14 years working in a dept and not even a cheap bunch of flowers

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Massively outing myself here but....

I have just left a department that I worked in for 14 years and wasn't even given a cheap bunch of flowers. 14 years!!!

I've contributed to many peoples leaving presents and I didn't even get a card from the department either. I did get a card from the team I worked with last night but nothing from the whole department.

Its made me feel very sad and upset when I know I shouldn't let it get to me and YES, YES I know I should never expect people to buy me something but nothing, nothing after such a long time.

I'm being unreasonable to be upset by this aren't I??

[tupperwareAARGGH]

inneedof that is awful and really cruel.

[mooftoon]

I had the same when leaving to go on maternity leave. No one even said all the best to me or congratulated me, I was really upset but it really said more about them than me

[Unicorntrainer]

Fb group

[Unicorntrainer]

How incredibly rude, on all fronts! Draw a line under it and don't look back. You have definitely done the right thing by removing yourself from the Feb group. Enjoy your new job, and more quality time with your ds. 💐🍰🍷

[TheWickerWoman]

Wondering if you work the company I recently left. They had similar form, the directors made a fuss of all their favourites and were sure to send them out sixty pound bunches of flowers (smallish company, credit card receipts came through some of us so we'd see the amounts spent) on their birthday or if they had the sniffles etc, the rest of us got nothing.

My ten year service was also ignored despite me continually dropping hints, I ended up telling them it upset me and they blamed me for not telling them (I did several times, they just don't listen to anything they're not interested in)

Leaving that company was the best thing I ever did.

[ineedabodytransplant]

I would have been embarrassed to receive anything the day I left.

But after 18 years I never thought it would come down to me having to hunt for someone to give my mobile phone and laptop back in to

They had gone to the pub......because the PA was leaving(after two years)!

[AnthonyPandy]

Yes, it's not the gift or lack of gift, it's the unfairness of it. Either everyone gets something or no-one gets it.

[Mughalswife]

I feel for you OP. I once worked for a now defunct retailer for seven years and when I left got absolutely nothing. I was really shocked and upset as over the seven years I had contributed to endless leaving cards, presents and leaving dos. I don't think I'm particularly horrible - I suspect that the reason was that the female manager who usually organised these things was off that day. I mentioned it after I left when I had to email head office, but of course they said it's down to individuals, nothing to do with company policy. Personally I think there should be company policy on this. If you give money to leaving collections you are contributing to the life of the workplace and it's totally unfair not to get similar treatment when you leave.

[lalalonglegs]

Truly a jaw-floor moment. I cannot believe their insensitivity.

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Yes person who created group saw my post about how hurtful it was to not get a card blah blah and even sent me a private message saying how sorry she was that no one had bothered.

I mean who asks people who have left to contribute to peoples leaving presents anyway, let alone when the person that has left got fuck all! Madness!

[lazyarse123]

Feel for you op it's a horrible feeling, but it's obviously them and not you. I work with about 16 people and it's fallen to me to do collections (we only do big birthday and leavings). I happened to be on holiday for someones 21st but arranged for someone else to do it. Luckily I called into work during my holiday and it hadn't been done so between us we managed to cobble something together. I asked the colleague who I had asked to do it and she said "oh she didn't put in for mine so I didn't bother" I told her that she had in fact contributed but had forgotten to sign card. I really don't understand how people can be so mean and uncaring. Luckily the rest of us are not like this bitch.

[Foslady]

Root? Route!

[Foslady]

AnthonyPandy's idea is the root I'd take too - let them know why otherwise they might think you're not bothered about any of them now you've left and if there was a collection what the hell happened to it

[AnthonyPandy]

Hmm. Can you write on someone's page (not privately) that you are sorry you left the group but you were quite upset as you worked there for 14 yrs etc etc and tag in one or two others? See how they respond on their public page? What they did was shameful and I don't see anything wrong in pointing that out in a public way.

[Lj8893]

Wow op that is awful behaviour!! Would the person that created this new group have seen your post about not getting a card?

I would have had to say something if it were me!

[tupperwareAARGGH]

My lodger is gobsmacked that I haven't replied and just calmly removed myself from the group without writing anything.

I like both the person who invited me and the person leaving. If it was someone I didn't particularly like I'd have said something.

[ASheepInWolfsClothing]

Unreal!! I'd have to sit on my hands if it were me! In fact , no! I would not sit on my hands op, I would send whoever added you to the group a message pointing out the fact that you don't work there anymore and it's in bad taste that they would like you to contribute to something when they couldn't be bothered to do the same for you I'm so cross for you op!

[tupperwareAARGGH]

OMG you couldn't make this up! I've just been added to a Facebook group to contribute to someone's leaving present

I've left the sodding department and didn't get anything and now they are asking me to still contribute towards someone else's! Fucking hell!

[tupperwareAARGGH]

thank you x

[tava63]

Sorry that you experienced this but I just wanted to thank you for doing an incredibly difficult job for 14 years and helping so many people - you are a hero.

[bikerlou]

They are cheapskate bastards...seriously, I'd be fuming if that was me.

[Ffssmithy]

Mine was NHS too.

[YouCanButImNot]

Sorry they've made you feel crap. I had this also, 8 years in the same department and not even a good bye when I left. Other people get gifts, cards and parties. I'd left not long before the kids xmas party so went to that with dc and barely anyone spoke to me. I felt absolutely dreadful but on speaking to people who have also left I'm not the only one to be treated like this. However, now I work with a fabulous group who are lovely and got unexpectedly spoilt on my birthday. for you.

[PanGalaticGargleBlaster]

Kind of with Happy on this. I work for a large organisation and get a bit fed up when I get badgered every week to throw some money in an envelope or sign 'all the best' in some card for someone I don't know or even thought was a bit of a twat.

Truth is I have a handful of work friends, people I actually meet outside the office, the rest are just people I share a room with for several hours a day. Outside of work is where my best mates are, apart from the afore mentioned handful of work colleagues I keep my social and work lives completely separate! When I leave I am more then happy to shake a few hands and move on without cakes, cards, speeches, or fanfare.