should I of phrased this differently?

[lordsteatime]

Dear daughter 18 is going a club tonight with friends and she showed me her outfit.
i said 'its great, but use some tit tape or you might accidentally breastfeed someone'

there was a brief pause and then my neighbours may of heard a rather loud angry scream.

After a thump up the stairs and loud grumbling daughter returned with out fit adjusted.

She still hates me.

I don't know I don't think it sounds that bad, but she obviously didn't like it so best to apologize and think before you speak next time.
My language is quite umm, uncouth? At times and I do say things in a jokey way to DC, they laugh but if they objected I'd change my language/turn of phrase accordingly. I have explained to them swearing etc, that it's not about how you feel about the words you use it's the effect they have on your audience and you need to be considerate of that.

You saying that to your daughter has really given me the creeps. Perhaps because I'm currently breastfeeding. So if my boob is out I'm in danger of accidentally breastfeeding someone? Actually I think it's the undertones that she would be in some way complicit because of the way she is dressed to be touched in appropriately but I maybe reading too much into it.

Either way. No way to speak to your daughter.

Rough as bejasus.

Why do you ask whether YABU if you already "know" you're not?

In my humble opinion, you could do much better both in your oral and written use of your own language.

How about: Maybe put some tape on the top of your dress, just in case.

Should HAVE.
Yes, you really should HAVE phrased it differently.

Oh, for crying out loud, have a sense of humour, people! They're both adults and it was quite funny.

YANBU

(You are, however, being unreasonable to say "should of" shudders rather that "should have")

No, you should have said have

I don't see what would have been difficult about pointing out that it was a bit revealing and she could fall out of it without being so crude. I certainly think the breast feeding reference was unnecessary.

yes agree my written language is dreadful.

breasts are made for breastfeeding. what so wrong about that?

Yes.

Should have not should of.

May have not may of.

I can't see past that to think about the comment yet.

Yes you should HAVE.

It's definitely the reference to breastfeeding that is vile...
Maybe you don't speak formally to each other and that's fine, but "I like the outfit but your boobs will fall out unless you tape" would have been fine.

well I laughed

I think my daughter would find that pretty funny

Breasts are there to beastfeed infants. Not people in nightclubs. That's why your comment was crude.

And the implication that you could accidentally breastfeed someone just because your breasts are visible.
Even the people who say you should breastfeed in public don't say "I'm scared I might accidentally get breastfed".

Do you need a biology lesson OP? Unless your daughter is post party's, it's pretty unlikely she's lactating isn't it?

How are non-lactating breasts going to 'breastfeed' anyone? Why would a visible breast be something you'd feed on? You're being creepy, goady and weird.

"we quite frank and blunt at times, but honest"

In which case, you really should not mind me saying that you come across as vulgar, ignorant, rude and thick.

Enjoy the honesty!

Shouldn't* breastfeed in public

*post partum obvs

I am sure you can legally breastfeed anywhere you choose.

You clearly don't think you we're being unreasonable so what's the point of this thread?

Grammatical error tut tut, comment to daughter funny; unless you are usually very prim and proper surely your daughter is used to such a turn of phrase. My daughter would be mock appalled and would love to have norks big enough to need restraining. Sense of humour fail by most posters.

You can't legally bring a baby into a nightclub, so no.