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I'm your daddy

209 replies

Boundaries · 29/08/2016 14:50

I have n/c for this.

AIBU to think that an adult man saying "I'm your daddy/who's your daddy/tell my I'm your daddy" during sex is just downright weird?

Blush Sad Hmm

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UnderseaPineapple · 29/08/2016 15:42

In an episode of Frasier (I cannot remember which one), he has come home after dropping his son back to Lilith (his ex) and announces to his brother, dad and housekeeper "It's time to get out of Daddy clothes and into Who's your Daddy clothes!"

It fucking creeped me right out and could never watch the programme in the same light again.

pigsDOfly · 29/08/2016 15:46

Pinky No, it wasn't Screech, he was the school nerd and I pretty certain nevery had a gf.

No this was the alpha couple of the school. He was called A.C. Slater apparently (just googled it, how sad am I) and she was Called Kelly. She was very beautiful and he was the school stud.

GhettoFabulous · 29/08/2016 15:50

I'm a ageplayer. My partner is Daddy (I'm not a sub) and I have occasional lovers who are littles.

The most surprising thing to me is the number of otherwise vanilla men who, when I told them to call me Mummy, found it bizarrely erotic.

Dirty bastards.

CakeNinja · 29/08/2016 15:54

I had a ONS with a bloke who, mid performance, shouted out, "who am I." To which I responded, "erm, Stuart..." And he actually stopped what he was doing and looked properly miffed and said "no, you're supposed to call me daddy." I did not see him again.
Awkward!

PepsiPenguin · 29/08/2016 15:56

I know what "baby daddy" refers too Smile just another term that makes me want to vomit.

It's just all so wrong!

But my main thought is men who use it maybe think it's some sort of "grrr I'm a stud, look at me go" I also imagine followed by a slap on the arse and promptly falling asleep

I'm getting very disturbed now

PepsiPenguin · 29/08/2016 15:58

Cake that's hillarious

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Boundaries · 29/08/2016 15:58

He has just texted to say he is looking forward to "next time" Confused

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PepsiPenguin · 29/08/2016 16:02

Oh noes... What are you going to do?

Was he all right otherwise?

MitzyLeFrouf · 29/08/2016 16:02

So did you call him Daddy OP?

Buzzardbird · 29/08/2016 16:03

OK Ghetto, I'll ask, what's an 'ageplayer'?

Buzzardbird · 29/08/2016 16:04

I God, I Googled. :/

PepsiPenguin · 29/08/2016 16:06

I have things to do, but am very much over invested in this thread :)

Boundaries, if this is the only thing he has done wrong, he may be worth the effort to see again. But you will have to tell him, because you can't be having this crazy business going on.

LottieDoubtie · 29/08/2016 16:07

Yep we have to know the full story OP, come on you've got this far!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 29/08/2016 16:08

It's fucking perverted and sick. I don't know about weird

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Boundaries · 29/08/2016 16:12

Mitzy no I did not!

He was ok. We had a fun day. There was a lot some wine. I said I was not going to have sex. He said fine. Then my resolve got weakened by cocktails and one thing led to another and before I knew it he was "my daddy"

I really should have maintained my position of not having sex.

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Cocklodger · 29/08/2016 16:14

If mutually agreed upon then fine by me (for others) however not my thing at all.
But random outburst. Yanbu. And I'd Chuck a man out the door for doing it and have

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Boundaries · 29/08/2016 16:17

I have texted him back and said:

"Hello, I had a fun day and liked hanging out with you. However, I don't think there'll be a "next time" - I should have stuck to my guns and not had sex, I'm sorry to have led you on. It particularly did not work for me when you said the Daddy thing a couple of times it's really not my bag."

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Charlesroi · 29/08/2016 16:21

Pinkerbeller Absolutely. It'd be like the Sahara up there.

OnionKnight · 29/08/2016 16:21

It's not my thing either, it's very weird.

One of my fuck buddies (this is going back a while) had a pair of knickers with Daddy's little slut' printed on the back Shock Needless to say, it fizzled out.

quencher · 29/08/2016 16:27

This has always made me laugh. It's a scene from the movie "couples retreat"

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OboWWWW2P4I

Grin

It's an American thing.

Birdsgottafly · 29/08/2016 16:30

I think it's more concerning that a Woman would carry on drinking to the point that she'd consent to sex, (although that's dodgy), when she'd already made up her mind, when sober, that sex wasn't on the agenda.

Usually if you've got any fetishes, the suggestion is that you wait until the third time and then bring them up, so he's wrong for the quickness he's done that in.

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Boundaries · 29/08/2016 16:37

Thanks Birds I've already ticked myself off about that.

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AcrossthePond55 · 29/08/2016 16:38

Never at any time has DH ever referred to himself as 'Daddy' during sex. Neither did my ex nor any sex partner. I don't think it's an 'American' thing, other than if you believe that American cinema is a true representation of American life.

(BWT, you all live in massive country piles with servants and do nothing but wear tiaras and drink tea all day, right?)

MitzyLeFrouf · 29/08/2016 16:39

One of my fuck buddies (this is going back a while) had a pair of knickers with Daddy's little slut' printed on the back

That's just so disturbing.

PinkyOfPie · 29/08/2016 16:43

Do let us know what he says OP!