should I of phrased this differently?

[lordsteatime]

Dear daughter 18 is going a club tonight with friends and she showed me her outfit.
i said 'its great, but use some tit tape or you might accidentally breastfeed someone'

there was a brief pause and then my neighbours may of heard a rather loud angry scream.

After a thump up the stairs and loud grumbling daughter returned with out fit adjusted.

She still hates me.

'Decency' is having a go at spelling is it? An opinion is telling the OP your thoughts on what she said. Snobbery is being a twat about one word in the post.
Weird...

Not sure what was weird and no idea where it came from sorry

Ok thank you.like I said I have some but no idea what to do with it. I'd assumed you used it instead of wearing a brange somehow and couldn't see how it provided any support :)

I have a very crude sense of humour, however I don't think that was funny.
It's not so much that it was inappropriate, simply not funny.

The fact that she screamed mean that she didn't find it funny either really.

Pearls of wisdom from Derek's mum..
Always have some nipple daisies and tit tape in, you never know when you'll need it.
Sorry but that really made me laugh

That's horrible

No, I think it's fine. If this is how you speak in your family ( we do) then I don't see the issue. Personally I think it's hilarious and is the type of thing I would say to mine

It depends how much vulgarity features in your family's humour and how much your DD joins in with that.

Nobody in my family would have batted an eyelid at it. In fact, in our family the angry scream would have been a far bigger thing.

I thought it was to tape up your boobs too, didn't realise it was to tape garments up.

It sounds like something my mum would say.

So yes, YABU. It's vulgar.

I laughed at it. It's the kind of thing me and my friends would say to each other but I think if it came from my mum I'd be upset cos we don't normally speak that way. Though if I was worried about my outfit I might be upset and need more tact...
However it's a step ahead from my mum who once stormed out the room after seeing what I was going to wear out and screamed to my dad that I looked like a fat hussy. Something I'll never forget and ruined my night.

My DD is 14 so I don't need to worry just yet.

I'd maybe tell her to 'put your baps away' rather than the breastfeeding comment but meh you know your daughter.
I did see a very well endowed young woman in a queue , her bra was struggling and she had definite NipSlip.
Thing is , she 100% knew, she kept pulling and adjusting (she could've just done her cardi up for decency and sweated a bit though) so no point telling her . Though the cashiers and everyone else in the queue was thinking "FFS love Put Them Away"

DD will say things like "A bit Camel" (as in CamelToe)

This post gave MagnumAddicts the creeps. If OP were to apologise for starting a thread that some people have found offensive I'd be less inclined to think this is just deliberate goading. OP got answers s/he didn't like then proceeded to criticise MN. Doesn't come across as genuinely asking for MN-etters' opinions.

I'm not bf-ing and it gave me the creeps too.

I'm taken aback that anyone is offended by a slightly clumsily worded thread about tit tape.

The breast feeding joke may have annoyed the daughter but I don't see how anyone reading this could be upset or insulted.

I don't think people are so much upset or insulted as creeped out. Especially if you've recently had a baby and are bf-ing. It's the thought of bf-ing adults. Who are strangers. Yeeuch.

Well I suppose that sort of thing does go on but yes I suppose the mental image is a bit bleurgh.

I hate breasts being called Tits. It's a throw back to the 1960s and 70s when comedians thought jokes about breasts were hilarious.

Really? My mum told me that she was in hospital in the 60s after giving birth to me, her third baby, when a first time mum was crying about not being able to get her baby to latch on. None of the nurses would help and the mum and her baby were distraught.

My mum said she'd show her how but warned: 'I'll have to touch your titty to do it, love. Is that all right?' The mum and baby learned. That story still makes me smile and cry.

She would not have called them breasts. She thought that was rude. She used to talk about her chests.

Also, it seems odd for a mum - who might have bf her now adult DD to say that to her daughter. There's much more to bf-ing than getting your boobs out.

I hate 'tits' (and 'titty') too. It sounds really coarse to me and I've never said it. I can't see what's rude about 'breasts'. It's what they are.

You may think the OP is a troll. If so, report to MNHQ. They may delete or they may not.

Meanwhile you can choose to ignore the thread or to take it into other directions that you find more interesting. I happen to find funny stories about tit tape mishaps or more serious stories about what our mothers and grandmothers called their titties, breasts, chests, bosoms equally interesting.

I can't see what's rude about 'breasts'. It's what they are.

You don't think there's anything wrong with it now but women did.

I love that story of your mum limited.

I hate 'tits' (and 'titty') too. It sounds really coarse to me and I've never said it.

Maybe you haven't Mynest but in how is it coarse in the way my mother used it with a frightened first time mother in the next bed? Titty is not a word that I would use but in that context it strikes me as compassionate. Of course, you could always refuse the help offered by the coarse woman and suffer engorged breasts and a starving baby.

Restingface Correct. She's not fussed about upsetting her and she's 18 so not a kid but I do think it was an awful thing to say.

I didn't say a kid. I said her kid. And her daughter will be her kid when she's 60.