DS emptying DD's bin?

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DS's job is to empty the bins in the house the day before rubbish collection day. He has just told me that DH said he is not to empty DD's bin as it has sanitary towels in it. They are in bloody plastic sanitary towel bags so aren't smelly and aren't going to leap out and bite him or rub blood off onto him for cripes sake!

AIBU to tell DH and DS that he can bloody well empty the bin and carry on doing so each week regardless of its contents?

Hopefully at one stage in his life he will have a wife and I can't imagine her falling for his not being able to empty the bathroom bin because it may have used sanitary (adequately covered) protection in it.

Maybe I should get him a pair of rubber gloves and a litter picking stick?

Dont throw recyclables away in the first place.

You just make work for yourselves.

There's nothing wrong with periods it's just you wouldn't ask the cleaners for eg anywhere to pick through the sanitary bins for recycling before emptying them would you? They get collected and taken away. I wouldn't ask anyone to sort out my bloody leavings, wrapped or not.

If the kitchen bin is emptied more often wouldn't it be easier all around if she just used that one?

And I know in MN land, women are totally open with their DH and DC about periods, change their tampons in front of the children, and the husbands skip merrily down to Tescos to get the precise type of Sanpro required but I genuinely have never met a man like that in real life!

It's fine to keep periods private, it doesn't make them shameful.

why are you putting recyclables in the normal bin - how hard is it to either have 2 bins or just take it down to the recycle bin??

i wouldnt want to go through a bin i put my san pro in let alone anyone elses!?!? and i nappy bag mine!

I use re usable cloth pads, my partner will stick them in the machine and hang them up after! I'm with you, don't teach him to be squeamish because he'll probably live with a partner who has periods one day!

DD doesn't want to walk through the house with little purple bags, said that would draw attention to herself.

DS is not up for emptying 10 bins rather than the 5 if we have 2 bins in each bathroom. He said that's twice as much work!!!!

I used to empty the bathroom bin as my 'chore' when I was younger, which would contain mine and my mothers sanitary products sometimes. I didn't have a problem with that, like you say they're wrapped. But I wouldn't want to go picking through it, just get a separate bin for that then you can use a bin liner for the rest. He should just have to pull it out, tie it up and chuck. DD shouldn't have to hide her periods but i much preferred to empty my own bathroom bin.

Bloody leavings.

I'll get my smelling salts.

Not changed tampon in front of kids but have DH and DS has even purchased tampons before. He said he didn't really care one way or the other.

Right I'm put of here.

Why can't you have 2 bins in the bathroom- one for recyclables and one for waste? that way nobody has to 'pluck' anything out.

But DD is embarrassed to carry the bags through the house? But it's okay for DS to deal with it?

YABVU and quite disgusting that you tell your DS to pick through your bins. That's fucking gross! If YOU don't have a problem with it, then YOU do it. Otherwise, recyclables are kept outside of the bin. Your DD and DS could easily do their own bins. Just use liners FFS.

I'm just gobsmacked that you expect your DS to poke around bathroom bins. That is just so gross.

Yabu.

When I worked in retail the san pro bins were emptied by a specialist company which was very expensive. This is because emptying a bin of used san pro was classed as hazardous material disposal..

Expecting a teenage boy to pick through a bin containing used san pro is rank. Even if it is his sisters. Or his mothers. It's just not on.

My dd is 12. We have a bathroom bin with a liner. I empty it each day when one of us is on our period. They are well wrapped. Sometimes dp might do it. No big deal lifting a bin liner out and tying it up. But I wouldn't expect anyone male or female to sort through a bin of any description because it's a bin, it contains rubbish and it is just not necessary to do.

Why don't you give your ds a different job and ask your DH to do it.

i couldn't give a monkeys about it, i've given birth, cleaned sick, wiped poo and dealt with vile infected burns.. i've got a strong stomach.

It doesn't mean i think its ok to ask or expect someone else to have to deal with my sanpro or go picking through it for recyclables.. i'm sorry, but that IS filthy.

Then one week a month she empties her own bin?

If it comes down to picking through the rubbish then really I think it's unfair to expect someone else to pick through her sanitary waste - bagged or not.

Why don't you get one bin for recyclable stuff and leave it on the landing. It's each individual's responsibility to put their recyclable stuff in it.

I wouldn't want to poke around in my own bin to pull out recycling and there's only me and 9 year old DS (and I don't have periods). But there's dirty tissues, dirty ear buds, dirty cotton face cleaning pads. Basically it's a bin.

It's not an issue unless DD feels embarrassed by it.

I'm pretty fanatical about recycling, but there's no way I would pick through the bin to get everything out. Can't the loo rolls and shampoo bottles go straight into the recycling bin??

Then DS wouldn't need to go through the bin full of used san pro, which I agree is pretty grim

Cripes, my lovely bro was buying sanpro and painkillers for me in the 70's and would have emptied bins containing well wrapped bloody sanpro if so required - honestly can't remember what happened. What is it with you precious modern young things?

Im with your dh and ds and I say that as a woman, I would not want my dh or dc to dispose of my sanpro, why do you think its ok for your dd, to not carry HER purples bags but think its ok for your son to do so . They are her sanitary products to dispose of.

Seriously, back with the Victorians covering up piano legs. This is unbelievable in 2016!

But it's not about emptying the bin. Pulling a liner out of a bin is fuck all. It's expecting someone to rut through it first for recycling which is well shit. Nobody should have to do that no matter what the age.

its ok to empty bins with wrapped san pro - its NOT ok to root through bins to get recycling out - that is disgusting. bins have disgusting things in like used cotton buds, used tissues etc that is what is disgusting

The OP's DH is against the DS emptying the bin. The sanpro is wrapped up, what's the problem with removing loo rolls and shampoo bottles from the rest?

For the love of Little Fish.

OP is happy with the current arrangements
DD is happy with the current arrangements

DS DOING THE JOB IS HAPPY WITH THE CURRENT ARRANGEMENTS

The only one who wants it changed is the DH WHO HAS NOTHNG TO DO WITH ANY OF IT!!!

But because he's 'the man of the house' things needs to change. Do me a favour.

OP. If you're still reading, tell DS you're sorry his father is a dinosaur but your doing your best to train him up. Tell him to continue emptying DD's bin. As DS is happy with the recycling arrangements then leave them as they are, Jesus, it's only picking out a roll or bottle from a tiny bin, it's not as if you're asking him to jump in a skip to sort it out!

There's nothing wrong with bathroom bins being emptied once a week, Sanpro or not. I'm sure if they were smelly the op would do it more often. I loathe & detest the smell of period blood & can often tell when another woman is having her period & even I don't object to the bin being emptied once a week.