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To ask what your age cut off point to have a baby is?

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Mummyyummy2012 · 13/09/2016 21:32

I'm 43 and figure I am probably too old for any more children but deep down in my heart I'd love another...aibu to ask how old you think is too old?

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NickNacks · 13/09/2016 21:34

For me personally it was 30. I had my last at 29 and definitely now at 35 couldn't imagine doing it again.

However I generally think if your body can still do it- go for it!

AnneGables · 13/09/2016 21:35

41 ish probably. I think it's dependant on circumstances and health.

WinterIsHereJon · 13/09/2016 21:36

For me, 30. But then I had my first quite young so felt I seemed to miss out on the travelling etc that lots of my friends did. I look forward to ticking some things off the bucket list when DCs are older! Also, DP is 10 years older than me so that's a consideration too!

balletcats · 13/09/2016 21:36

Probably 42.

Oysterbabe · 13/09/2016 21:36

Had my first at 35. I'd like a second before I'm 40. If I get to 40 and haven't had one I reserve the right to revise that.

sentia · 13/09/2016 21:36

I would probably be ok with having a baby up to my early 40s. I'm about to have DD2 and I'm 39. It's harder this time but that may be due to DD1!

Figgygal · 13/09/2016 21:37

For me It's different for everyone dependent on their circumstances, age of partner, ages of other children etc

I'm 35 pg with number 2 and wouldn't want to do it again/any later than this

WinterIsHereJon · 13/09/2016 21:37

I should say I had my youngest at 24 and haven't reached cut off age yet and am v broody

balletcats · 13/09/2016 21:37

I always thought you were a wee slip of a girl Oyster :) I don't know why! I picture you as a tall, slender 25 year old blonde. Anyway ...

Sparklesilverglitter · 13/09/2016 21:37

I'm 39 and just had my first, so I'd say mid 40's

StripeyMonkey1 · 13/09/2016 21:37

I think if you are fit and healthy and want another baby then go for it!

Cherry321 · 13/09/2016 21:37

Depends how you feel. Im early 40s and would love another.

MrsBungle · 13/09/2016 21:37

I think it depends when you start! I had my first at 31 and now, at 38, I feel like I'm done however some of my friends had their firsts later and are ready for number 2 and more.

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Mummyyummy2012 · 13/09/2016 21:38

Yea, I had my first at 34 and second at 38- reckon I'm having a last broody post- menopause mad moment!!

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DeadGood · 13/09/2016 21:39

"I had my last at 29 and definitely now at 35 couldn't imagine doing it again."

Comments like these make me feel weird - would pregnancy and childrearing have been a breeze if I'd had mine 10 years younger?

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Mummyyummy2012 · 13/09/2016 21:39

I mean pre- menopause Grin

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Oysterbabe · 13/09/2016 21:39

I wish ballet ! I am blonde though :)

DeadGood · 13/09/2016 21:39

(genuine question)

Spiderpigspiderpig · 13/09/2016 21:39

I'm 32 and done. Couldn't imagine having any more. 1st at 26, 2nd at 30.

backtowork2015 · 13/09/2016 21:40

40 for me. I have 2 and I would be very concerned about the increased risk of disability and how that would impact on my existing family. If I'd started younger I'd have liked a third.

Oly5 · 13/09/2016 21:40

Trying for third aged 40!

Sparrowlegs248 · 13/09/2016 21:40

I had ds at 38 and will.be having dc2 at 39.....

dalmatianmad · 13/09/2016 21:40

I've always had 40 to be the final age for me, having recently turned 40 I still stick by that and couldn't/wouldn't have another, I just think it's far too risky now.....

Spiderpigspiderpig · 13/09/2016 21:40

No idea deadgood for me it's because I already have 2
I couldn't imagine ever doing it again. Not because it was hard, just because I'm done.

CakeNinja · 13/09/2016 21:41

For me, it was about 28 when I realised there was no way I was going to have any more children. But I had my youngest at 19 and 2 more in my 20's so started young and don't want to have babies over decades.
Personally, my body really felt it the third time even though it had been about 4/5 years since my last pregnancy.
I felt old doing it, had horrific SPD that still hasn't gone away 5 years down the line (much better but still not gone), and generally it has really taken its toll on me.
I look around at people having babies in their 30's and think they're crazy!
That's completely personal, I know lots of people will think I've been crazy to have mine young and that's fine too, this isn't in any way a dig at anyone who has kids later in life for whatever reason, just that it's not for me.