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Original poster

I'm your daddy

209 replies

Boundaries · 29/08/2016 14:50

I have n/c for this.

AIBU to think that an adult man saying "I'm your daddy/who's your daddy/tell my I'm your daddy" during sex is just downright weird?

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MitzyLeFrouf · 29/08/2016 16:43

BWT, you all live in massive country piles with servants and do nothing but wear tiaras and drink tea all day, right?

Yes. Well, aside from the oiks who make the tea and scrub the country pile.

legotits · 29/08/2016 16:47

Ray Winston

I can only think of scum.

JustAnotherPoster00 · 29/08/2016 16:49

It's a BDSM term used in DD/lg relationships, wouldnt normally be used with a vanilla, a bit too much wine caused him to be more vocal than even he probably expected id have thought

Muddlewitch · 29/08/2016 16:49

I think that was a good response op, I would feel the same.

OnionKnight · 29/08/2016 16:56

That's just so disturbing.

Yup, hence me bailing out of our arrangement.

ClopySow · 29/08/2016 16:57

It's not disgusting or sick, but pretty inappropriate if not agreed by both people.

Arfarfanarf · 29/08/2016 17:02

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TheoGB · 29/08/2016 17:20

This is absolutely disgusting.

I can't believe anyone - anyone - would get Saved By The Bell so wrong as to describe AC and Kelly as the "alpha couple". So much wrong with that!!

goddessoftheharvest · 29/08/2016 17:30

So I just Googled ageplay because of this thread, and came across a few tumblrs.....

HOLY. SHIT

I don't know where to start

They're getting off on 19 year olds wearing Sophia the First knickers?

I'm not usually judgy of what consenting adults do in the bedroom, but that's not exactly healthy or normal is it?

Original poster
Boundaries · 29/08/2016 17:35

"Oh. But why don't you want there to be a next time"

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Velvetdarkness · 29/08/2016 17:38

"I don't think we're sexually compatible" should answer that surely?

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Boundaries · 29/08/2016 17:42

I have just answered saying more or less that, Velvet. But in small words, because he seems to not be getting it.

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Fayaa · 29/08/2016 17:43

I feel the same about being called "baby" AngryEnvyConfused bleugghhh.

SerendipitousFoxley · 29/08/2016 17:48

Slater was Latino wasn't he, so it wasn't "mummy/mommy" it would have been "mami" or maybe "mamacita" which is a bit different although the origins are the same.

I used to have an acquaintance who was in a relationship with the "daddy/little girl" dynamic. I personally don't have an issue with dom/sub relationships but this was weird, it basically seemed like an excuse for him to abuse her. It wasn't just rough sex, she was basically his slave. They had kids too so they would have witnessed her calling him Daddy and being punished and all of it.

HerRoyalFattyness · 29/08/2016 17:48

Oh dear. Confused It's very strange. I hope he takes the hint soon OP.

AgnesNitt1976 · 29/08/2016 17:53

To me as a submissive the term "Daddy" is not disgusting or abnormal but can understand how others may feel about it.

I can say that it in no way refers to a father/daughter relationship in the BDSM community

Original poster
Boundaries · 29/08/2016 17:56

But the BDSM community are well known for being extremely respectful and having discussions prior to playing. Not just dropping the D-bomb on a slightly pissed fanjo.

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AgnesNitt1976 · 29/08/2016 18:00

I completely agree Boundaries discussions and consent are paramount

Sunshineonacloudyday · 29/08/2016 18:13

Thats funny.Grin

GhettoFabulous · 29/08/2016 18:17

Even in the bdsm world, ageplay is pretty niche. There's someone on the sex thread saying a casual partner choked her without prior consent - that she's into it is neither her nor there. Even during vanilla sex with a new partner I'd have a conversation beforehand as I don't do some sex acts others may take for granted. If you want to do anything kinky at all you need consent and if your consent has been violated you stop everything.

Original poster
Boundaries · 29/08/2016 18:21

You are spot on, Ghetto.

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Lovecat · 29/08/2016 22:15

I've only ever read this in Maya Angelou's autobiography - where she was going out with a guy who was trying to pimp her and all the girls called their pimps 'daddy' - it gave me the creeps then, and if anyone said 'who's your daddy?' to me now it would make me run screaming into the night...

RuggerHug · 30/08/2016 08:21

TheoGB same. I was horrified. It was Slater and JESSIE!!!!! as you all were...

LittleLionMansMummy · 30/08/2016 08:31

I always feel very naive reading these threads. I don't think I've been particularly sheltered and maybe just haven't been looking for the information.

The term the op refers to churns my stomach - whether agreed to by prior arrangement by consenting adults or not! That probably makes me sound very conservative and prudish. If dh said it to me I'd be questioning everything about him tbh.

pigsDOfly · 30/08/2016 12:37

TheoGB Were they not considered the top couple in the school? I thought they were. Quite happy to be wrong though.

It was a long time ago and tbh I wasn't that invested in it, I just remember it from watching it with my DC and it struck me odd at the time the way he referred to her.