DS emptying DD's bin?

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DS's job is to empty the bins in the house the day before rubbish collection day. He has just told me that DH said he is not to empty DD's bin as it has sanitary towels in it. They are in bloody plastic sanitary towel bags so aren't smelly and aren't going to leap out and bite him or rub blood off onto him for cripes sake!

AIBU to tell DH and DS that he can bloody well empty the bin and carry on doing so each week regardless of its contents?

Hopefully at one stage in his life he will have a wife and I can't imagine her falling for his not being able to empty the bathroom bin because it may have used sanitary (adequately covered) protection in it.

Why is everyone pretending periods aren't dirty? They are, in the same way as poos and pee is dirty. Periods aren't shameful, but that's a different thing.

It is gross and unpleasant to ask your son to empty a bin containing days/week old blood, even worse if he's raking through for recycling! Agree with pps, DD should take responsibility to empty the bin with her sanpro herself.

Are the sanpro bags biodegradable? If not, then wrapping bloody pads in a bag and letting them rot for 1000 years is the gross bit. Leaving them in the bathroom for a week, so fucking what, that baby has a half life that won't trouble 100 generations.

You DS sounds like a sensible lad, well done you.

But the DS is being paid for doing the job and has no problem with it, it is just the DH who is being ridiculous. Jesus, there was clearly no point my burning my (large) bra in the Seventies, the equality the Feminist movement aimed to bring about is obviously being undermined by Men being Men and women accommodating it. Crap.

So your DD doesn't want to traipse downstairs and take her used sanitary protection to the garage bin because "it draws more attention to it"?

But it doesn't draw attention to it when her brother has to do this?

the husbands skip merrily down to Tescos to get the precise type of Sanpro required but I genuinely have never met a man like that in real life!

Seriously? You have never met a man who would buy tampons? Is it 1954 where you are? Are men afeard of catching a vagina off them?

When I have my period, I put my sanitary towels, wrapped in the wrappers (secured by that little sticky tab bit mine have on the wrapper) in the bin, which has a liner in and a lid. Each Friday, DH empties the bin, he lifts the bin lid, removes the liner, ties a knot in the top, brings it downstairs and puts it in the wheelie bin. He has never commented that this is gross or that I should do it myself, so I have never considered this to be an issue at all.

It seems your ds has no issue doing the bin emptying, it's only your DH. I suggest he sorts out his own issues. The only reason he would get any of his sisters bodily fluids on himself is with your recycling disposal, maybe get one recycling bin for that floor of the house and then this won't be an issue at all.

As for the pp who suggested only adults should be emptying bins, WHAT! The ops kids aren't preschoolers, of course they can empty the bins, they put their rubbish in them. And they are being paid to do their chores, I hope no one tells DH he could be being paid for Emptying the bins, I'd never hear the end of it!

We have one recycling bin in the entire house. You don't have to put a recycling bin in every room you know.

Used sanitary pads or not, I wouldn't want to pick through garbage for the recyclables.

Agree with PP that if your DD is ok with your DS emptying her bin then he should continue with it.

This is getting ridiculous now. I'm sure NOONE cares when she's having a period and nothing will happen if they saw her carrying sanitary waste.

DD doesn't have to wander through the house with little purple bags. She could simply empty the entire bin once every two days or so when she has a period and wander through the house with a bin liner or carrier bag. I don't actually think asking DS to empty her bin is terrible in any way, but I do think it's slightly gross to leave old sanitary pads in a bin for up to a week.

When I have my period, I put my sanitary towels, wrapped in the wrappers (secured by that little sticky tab bit mine have on the wrapper) in the bin, which has a liner in and a lid. Each Friday, DH empties the bin, he lifts the bin lid, removes the liner, ties a knot in the top, brings it downstairs and puts it in the wheelie bin. He has never commented that this is gross or that I should do it myself, so I have never considered this to be an issue at all

But that's what people are suggesting. Here there is no liner to tie up and the kid has to rummage amongst it all for recyclables before emptying the bin. Nobody wants to do that at any age.

Do the DC produce so much by way of recyclables that they need to go in the bin anyway? If they just put the odd empty bottle or loo roll tube in the vicinity of the bin it would save checking through it.

