14 years working in a dept and not even a cheap bunch of flowers

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Massively outing myself here but....

I have just left a department that I worked in for 14 years and wasn't even given a cheap bunch of flowers. 14 years!!!

I've contributed to many peoples leaving presents and I didn't even get a card from the department either. I did get a card from the team I worked with last night but nothing from the whole department.

Its made me feel very sad and upset when I know I shouldn't let it get to me and YES, YES I know I should never expect people to buy me something but nothing, nothing after such a long time.

I'm being unreasonable to be upset by this aren't I??

[echt]

I think I did rather better than you, tupper when after twelve years in a college, I got a postcard of Turner's "The Fighting Temeraire tugged to her last berth to be broken up, 1838".



Rather fitting in some ways, but a bit

[2kids2dogsnosense]

The bastards This happened to a girl I worked with when she got married - no-one came round for a collection. I had been on my hols and assumed I'd missed it so took her some flowers and wished her and her DH well, bur she was almost in tears when she told me - she'd given to all sorts over the years - marriages, engagements, babies, deaths of parents etc and got NOTHING back! And she was lovely!

I did a collection and shamed them into giving, but it shouldn't have been necessary (and it is't the same when it happens like this . . .).

They are c*nts of the first order.

[tupperwareAARGGH]

I'd like to think it was always the same person organising stuff but it isn't random people just do it normally the team sort it.

That postcard is really something echt hope you have framed it and put it on display

[tupperwareAARGGH]

When I had my DS I ended up in ITU, very horrific birth and very nearly died. I got nothing then either as apparently someone stole the card and money which another poster has mentioned has happened in another workplace. Not sure why this has upset me so much from my previous experience.

I would like to point out I'm not a horrible person, I'm not nasty to anyone at work and I've listened to loads moan, get stuff off their chest, come find me for a good old cry when its all got a bit much. I just clearly am not worthy enough for even a card. FUCKERS

[justgivemeamo]

I would write to someone higher up, its a courtesy surely from the company as a basic?
I would write to someone higher up and explain and say you feel its down to managers to organise something as a thankyou.

[justgivemeamo]

My dh team sent us beautiful flowers when dd was born and a card I was touched by it.

[Libitina]

I would write to someone higher up, its a courtesy surely from the company as a basic?

I think the OP works for the NHS? The NHS doesn't care about its staff.

I'm sorry this happened to you OP. I hope after seeing your FB post they feel guilty.

[FATEdestiny]

I was admitted as an emergency for major surgery. Massive shock to me and DH, who had to arrange extended leave to look after our two toddlers and me.

DH worked for an Internet bank at the time. I was a secondary school teacher.

About a week after surgery I got a card and flowers from my husbands work colleagues. Many people I don't even know directly!

From my work colleagues - zilch. Nothing. Nada. Not a card, not even a phone all or text.

I still feel shit about it. This happened over 10 years ago. It feels so much worse that I received a gift and card from DHs work, like rubbing sly into the wound that no one in my work gave s shit.

I never went back to that school. Thoughtless bastards the lot of 'em.

[incywincybitofa]

and and a card from me
Well done for all you did for 12 years- every time you covered for a colleague everytime you went above and beyond and all the changes you have worked through.

[tupperwareAARGGH]

fate ex partner was in the Army his unit got me flowers and a card too but was so ill at time didn't even consider that it made my workplace look even worse for not sending anything.

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Oh and yes I work for the NHS and worked in A and E for 14 of those years, its a shit place and I'm extremely glad I have left and libitina is right they do not give a shit.

[SirChenjin]

Oh that is weird - and very, very odd. No wonder you're upset, you'd have to have skin like a rhino not to be. Good luck in your new job

[bakeoffcake]

When I was rushed into hospital with an eptopic pregnancy, all I got was a phonecall from my manger to ask for my planning for the following term. (I'd already given it to her 3 weeks before but she was always losing things)
My dh took the call and told her she would have to wait.

I do feel for you OP and I think you did the right thing in posting that message on FB.

[user1470771898]

Please don't feel bad (although you will - and rant and rage as much as you want - it helps) - you are not alone - 18 years in the job, minute I handed my notice in I no longer existed as a human being. I was simply an automaton who could be called at 3 a.m. to arrange meetings for 7 a.m. that day. Boss thought it perfectly acceptable to call at that time, and expected me to then contact other minions (who, presumably, would also have been asleep). Like you, not even a goodbye, simply packed away the work, left a five page typed instruction sheet for the next incumbent and walked out. In time it will make you realise how right you were to leave.

