Pretending to be asleep to see what DH will do.

[pinksugarmouse]

So I pretend I'm asleep to see if DH will masturbate, I don't know why - it triggered when I had HG and was too ill for sex, he's never actually done anything in all these times but I lay there stiff as a mouse and each time he moves my heart starts thudding so hard like 'here we go' till sometimes I have to pretend I've had a bad dream because I actually cannot breathe.

Rufus - There are many reasons why either party may not 'like', 'want', 'feel like' sex on occasions or ever - your post sounded so cringy, as if to say 'do it whether you want it or not because otherwise your husband will have an affair or basically hate you' ... it sounded like some 1940s poster for 'be the little wife or you don't count in life'. I am in no way a feminist but ugh!

That is not a mans point of view, that is a prats point of view. My dh and many man think no such thing. I think you need help for your superiority complex. Why on earth would you think you speak for and have the same thoughts as every other man?

my other half does it quite openly. it's not a big deal and I'd be more worried about why I was pretending to be asleep to try and catch him out to be honest.

Rufus re point 6 in your list. Have a wee dear. It will relieve the pressure that is causing your erection.

Ffs User RTFT.

Rufus you do not speak for all men, you speak for what I hope it's a very backward thinking, tiny minority.

Yeah, my ex had the same attitude as dear Rufus.

My ex believed his need to come trumped my need for respect, and body autonomy. And it was my fault if he treated me like shite, of course.

[trigger below, sorry]

He raped me frequently, and just whined that I wasn't turned on enough for his liking. Hard to be turned on when someone is violating you and is so disinterested in you - how do I act all turned on to 'please my man' when he's making me bleed? Of course that was my fault as I should have been turned on enough for that not to happen.

Ugh.

Fuck Misc I'm sorry

Rufus, what a load of patronising shite.

Masturbation is normal and doesn't mean anything negative about your relationship or sex life. I don't see the issue with it taking place in bed believing that your partner is asleep, however, if it does cause distress then you have to talk to your partner about it.

Rufus, you are SEETHING because your partner is tired/unwell/just doesn't fancy you very much?

Bless. You sound like an entitled arsehole. I feel sorry for your fuckbuddy.

I don't think Rufus RTFT; also Cosmo has given this sort of advice before!! Not what OP needs to hear tho.

Seething is out of order tho

I think Rufus is having us on - nobody fit to be allowed unsupervised internet access could be that thick and obtuse. Nice try, Rufus.

@indio1375 Where did you even find this obscure thread from seven years ago??

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