Pretending to be asleep to see what DH will do.

[pinksugarmouse]

So I pretend I'm asleep to see if DH will masturbate, I don't know why - it triggered when I had HG and was too ill for sex, he's never actually done anything in all these times but I lay there stiff as a mouse and each time he moves my heart starts thudding so hard like 'here we go' till sometimes I have to pretend I've had a bad dream because I actually cannot breathe.

Huh?

What ?

I'm very confused as to why you think he will masturbate next to you if he has never done it.

If it bothers you that much why haven't you talked to him about it?

This might be better on Relationships by the way

Anxiety. You need a chat with someone professional.

It's like an obsession now, waiting for him to do it. I'm so tired of laying there all the time waiting when I'm so in need of sleep!!

Really Giddy? In worried of what they'll think of me. I know it's not normal behaviour and I'm embarrassed to tell my husband that I do this.

That sounds a bit strange.

What do you think it will demonstrate if he does masturbate?

That he doesn't want me, I'm not sure completely. I plan scenarios where I catch him and confront him...

When he starts pulling, jump up and scream really loudly. That'll put him off.

What do you think will happen if he does?

So if he did have a wank, what about it would bother you?

The fact that he's doing it in bed or the fact that he's doing it at all?

Yeah, that's something you really need to get help with, it sounds awful.

And he's never actually done it? How long has this been going on op?

Don't you ever?

But he thinks you're asleep! Who would want to be woken up becuse their partner is horny? I certainly wouldn't.

Since September 14' 😳
I don't even know what I'd do/say/think.

I just get obsessed with the unknown each time I go to bed, can't sleep till I hear him snoring... He's so loyal and faithful too, I feel like such a crappy wife.

Why does it matter if he masturbates?! Are you still having sex? Perhaps he feels unwanted so doesn't want to bother you with it?

Yes we still have sex, regularly. No issues there at all....

It's almost like I want to see if he does it?

But why shouldn't he? It's his body, he can have a wank if he wants. Surely you must ocassionally masterbate without him present?

so you think masturbation is wrong? Are you a nun?

To be honest I don't, I've not got a high sex drive.

I don't mind if he wanks though, it's just the obsession of him doing it with me there I don't know what's wrong with me ahhhh!

Just ask him about it. There's no need for all this angst.

There's nothing wrong with him having an occasional solo wank.