[user1470771898]

Tupperware: just realised you were in the NHS - me too :o) - you will be So pleased to be gone - give it six months and you'll wonder how you ever put up with it.

Hope you have a lovely relaxing weekend - eat, sleep, enjoy.

[summerblues]

YADNBU some people are just shits arent they

I have a horrible suspicion that after years of working where I work I wont be getting anything for my 30th. Even it feels as though every week I am giving money to collections for weddings, maternity leave, birthdays etc.

[user1470771898]

Oh this is fun - FATEdestiny: similar thing - within six hours of mother unexpectedly dying I was 'phoned by work asking when I'd be coming back because it was very inconvenient of me to take the day off without giving due notice (I had let them know what happened and that I'd take the day as holiday or unpaid, whichever would suit them better).

[TempusEedjit]

Poor you, makes you feel like crap doesn't it. I joined one workplace a couple of weeks after my birthday and put into collections throughout my first year, when own my birthday finally rolled around I got nothing. During that same year I'd also been on the receiving end of a £3 box of Lindor for Secret Santa when the budget was supposed to be £10. I refused to put into any more collections after that and they got pissy with me for being tight! Cunts. I know it's not me as I've had some lovely stuff from other places!

for you, I'm sure you're a lovely person!

[AdmiralData]

I worked for a narcissist for 2/3 years during which time I married, became pregnant, had baby and baptised baby. I left before returning from maternity leave because I am now long term sick. Nobody turned up to the Baptism and not a word when I left. for you Op.

[Hiphopapotamus4]

Hugs for you OP. Onwards and upwards!!

Similar happened to me when I had to leave a job due to serious illness - never heard a word from anyone asking how I was or did my surgery go ok etc. On my last day at work nobody even acknowledged that it was my last day. It was really odd and my manager didn't even say goodbye at the end of the day.

A few months later I found out that there had been various rumours flying around about why I had left (non of them complimentary). I really couldn't understand what had gone wrong as I had worked there for years, got on really well with everyone and had only left as I had to go into surgery and was unable to work for 18 months afterwards.

I had only told my manager about my health as I like to keep these things private and when I bumped into an old colleague and pointedly said "the surgery went well" she had no idea and had been told by our manager that my family had died and left me a huge inheritance and I had moved abroad to be a lady of leisure in the sunshine!! I wish I'd been sunbathing on a tropical beach but no I was laid up in hospital. She was shocked!
Someone else had been told I'd got a job in the police (completely different area to what I did then and now!) and I've since found out a 3rd person had been told that me and DH had divorced and I'd moved far away due to my apparent heartbreak....

Some people are just bizarre

[lilybunch]

I've worked in my place for 5 years, and signed cards and put into collections for everything - weddings, babies, engagements, graduations, 30ths, 40th.....I was off sick for 8 weeks, in hospital for 2, pretty seriously ill and I didn't even get a get well card! When I came back to work, one of my colleagues who I'd thought of as a workplace friend asked me how my holiday had been!!

[origamiwarrior]

Happened to my Mum. 37 years as the school secretary. Organising (can you see where this might be heading?!) and contributing to hundreds of leaving, birthday, wedding, baby gifts. Worked out over the years she'd probably contributed over £2000. For staff leaving presents, the whole school including parents contributed, and presentations made at a special assembly. When it came to her, she got a card and a bottle of wine handed to her in the staff room. She was so upset.

[tupperwareAARGGH]

jesus what makes people behave so cruelly. Your mum must have been devastated.

[AnthonyPandy]

You see OP, I told you it was horribly horribly common! I'm sure it doesn't make you feel any better, but at least you are in plenty of company with everyone else here.

Commiserations to everyone, here's the and that you all deserve.

OP what is the response on the facebook post?

[annielouisa]

I have experienced this at a charity I worked for. They seemed to get rid of good staff and when I finally left after 14 years due to redundancy I had to lock up an empty office and post the keys in the post box. No cards or presents and no real goodbye.

I thankfully work somewhere fantastic now and wish that for you OP