DS emptying DD's bin?

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DS's job is to empty the bins in the house the day before rubbish collection day. He has just told me that DH said he is not to empty DD's bin as it has sanitary towels in it. They are in bloody plastic sanitary towel bags so aren't smelly and aren't going to leap out and bite him or rub blood off onto him for cripes sake!

AIBU to tell DH and DS that he can bloody well empty the bin and carry on doing so each week regardless of its contents?

Hopefully at one stage in his life he will have a wife and I can't imagine her falling for his not being able to empty the bathroom bin because it may have used sanitary (adequately covered) protection in it.

He's got a problem with it whether you like it or not, if you and dd don't see it as a big deal can you swap chores? tbh I wouldn't particularly relish picking through a week old bathroom bin with wrapped sanitary towels that weren't mine either.

Seriously? I'm the only female in my house (apart from the cat) and DH AND my two sons have emptied bathroom bins with sanitary items in them. And my brother (and this was back in the 60s) emptied the bathroom bins, too. It never occurred to me what he might 'see'. Most of the time items were just well-wrapped in loo roll (no sanitary bags back in my day).

You can assure your DH that your son will not be traumatized by this and your daughter (if she has a healthy self esteem) will not care either.

Separate rubbish bins and recycling bins (just buy a cheap Recycling bin label on ebay and stick it on a bin from the pound shop)
Rubbish bin with lid (flip top / swing bin)
Bin liners.
All sanitary stuff wrapped in tissue and plastic / nappy bags.
Bins emptied daily when someone has their period.

Works here. Perfectly sanitary and anybody can empty the bins.

Why do people need to be 'discreet' about a sanitary item in a sealed plastic bag?

You're a grown woman who has given birth and has periods. No wonder you dont think it is an issue.

A teenage boy hasn't had those experiences nor had a partner who has had them. It is disgusting to ask him to do it and I am not surprised he has a problem. It likely disgusts him given his age.

If you want your DS to do this, can't you even put liners in the bins and place recyclables aside in advance.

It is not hard. I dont ever throw plastic bottles etc in any bin. I separate them before hand.

I would refuse to do it if i was him and take the punishment.

I don't think that DS should be told not to empty DD's bin, but I would line the bathroom bin and have her only use that for non-recyclable stuff. Then have a waste paper basket in her bedroom for recyclables.

I do think it's a step too far to expect anyone to go rifling through the bins separating out the recycling. I live alone and I don't expect me to do that! I have a recycling bin that's separate from the other bins.

Recycling in its own bin.

Liner in bin. DD ties liner up. Everyone takes turns at emptying.

Plucking is gross.

A seperate bin for recyclables is all that's needed and hardly a big expense to procure. Emptying a bin with bagged sanitary products is not an issue but you are unreasonable about the fishing out of loo rolls etc.
And really at all the pp with crys of disgusting, filthy etc it is normal and natural and nothing to be ashamed about.

Periods aren't dirty but I wouldn't want to deal with anyone else's bodily fluids even though I'm happy to deal with my own. Especially not a sibling. I get that he doesn't have to touch the blood but I think you should respect his wish not to touch them. And if he lives with a woman, he still has no obligation to deal with her period - what's wrong with a bit of privacy?

My son empties our bins too and they also have to be sorted for recycling. He is 19 now but has done it for years. I have always put tampons etc in the bins and I don't put them in plastic bags because plastic is terrible for the environment. They are generally wrapped in tissue paper. He wears rubber gloves and does his job. It's not the nicest job but neither is cleaning a toilet, or the sometimes smelly and disgusting kitchen bin!

I have always made periods and changing tampons everyday because I didn't want him to be one if those ridiculous men who gets funny about buying tampons! He has no issues with periods or tampons (as it should be - just a normal part of life for almost all women and nothing to be ashamed of. It's just blood for gods sake!) and I am very proud of him for that. Your husband appears to be making a big issue out of nothing that will make your son into someone who thinks periods are disgusting. I would have a BIG issue with that!

And really shock at all the pp with crys of disgusting, filthy etc it is normal and natural and nothing to be ashamed about.

Sighs.

We are women who naturally dont find it gross.

