DS emptying DD's bin?

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DS's job is to empty the bins in the house the day before rubbish collection day. He has just told me that DH said he is not to empty DD's bin as it has sanitary towels in it. They are in bloody plastic sanitary towel bags so aren't smelly and aren't going to leap out and bite him or rub blood off onto him for cripes sake!

AIBU to tell DH and DS that he can bloody well empty the bin and carry on doing so each week regardless of its contents?

Hopefully at one stage in his life he will have a wife and I can't imagine her falling for his not being able to empty the bathroom bin because it may have used sanitary (adequately covered) protection in it.

Put bin liners in every bin.

Just tie them in a knot and off you go.

If DD is okay with it I would make him carry on. Although you OH has now drawn attention to the whole thing...

Saying that when I was a teenager I wouldn't have liked my brother emptying my bin if it had sanitary towels in!

If your daughter doesn't have a problem with it and it is his set chore and as described adequately covered yanbu

I imagine your dh was trying to give your dd some privacy but it back fired. Don't you have liners in the bins?

Bin liners

And tell your Dh to grow up

Yuck, I think your DD should empty her own bin.

Yep, bin liners.

Weird that your DH would say that without speaking to you first though.

Yuck, I think your DD should empty her own bin.

Why?!

We have to recycle loo roll tubes and shampoo bottles, these are also in the bin but easily pick out able so not feasible to just use a bin liner.

I don't have an issue with touching bags with sanitary towels in and don't think DS should either, he knows DD has periods and she doesn't have an issue with him emptying her bin.

He does it for his pocket money.

Is it worth having a small recycling bin available as well and using bin liners in all other bins?

Why the yuck?

They are wrapped up?

"Why the yuck"

Because, personally, I think it's yuck that the used sanitary pads could be in a bin in the bathroom for up to a week. I would think it more hygienic for your DD to have a separate bin and empty it herself every day during her period.
But each to their own.

Items in bags fine, I'd be more worried about dirty tissues and other dirty rubbish having to put my hand in. Surely easier to whoever uses last of shampoo to bring it down and put in recycling box?

I don't think anyone should have to pick through a bathroom bin for recycling. You should have a separate one.

I don't think anyone should have to pick through a bathroom bin for recycling. You should have a separate one.

I think you need to explain to your DH that he is making out that it's "dirty" somehow to menstruate, rather than a normal physiological act. There's girls in parts of the world who aren't allowed to look at the sun when on their period, hopefully here we've moved on from that.

I think it's fair enough that your DS doesn't empty that bin... I always empty our bathroom bins prior to our cleaner coming.. I don't want her to have to empty my used sanitary towels even though they are wrapped do I understand the reluctance.

Assume you had a grown up DS who lived with you too and disposed of used condoms in the bin (wrapped).. nothing wrong with disposing of them like that in my opinion....would you make younger DS empty those too?

I don't think your ds should have to pick through the bin. Nobody should be picking through the bin, you should put the proper items in the appropriate bin. That's a disgusting thing to ask your ds to do and also I would have thought your dd would find it intrusive to have her litter picked through. I don't pick through bins ever, nor does anyone in my house.

So this isn't the bathroom bin but a bin in your dd's room?
Why doesn't she change pads on the toilet and put them in that bin? And why are empty shampoo bottles etc going in her bin, more sense to have a separate bin in the bathroom for recycle stuff.

I kind of agree with your DH, I would not have liked someone other than myself emptying my bin if it had sanpro in them. He might just be trying to save your dd from embarrassment. If however he thinks it's dirty then he is being unreasonable

Does everyone think its normal to put used san pro in a bedroom bin? Surely they should only be in the bathroom bin? How would you change a pad in a bedroom? would you not need to wipe/wash your hands?

Why are you putting recyclable items in the bin and then picking them out - it makes no sense to me? Have a separate bin for recyclable or do what we do and kick them onto the landing in the hope someone will take them downstairs

Then just have a bin liner in the bin, tie it in a knot and remove - so much easier.

Actually I can't believe no ones said this yet - mooncup?

When I was a girl I got rid of my own sanitary towels. It didn't do me any harm. I lived with my dad and my older brother and I would have died if either of them got rid of my used sanitary towels. But even if I lived with my mum I still would have been discreet and got rid of it all myself.
And before anyone bangs on, no, periods are nothing to be "ashamed" about. 🙄

Why don't you keep your recycling to one side and take down to the garage/kitchen etc as and when? It's gross for your DS to have to pick through the rubbish looking for recycling.