14 years working in a dept and not even a cheap bunch of flowers

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Massively outing myself here but....

I have just left a department that I worked in for 14 years and wasn't even given a cheap bunch of flowers. 14 years!!!

I've contributed to many peoples leaving presents and I didn't even get a card from the department either. I did get a card from the team I worked with last night but nothing from the whole department.

Its made me feel very sad and upset when I know I shouldn't let it get to me and YES, YES I know I should never expect people to buy me something but nothing, nothing after such a long time.

I'm being unreasonable to be upset by this aren't I??

[Horsemad]

Well I'm loathing my job and certain colleagues so much at the moment that I've told my work colleague/friend that if I leave I don't want anything from them to remind me of them!!

I would actually walk out of the room if they even dared to present me with anything.

[dayswithaY]

Not an excuse but it is time consuming doing a collection. I've done loads over the years - you have to buy the card and physically take it round to everyone without the recipient seeing. You do feel a bit like a debt collector with an envelope of rattling pound coins. Then you have to take a ton of loose change and go out and buy a voucher or something. Basically most people are lazy and will do anything to avoid a task like this. Don't take it personally - it's just the way some people are. It does hurt though.

[CookieDoughKid]

Don't take it personal. It's really common. The thing is, they don't care about you. Only about themselves and their jobs. You're just 'someone they used to work with'. Honestly, don't feel bad. It's work and I'd leave it as that.

[tupperwareAARGGH]

anthony my boss who is off work at the moment apologised and so did my team leader and couple of junior staff otherwise the response is zilch despite being read by about 50 people so far.

I'm off on holiday tomorrow with the DS so I'm going to forget about them.

[Mummaaaaaah]

That sucks. Feel very bad for you. In my team I always check someone has organised leaving drinks / presents and if not assign it to someone. So as da as I'm concerned the epic fail is on your manager's head. for you. It really is cunty

[justinelibertine]

Poor you OP. You deserve something as a leaving gift. from me.

This has happened to me at every job I have had so I suspect I might just be horrible.

1st job - Just a card and line manager said sheepishly, 'er sorry for the lack of cash'. What do you say to that!?

2nd job - Zero. I hated it anyway. Just left on the last day and no one said anything.

3rd job - The worst. DH and both worked there. He a lot higher up than me. When we got married. His desk was all decorated and he got a collection and a card. I got nothing. It wasn't even a joint present/card.
I left shortly after that and this is the worst one. DH's boss (director) came up to him on my last day and asked if I liked Vodka. D said yes. Apparently no one had done a collection or bought a card and he told DH he felt sorry for me. At the end of the day bottle of vodka and card was presented. The card had horrible messages inside it and I had to stand there and thank them.

4th job - Left to have DD. Nothing at all and then I got made redundant one the day DD was born.

I am glad I am a SAHM now!

[oldlaundbooth]

It's weird though, you think you make friends at work - especially after 14 years - and then NO-ONE gets you a card/flowers etc?

What's wrong with people?

[SoItGoesSophieTrout]

YANBU definitely. Either you have spent 14 years working with asshole or you are one.

TBH people I work with are assholes when it comes to this, I end up buying everyone a leaving gift and card from me and I sign then from me only.

[oldlaundbooth]

'The thing is, they don't care about you. '

As Cookie said.

They just don't give a shit.

[BrianCoxReborn]

My mum has worked for the NHS for 30 years this year.

She didn't get so much as a nod of congratulations.

Disgusting. The management just don't value front line staff.

[SummerSazz]

They are all gits Imo ☹

I have a member of staff off sick and we sent a card and a care package of nice sweets etc. I also had a temp (of 3 months) leave today and we took him out for lunch and gave him a card and nice bottle of red.

Come and work for me 😁

Oh, and here's some pressies 📦 and a

[Helen1966]

That is so,awful. Poor you.
Same happened to my mum. She voluntarily ran an over 55's club for 30 years for the WRVS, and got nothing when she finished from the WRVS. The club members did get her some flowers and a voucher, but nothing from the 'charity' WRVS.
She was really upset.
Really hope you can move on from this. Don't stay in contact with anyone and delete them from social media

[beepbeeprichie]

I hope you're having a lovely Friday night treat to yourself. Try to remember- it says everything about them and nothing about you. You are clearly the sort of person that goes out of their way to organise collections and cards for others- obviously everyone that still works there is of the "can't be arsed" brigade. Good luck in your new job xx

[whywonthedgehogssharethehedge]

YADNBU they are a bunch of twats

[KERALA1]

Never understand why people emotionally invest in their workplaces. They are businesses they really really don't care. What is this card present thing for every life event? It's usually women instigating this stuff I don't get it.

You work to earn money - personal relationships are separate. You may meet friends at work I get that but trying to engineer feelings between groups of randoms who happen to work in the same office makes me cringe.

[Alohamora]

I'm due to finish up in my present job in a few weeks and am dreading the last day.

I've already been told to organise my own leaving lunch and just put up a poster to let everyone know .

I'm not holding my breath for any leaving gifts or anything. It was my 40th last year and I'd taken the day off. An enormous bunch of flowers was delivered from work but when I started thanking everyone they all looked very confused. I strongly suspect one woman bought the flowers and wrote the card though she'd never admit it. I did get a hug when I thanked her though .

[chough]

KERALA, OP wasn't working in an office: she was working in an A&E department, where, by the very nature of the job, there is some emotional involvement between staff.
It's part of how to cope and get through the shift.

[CRazzyyAce]

I got a cheap bottle of wine that one of the family's had donationed in the care home I worked in, I don't even drink red wine it was quickly donated to a new raffle at my new job. It was clear I was an after thought with a few names on a card where as others had big lovely presents. Since then I've had two baby collections and wedding collection at my current job. Don't let those arseholes get you down

[dowhatnow]

I'd be upset too.
But the problem is that nobody took ownership for all of of the leaving stuff. Everybody thought that someone else would do it. In the past their best mates probably organised it. That isn't to say you weren't liked and respected by everyone, it just means you didn't have a bestie.

[topcat2014]

Bastards / Bitches the lot of them.
Was this the public sector?
Six months and you will forget you were ever there.

[PurplePidjin]

First pregnancy, I got a card made by my manager. She buggered off for 2 hours to make it, leaving me with all the work. Left soon after.

New boss I didn't even get a verbal congratulations for my marriage or the birth of ds2 (I wouldn't expect it for a baptism). I took great delight in organising a card, cake and flowers when she went off for an operation 2 weeks after I got married.

Team of two (boss and me) plus a couple of volunteers.

Op, yanbu, it's disrespectful and rude not to at least acknowledge a milestone

[Aeroflotgirl]

Wow how nasty, that is shit. Walk forward and never look back

[EveOnline2016]

I refuse now to give for any collections in work.

A huge collection for another pregnant women for when she started her Mat leave. I got nothing 6 week later.

Op hope you enjoy your new job.

[Horsemad]

To be fair, I am in agreement with a PP who said they don't understand why people emotionally invest in their workplaces. If it wasn't for some busybody office social secretary in work organising everybody to participate, I would just send a card to the particular people that I like.

I can't be arsed with most of them anyway...

[Mrsmorton]

I'm secretly a little bit happy so many other people have experienced this

I left a job last year having (as line manager) mentored by direct subordinate to be promoted into my job. Not so much as a thanks, let alone a glass of fizz in a local. I felt so let down but op nailed it. Either you work with assholes or you are one. for everyone let down!