14 years working in a dept and not even a cheap bunch of flowers

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Massively outing myself here but....

I have just left a department that I worked in for 14 years and wasn't even given a cheap bunch of flowers. 14 years!!!

I've contributed to many peoples leaving presents and I didn't even get a card from the department either. I did get a card from the team I worked with last night but nothing from the whole department.

Its made me feel very sad and upset when I know I shouldn't let it get to me and YES, YES I know I should never expect people to buy me something but nothing, nothing after such a long time.

I'm being unreasonable to be upset by this aren't I??

[kittykittykitty5]

I found it extremely hurtful when this happened to me, I took it as a complete emotional "cut-off and fuck-off" from people that I had assumed liked me and I had got along really well with.

It's really not nice behaviour, one for Aunty Karma to deal with perhaps....

[LaContessaDiPlump]

I'm glad you said something tupperware, even if it was FB. The fact that someone else asked about it means that you were NBU to expect that basic level of consideration. It's honestly not you, it's them. Thoughtless gits.

[19lottie82]

Hi OP, I worked in a job for 6 years and was made redundant, not only that I was the only one in our department that got paid off. I always got on really well with everyone, or I thought I did, and on my last day they didn't even get me a card, or anything. I was totally gutted!

[GinAndTunic]

I am sorry, OP. Fie on your former colleagues.

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Sorry for all those people that have also gone through this.

I was possibly going to go to someone else's leaving do next month but can't face it now knowing that I didn't get a card let alone a gift. No way can I face the humiliation of being in a room with people that thought so little of me they couldn't even be arsed with a card.

[toffeeboffin]

It's shit.

I did five years and got nowt, that's bad enough!

Here's some from me.

[OlympicBonfire]

tupperware I'm really sorry this happened to you. I left a company recently having done almost 25 years - I hadn't done all 25 in that department but had worked there 11 years so a good chunk of time. I did get a card, but no gifts and my manager couldn't even be bothered to be there on my last day to do my leaving "speech".

As you say, it's not that you particularly want the gifts, but having seen it happen to others and having been there such a long time you would think they could come up with something !

It is sadly all too common by the looks of things

[ScarlettSahara]

Oh no Tupper -that makes it worse knowing that something has been organised for somebody else.
Go out with your friends instead and yes spoil yourself and let's hope your new colleagues are more considerate.

[Groovee]

I'd be gutted too. Especially after 14 years.

[ScarlettSahara]

for Olympic.
Would attempt a rousing speech

[Maverick66]

I got a tin of Family Circle biscuits. I had worked for company for 15 years

[chocoLit]

No YANBU. My lot were a shower of utter shites when I left after 13yrs and I even took them in loads of stuff to say cheerio.

Some people are just pricks that you're better off without X

[kali110]

Same op. It's fucking shit

[chocoLit]

One of mine left on Wed after 4yrs with me, a WEEK before she was due to go (whole other story) and I still got her a card/bottle of fizz/gift & flowers. Even though am happy she's away.

These people are, as I said, just pricks. Drop them all on FB and do no favours for them. If they ask tell them why!!!

[Zaphodsotherhead]

12 years in my case. And I'd pulled many an arse out of the fire in that time. I handed my notice in and left within the week (no bad feeling with the department I was in, but extremely pissed off with the management). I got a bottle of wine from one lovely member of the team, nothing from anyone else, but they were a newish team and there were a lot of changes.

Tbh I got more shock and surprise that I was going - I think they thought I'd take any amount of shit, as I had done over the years. So sod 'em. I work with a lovely team now, with far less stress. So, sorry OP, but I hope you've gone on to better things ( and more considerate people!)

[Dakin1]

It's really shit.

I imagine it's more the case of managers being disorganised and nobody taking the initiative to sort something rather than spite.

I always think it should be the line manager to organise a leaving gift. Did you get on with him/her? Had they organised pressies for other staff?

[Fortitudine]

Yes it is shitty. However, I'm in a situation at work where loads of people are leaving after a restructure, and because there are so many, we've not been doing big collections. We have bought flowers though. Except in the case of one colleague - who has without fail treated all her colleagues like shit on her shoe. Noone contributed to flowers for her. Yes it was awkward, but she was an awful person. Had worked for our organisation for 14 years too.

[Scrowy]

I could definitely see that happening in my office at this time of year. I'm sat surrounded by empty desks.

A colleague left a few weeks ago when most of the people she knew well were on leave. She definitely didn't get the send off she deserved as a much loved and respected member of the team. We cobbled something together my handwriting was disguised several times adding names to the card but it wasn't really good enough and definitely wasn't reflective of what we thought of her as a colleague.

[Fortitudine]

I should add that we had all made an effort with this woman. She would blank us, tell lies to managers about colleagues, was openly rude to people, took credit for other people's work, and her pièce de résistance was when she said to a colleague, in front of loads of other people, whose husband died suddenly at the age of 32 that she was wallowing in grief and it was a disgrace. So not a very nice person.

[chough]

Maverick, no present at all would have been better than a tin of Family Circle biscuits.
Didn't realise there were so many thoughtless people around.

[JellyBelli]

I hope your new job is the best job ever and that they appreciate you.

[PenelopePitstop24]

Oh no, not unreasonable in the slightest.
I would be gutted, people can be so selfish. Go buy yourself something nice!!

[tupperwareAARGGH]

Its upset me so much that I decided to put a post on the private work FB group and how its upset me and that I really do not want anyone else to feel that way and that the least they should do is get a card. DOn't care if I've made myself look a prat I think they need to know that those actions are horrible and upsetting.
Thank you for all your kind words and flowers and its also good to know (in a weird way) that I'm not the only one.

[user1467393664]

What a horrible bunch I'd be upset over that too. I know where I work it's always the same person organizing leaving presents - perhaps that person was out in your case?