should I of phrased this differently?

[lordsteatime]

Dear daughter 18 is going a club tonight with friends and she showed me her outfit.
i said 'its great, but use some tit tape or you might accidentally breastfeed someone'

there was a brief pause and then my neighbours may of heard a rather loud angry scream.

After a thump up the stairs and loud grumbling daughter returned with out fit adjusted.

She still hates me.

I think yes, you should have

It's certainly an odd turn of phrase

No, not phrased it differently. You should not have been such a crude asshat at all.

Yes. You should have.

Comes over as a bit crude and not what I'd expect from a parent TBH.

What you said was just nasty. And a bit thick.

Well I'd think that was a pretty vulgar comment, but maybe that's what you were going for? If not, you should have phrased it differently.

Umm... What? You said that? I'd be pretty pissed off too!

What an odd thing to say.

Recommending some tap is one thing but the breast feeding comment is just weird.

Yes it Was rather rude, surely you could of worded it better

I wouldn't talk to anyone in such a crude way, especially not my daughter. Did you REALLY say that?

Yes very crude and abrupt. There are about a thousand gentle ways to tell her she needs to be careful of filling out without being crude or rude.

Yes you should have and you should also have phrased the title of this post differently.

It depends on how you normally talk to each other. We're all rude so that would be quite normal in this house.

Rude, crude, vulgar. What a horrible way to speak to anybody let alone an 18 year old. YABVU and should indeed have phrased it better.

Should I have. HAVE. HAVE

NOT "of".

YABVU.

Did you really talk to your daughter like that?

This ^^

Also, no you shouldn't have said that.

Rather crude, and not the way a mother should speak to her daughter.

Vulgar and unpleasant.

we quite frank and blunt at times, but honest. and yes the outfit did need adjustment.

a gentle way of explaining ? let me see

oh, darling are you sure your breasts wont fall out when you start dancing?

or, is might be a cold night out dear, you might get a chill?

is that what you mean? after all this is a woman , a young adult woman.

'Darling, please go change.'

and yes 'iwasjustabouttosaythat' thank you, I should of said ' have'

"It's a bit low- you need some tit tape"

I think all was required was either

"you'll catch your death of cold in that....!"
or
"don't expect me to explain to your grandparents why the daily mail are going to have your photo headlining their latest Laddette item!"

Yes, you should have.

Do you really need to ask?