This is a teenage boy we are talking about: I meant from his perspective.

can you speak for him. If he finds it gross to pick through his sisters used sanpro, that is his prerogative.

Although the sanpro has been bagged up, unless your dd washes her hands before she ties it up, there could possibly be some bodily fluids on the outside of the bag

DSD last weekend flipped her bin open and the stink was horrendous, she's here EOW and DP hadn't thought to check it. I watched as she proudly took her bin and emptied it in the bathroom bin so that she didn't have to take it outside to the wheely bin herself.

I think some battles aren't worth picking with teenagers so I went and bought her a moon cup. She's excited and we didn't have a melodramatic meltdown

Picking through bodliy fluids? They're wrapped!

I don't think there's anything wrong with it being DS's job to do bins and I think it's ridiculous/outrageous that your husband has told him to leave your DD's - perhaps he could chalk a big X on her bedroom door when she's got her period so the house knows she's unclean?

But it's ridiculous/unpleasant to expect anyone to pick out the recycling. Get people to put it straight into the recycling bins downstairs rather than expecting your DS to sort bins. That's a horrible job and entirely unnecessary

He does it for his pocket money, along with bringing laundry baskets down each day.

DD babysits for her younger sister and has a job outside of the home so doesn't need to do chores for pocket money.

Tissues with bodily fluids on would be flushed. Only things in other bathroom buns are cotton buds or cotton pads (with antibacterial face lotion on).

Yes, DS washes his hands after his chores.

Maybe I should get him a pair of rubber gloves and a litter picking stick?

We have 5 bins throughout the house and a kitchen bin (one which has separate bits for each type of recycling).

I doubt the kids would go for bringing recycling down each day seen as they can't manage to change a fucking toilet roll! I'm not going to have them chucking stuff out of their bathrooms onto their bedroom floors or the landings as it would literally sit there leaking detritus all over the carpet until DH or I picked it up.

I don't think emptying bins weekly is grosse. (Kitchen one is done daily) Good for you if you have the time to do it each day.

DD said she'd not really want to walk down 2 flights of stairs and out into the garage each time she needs to dispose of a wrapped sanitary towel, it'll bring more attention to her apparently.

THE DS DOESNT MIND - ITS THE DH!!!!

Sounds like your husband was trying to give your daughter some privacy. How many teenage girls/ young women want their brother - or father for that matter - handling their used sanitary products?

Maybe it makes your son uncomfortable too?

You're being argumentative and causing trouble over nothing. Why can't your daughter empty the bathroom bin?

Ok they are wrapped but actually people should deal with their own sanitary items. Not because it is yuck, just because it is polite. And a teenage boy WILL find it gross.

And get a separate recycling bin.

As an aside, what is your dd's job?

Ps, I'd never expect my DP to empty the bathroom bin after I've had my period so wouldn't expect DSS to do so either. I use a mooncup but some months I get lazy on the odd day so there might be tampon wrappers and shells kicking around in the bin.

"Its just blood"

Well I think its a bit different. If I cut my finger I'll suck the blood off, If i got period blood on my finger, I would not

Yuk, get a recycling bin so no one has to pick through bins regardless of there content.

And what's wrong with picking out recyclables - a couple of loo rolls and an occasional bottle of shampoo - all of five seconds worth of work. What

Gordon Bennett you're making this hard. Just get a second bin for recyclable stuff!

Bloody hell - I am with your ds.

It might be a tad embarrassing for him, not to mention unpleasant (I would want wrapped used sanitary stuff to go straight outside, not sweat in an inside bin).

I have 2 teenage sons. They are happy to buy me tampons - we're all free and easy here - but they would not like to have to go anywhere near a used tampon, wrapped, bagged, whatever.

Right will take suggestions on board.

DS has never had an issue with it. He was just pleased he had 1 less thing to do.

DH grew up in a household that didn't say the word sex out loud, his 54 year old brother still does a poking a finger through 2 fingers made into a circle action rather than saying sex!

I feel I am saving DH and FS from growing up like that!

RTFT The son does the bins for pocket money. I agree have a separate recycling bin if son minds. But it's really husband who needs to give his head a wobble.