I'm your daddy

[Boundaries]

I have n/c for this.

AIBU to think that an adult man saying "I'm your daddy/who's your daddy/tell my I'm your daddy" during sex is just downright weird?

yes it is very off putting

It's was a power thing nothing to do with incest

LTB

Boundaries sorry to hear that this happened how it did and hope he will respect your decision by text. If not, make sure he knows you are not interested.

Pinkerbell you are hilarious!!

BlueFolly -At least you didn't waste loads of time getting to know him

iloveeverykindofcat - You know when I said above I wasn't judging anyone's kink? - I take it back

You lot are cracking me up! 😁

Boundaries I think a lot of people see the comment as a 'Whose the best?' I've heard it used loads when someone has done something they think is really great (not in bed, just in general) so it's quite possible that he just meant 'Aren't I great?!' Rather than anything 'creepy' - but it's still a 'binning' offence 😁 Anyway, frankly, he's surpassed that by not being able to understand your text. I couldn't go out with someone that stupid.

As for 'consent'. Several posters are well over the top. Both of them got a bit drunk & had sex, he hardly took advantage of her. I'd be well pissed off if some bloke told me I couldn't have sex with him now because hours ago I said I wasn't going to!

This thread's making me larf, sorry OP.

May I introduce you to the sweet six year old StephonKnee who does the Mommy Daddy lifestyle thing

gawd

I heard this used in an episode of How I met your mother once, the married bloke (Marshall?) said it to his wife Lily and she went all coy on him. Pretty sure they weren't promoting age play.

Just heard this on 'Drama channel'....

"Father Brown when it comes to sleuthing, he's the daddy"

I think we use the phrase 'the mother of all storms' etc.... to mean a big storm.

But when something is said during sex it does make it hard to distinguish the real meaning behind phrases!

Ewww......just weird

I think I'm under dressed, I'm not wearing my judgy pants

The US phrase is "Who's your daddy now?" It has nothing to do with sex/roleplaying/ or anything. It just means the person you are talking to thought they were top dog but you just showed them. Best shown in Mr and Mrs Smith (the movie) where Angelina Jolie says to Brad Pitt "who's your daddy now"

As a phrase it is a bit like the Boston one of "how about them apples" after you serve something up to an opponent. See Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting.

OP, you are so so well out of this one!

God are people really this naive?

It's not really my cup of tea (and I know plenty of others for whom this is also the case) but to be unfamiliar with the concept and/or consider it latent attraction to a parent or a child?

From what I understand (having tried it out before deciding it wasn't for me, and know a lot of folk on the kink scene) if it isn't solely a power thing, then it's the notion of the relationship with the actual sexual partner being incestuous (or faintly incestuous) that's the turn on (by virtue of the wrongness of it) - nothing to do with anyone's actual parents!

I can absolutely see why some would find it gross. But surely the idea of things - rightly, wrongly or otherwise - having erotic effect because they're bloody wrong cannot be a befuddling concept? It has many worrying implications but it's also a very widespread ingredient in human sexuality.

Sorry that wasn't very gracefully worded, didn't mean to be passive aggressive.

I once had a boyfriend who once started pretending I was his mother & referring to himself as "Blue Boy", while fluttering his eyelashes & sort of treading up and down as if he needed a wee - I clamped down on that immediately!

To be fair he had had a difficult upbringing, mother left to be with a woman, father was a bit of a git, but really!

"But surely the idea of things - rightly, wrongly or otherwise - having erotic effect because they're bloody wrong cannot be a befuddling concept? It has many worrying implications but it's also a very widespread ingredient in human sexuality."

I wouldn't argue with that but I'd want to question that further. Human sexuality has by definition, been shaped by patriarchy. There is no reason why "naughtiness" is per se an essential ingredient in human sexuality, our sexuality is culturally constructed and influenced, just like everything else about us. Why under patriarchy, is the idea that sex needs to be transgressive in order to be fun, so widespread and persistent?

Sorry if that's a derail.

It's was a power thing nothing to do with incest

But incest is about power. That's part of why it is so disgusting. I would even say it is the main reason why incest is disgusting. If two siblings who never met before fall in love, that's a tragedy. If a man sexually abuses his adoptive daughter, it's a disgusting, horrible crime.

I don't much care whether a man who does this "I'm your daddy" thing wants to fuck his actual daughter, or just wants to fuck a woman he has as much power over as he would have or has over his actual daughter. It is both disgusting.

And for those saying that it's just an "I'm the best" phrase ...every normal person is disgusted by any mentions of terms for relatives during sex.

And also, "I'm the bestest" is just not something a man should say during sex. Even if he manages to phrase it without the word "daddy", it's a turn off.

Also agree with AskBasil, we should question this whole idea that sex needs to be transgressive.

of course incest is about power but at times sexual play is about power too and between consenting adults there is nothing wrong with that

rape is about power too

Rape sexual fantasy is common it's not about rape as such it's about someone finding you so irresitable that they can't help themselves

I had a FWB thing going with a Spanish bloke for a while some years ago.

He used to call me 'mami' during sex. Incredibly off-putting.

The term sugar daddy is sexual

It's nothing to do with incest it's to do with an older rich man having a younger lover/partner it's an ego trip for him and she might be happy being spoilt and they might have great sex together

It's just a term that's caught on

Why did George Michael sing about being a Father Figure

Some men like women and men who they can look after and no doubt for some it's about control some women/men like to be in that role

Nothing is "just a term". There's a reason the term gets taken up. It doesn't just drop from the sky, devoid of any resonance or meaning.

And that reason is what all these men are having sexual thoughts about their daughters

Heavenly pregnant and he should have been working from home whilst waiting for a workman. I get home and he had clearly been on his side of the bed with tissues. I have comfronted him and he says he felt H...

I asked him why he didn't ask me to come home, he says he didn't think of it. It's the first time I have caught him, he insists he is not using porn or having an affair. I feel a man over 35 should be satisfied with being with his partner and ask for more if he is not getting enough. Not skiving and wanking himself. He says I am reading too much into it, it's like a normal bodily function and does not mean he has stopped fancing me.

AIBU?