should I of phrased this differently?

[lordsteatime]

Dear daughter 18 is going a club tonight with friends and she showed me her outfit.
i said 'its great, but use some tit tape or you might accidentally breastfeed someone'

there was a brief pause and then my neighbours may of heard a rather loud angry scream.

After a thump up the stairs and loud grumbling daughter returned with out fit adjusted.

She still hates me.

I really don't see what you said as being wrong. I'm 23 and if my mum said that to me i would have just laughed and said point taken, Don't think its crude unless your up your own butt, but that's just me : )

It made me laugh

I am sure you can legally breastfeed anywhere you choose.

You'll have your work cut out for you if you're not producing milk though.

There is the possibility that this is how the OP speaks and writes all the time. There is also the possibility that a certain level of grammatical ignorance combined with an uncouth and crude way of saying things is designed to provoke a certain kind of response (plenty of which is being given here!) How are we to know? I'm not going to speculate, but I will give a little shudder. I wouldn't speak to my daughter like that - I would certainly have given her a few tips on how to make sure her outfit was secure but in a more gentle way.

YABU

She's 18. Maybe a bit too young for this type of frankness. Darcy said it would make her laugh but she's 23. Your DD isn't really completely an adult yet.

I mean YWBU

OP:
Yes, you should HAVE. Or better still, you should not have said something so nasty and crude, at all.

I think you're just looking for more people to show how funny and clever you are. But it wasn't funny. Quite the opposite.

This thread is really making me laugh

"There is also the possibility that a certain level of grammatical ignorance combined with an uncouth and crude way of saying things is designed to provoke a certain kind of response..."

Oh yeah. That too.

should have would have could have

Comment itself was funny. No different to you might take someone's eye out or you're nearly wearing that dress. But if she didn't want your opinion she shouldn't have asked you for it.

Yes you were in the wrong,it's really not a nice thing to say to your own child,but your replies show that you don't really care what anyone thinks including your own daughter!

ah bless. the world is filled with such gentle kindly worded mothers.

Who have not even grasped the fact that perhaps this daughters outfit was extreme to say the least. Or are mothers never shocked by their children on occasion?

Mumsnet the home of the perfect ideal of motherhood indeed!

That's weird and disgusting.

Someone is taking the Michael. The "should of" thing is soooooooo blatant.

"I should of said ' have' "

Doesn't that just take the biscuit? grin

This thread can't possibly be serious.

Can it?

i73.photobucket.com/albums/i201/shadeabby/bad-fishing-hole.gif

I don't think I have ever bought 'tit' tape. I'm hoping it's not the norm now. Is it instead of a bra or as well as?

I suppose my surprise was not your colourful language but the assumption that your dd had 'tit' tape.

AIBU

Yes

No I am not - here's 10000 different sarcy responses to prove it

why bother asking if YWBU when you don't think you where?

Well, I laughed but I can also see why your daughter kicked off. You need to know your audience for a joke like that and you obviously didn't.

At 18 I would have cringed at my mum planting the image of some 18 year old stranger sucking on my breasts, in my mind

At my age now I would probably laugh, but I'm not 18

I'm sure posters have fully understood that your daughter's outfit was revealing.

Still since you evidently think your comment was perfectly reasonable I don't see why you started the thread - unless you think you're more comical than you are.

OP what would you like us to say?

GF