprecating joke meaning "The only way I'd get my hands on £20 is to find one on the floor" type of thing, like "Yes, I know I've given you a £20 note, but I found it on the floor."

If I were you I would've smiled and said "Ooh, you were lucky! I wish I'd seen it first" in such a way as to make ot clear we were both joking. I'm very sensitive and even a bit prone to paranoia tbh, but even I wouldn't have interpreted it as him as you did i.e. "trying to trick me by feeding me a lie. An untruth. Some misinformation.So that he could go "Gaahh! Only joking!! Got you! I fooled you! Ha ha I am hilarious."

He was just being silly and wouldn't have expected you to give it a second's thought. Just a throwaway light-hearted daft thing to say, with no intention of tricking you or making a fool of you.
Well that's my opinion anyway.

Only1scoop · 20/09/2016 15:35

It's almost in line with

'Here's one I've just printed'

Eye roll here, but wouldn't even register.

NavyandWhite · 20/09/2016 15:37

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Gottagetmoving · 20/09/2016 15:38

Most cashiers would not remember an incident like that anyway.They deal with hundreds of people, many of whom will make remarks or 'jokes'
It obviously did bother Merchant more than she cares to admit.

Best she never gets a job in a bar.

mixety · 20/09/2016 15:39

I agree that this kind of "joke" is unfunny. And although I never thought about it, probably more likely to be made by men than women now you mention it.

There is a youngish, friendly but fairly cocky guy on the tills in my local small supermarket, always makes the same unfunny joke every time I am paying. I smile politely because I am not a dick, but it really is quite irritating after I've heard it 5 times already.

I guess there are just many types if people around with many different senses of humour....

Gottagetmoving · 20/09/2016 15:40

it's been enlightening learning about how we all need to toughen up to deal with the dickheads of this world

Only dickheads in YOUR world. Wherever that is,

Pagwatch · 20/09/2016 15:54

Of course it's a crap joke. The world is filled with people who make crap jokes and banal mindless conversation and are rude or short or overly friendly.
My job at the moment is to help my son learn to deal with these entirely predictable unexpected events.
It's hard for him but his independence and his ability to cope with minimal anxiety is to try and constantly reassure him that these things are fine, not a big deal, totally manageable.

He has to cope with companies trying to push extra items at point of sale and the whole 'do you want a bag - it might be five pence or it might be free' thing. It's the nature of dealing with humans and society.