How much recycling can you possibly get from each bathroom?! Surely it's the occasional loo roll or shampoo bottle, and you can easily bring those down to the kitchen as needed. Or stick them in a carrier bag in the bathroom for however long it takes for there to be enough of them to need disposing of. And then put a normal bin liner in the pedal bin in each room. I don't think it's gross to leave it there for a week, if it's all wrapped and sealed. But I wouldn't want anyone to pick through a bin for stuff - that's the gross bit. I can also see why your daughter doesn't want to carry little purple bags outside every single time- that's totally different to the son taking out full bags of rubbish once a week, even if they do contain wrapped sanpro.

Just get bin liners and deal with recycling separately. For that matter, the odd squashed up toilet roll really doesn't take up much room in the bin anyway, if on the odd occasion they forgot and it ended up in the normal rubbish instead of recycling.

Seriously? You have never met a man who would buy tampons? Is it 1954 where you are? Are men afeard of catching a vagina off them?

Yea that's it

There is a difference between being ashamed of a normal bodily function and not wanting to involve the whole bloody family! I have never asked a man to buy them, as an adult I'm perfectly capable of buying my own sanpro.

I must be odd because I don't particularly want to share my bodily functions with everyone! I'm not ashamed. I just appreciate privacy. I don't want people to know when I have had a shit either.

Why would the DD have to carry the bags downstairs? Why not just use a bin liner, and then on the week she has her period, she picks out the recyclables herself and ties up the bag? Then her DS can just bring down the bag with no issue about the used towels.

We have a bathroom bin with a liner, but recyclables are just taken down separately (no issue to take down some loo roll inserts and the odd shampoo bottle every few days, surely?) I leave our bathroom bin as it is most weeks (our cleaners empty it), but when I've had a period I just make sure to tie up the bag before the cleaners come so that they don't have to encounter any used towels directly. (I don't use mini disposable bags either, just wrap in tissue and even after a few days they don't smell.)

It's not like it would be a huge thing for your DD to pick out the recyclables herself and tie up the bag the week it's her period.

I'm pretty relaxed about bodily waste, and certainly don't think periods are shameful, but I can understand other people not wanting to touch or encounter a relative's used sanitary pads, especially a teenager. I'm pretty relaxed about handling my DD's used (wet) nappies, but I wouldn't be about someone else's child's! It's reasonable not to want to handle someone else's bodily waste I think.

Wait, so her used tampons shouldn't be put in her own bathroom bin but if she carries them through the house to a bigger bin that's ok?

Or does she hike out into the woods and bury it. Or create a pyre in the back garden to incinerate it?
Does she also perform a cleansing ceremony over the spirit of the tampon?
If not, what a filthy moo.

You didn't say anything about privacy. You said you'd genuinely never met a man who would buy Sanpro and I think you must know really strange men if that's the case!

afraid of catching vagina

And of course you don't need a man to buy them but sometimes you might say 'oh, could you pop into the supermarket on the way home and get broccoli/tampax' mightn't you?

Apparently not...

Your ds isn't touching blood- your h is being ridiculous. Hasn't your h ever disposed of a nappy or wipe used when cleaning nappy?

But then I don't know any women who would ask them to particularly, surely you just pick them up when you are shopping - on here it's some kind of badge of honour that your DH/DS has to go and buy tampax every time you need them.

And if you bother to read my post, I said there was nothing shameful but it's okay to want privacy.

Most men I know aren't freaked out by periods, they just aren't that involved in their DP/DW's every bodily function.

And the OP's DD isn't happy to carry the bags through the house as it 'draws attention to it' but she's happy for her brother to have to deal with it.

To those posting about the 1950s, I'm sure there are more suitable posts if you are hard of understanding

I don't see it as a badge of honour I don't see me picking up Dh migraine prescription as a badge either.

DH gets a bit confused over all the different choices, and also the fact that our shop displays them all next to the incontinence supplies, that now he just takes a label from one of the used packets so that he gets the right one.

I throw my recycling out the window into the main recycling bin its more fun that way >off topic

abb That is awesome!