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to think a child should have a proper bed to sleep in?

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wronghairdontcare · 09/06/2016 08:07

The DC concerned are staying with family friends for several months whilst renovation works are done to their home. During that time they will only have airbed/ foam mattress to sleep on....aibu to think given that this isn't just a few days they should have proper beds?

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wronghairdontcare · 09/06/2016 08:12

Sorry pressed post too soon, by proper bed I mean at least an actual mattress (from a bed) not just a foam fold out thing which is only mean for occasional use.

I did ask why they aren't using their beds from home. Apparently they have been given away/ chucked out, and there isn't room for them in friend's house anyway.

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dolkapots · 09/06/2016 08:14

YABU. If they are comfortable and can sleep well it really doesn't matter. They may only have foam mattresses on their "proper" beds anyway.

branofthemist · 09/06/2016 08:14

I think as a temporary measure it's fine. If there is no room ands they don't have an option of staying anywhere else, what do you expect them to do?

Savemefromwine · 09/06/2016 08:14

Well why would you care? Presumably their parents think it's fine so by interfering you will only get their backs up. Would have thought it's fine for kids.

BillSykesDog · 09/06/2016 08:16

I think they'll be fine.

justjuanmorebeer · 09/06/2016 08:16

I think it is none of your business and no issue really as long as the kids are able to sleep. I spent my first two years of uni on an inflatable mattress and lived to tell the tale.
Presumably there are sheets on their bed and it is inside a house with proper facilities and they are well fed? Some people have a lot less.

PPie10 · 09/06/2016 08:19

Yabu and should really not be so interfering. You do know that people sleep on far worse? Anyway the kids say they are fine and it's temporary so myob.

TendonQueen · 09/06/2016 08:21

Is this part of a bigger picture where stuff concerns you? I can see why foam mattresses might seem like the best/only option, though the throwing out /giving their old beds away sounds a bit odd.

Saveme 'why would you care?' Yeah, why would anyone care about the wellbeing of kids that aren't theirs? Hmm Far more important that people don't think you're nosey, obviously Hmm

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wronghairdontcare · 09/06/2016 08:22

I don't think 3-6 months is exactly temporary.

Children are not comfortable and complaining their backs etc ache.

If there wasn't room for beds I think they should have stayed with other friends/ relatives where there was room, or even rented somewhere for the duration of the works.

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branofthemist · 09/06/2016 08:24

I don't think 3-6 months is exactly temporary.

Yes it is.

If there wasn't room for beds I think they should have stayed with other friends/ relatives where there was room, or even rented somewhere for the duration of the works.

That's not always possible. There could have been good reasons they could have stayed somewhere else, that they didn't feel they needed to run past you.

branofthemist · 09/06/2016 08:26

though the throwing out /giving their old beds away sounds a bit odd.

We are renovating our house, all the beds are being replaced.

If they couldn't take them with them an are replacing them. No need for them to be kept.

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wronghairdontcare · 09/06/2016 08:29

They could have taken just the mattresses from the old beds though which would have been significantly better than what they have now.

I think 3-6 months is too long for a child to sleep on something meant only for occasional use.

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00100001 · 09/06/2016 08:29

Feel free to offer them house room OP, or buy them beds if it concerns you so much :)

Buckinbronco · 09/06/2016 08:32

Throwing out beds isn't odd when you are renovating a house. What else would you do with them, pay £200 a month for a storage unit?

I don't think this is a big deal at all. Yabu

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wronghairdontcare · 09/06/2016 08:35

So you would really let your kids sleep on a blow up bed or fold out foam thing for 6 months, even if they said it was uncomfortable?

The parent has a proper bed to sleep in btw.

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ohtheholidays · 09/06/2016 08:35

I sleep on an air mattress because of the lack of space in our home(were moving this year thank God)and I'm seriously ill and disabled.But if the children are struggling to sleep and are uncomfortable then that needs to be sorted and sooner rather than later.

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wronghairdontcare · 09/06/2016 08:36

They should have just taken the mattresses off the old beds. Not difficult really!

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 09/06/2016 08:55

You're really unwilling to accept the responses here, huh?

branofthemist · 09/06/2016 08:57

Maybe the matresses were knackered?

Why post If you are so convinced you are right?

Or did you just want people to join in with your judging?

00100001 · 09/06/2016 08:58

Just putting mattresses on the floor isn't a good idea - the air can't flow around them.

Maybe they will get beds soon?

As I say, feel free to offer them some mattresses or houseroom :)

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 09/06/2016 08:59

If I was the parent I'd let the kids have the bed and I'd sleep on the air bed tbh.

CrazyDuchess · 09/06/2016 09:00

YABU and struggling to see what it has to do with you if they are not your children? Very judgy

BettyDraper1 · 09/06/2016 09:02

I slept on a foam fold out sofabed for a couple of months when I was a young teenager and we moved house. Really wasn't a problem.

durezz · 09/06/2016 09:04

We just had renovation works done and the whole family (me, husband and 3 kids under 8) slept downstairs in living room for 2 months roughly. Me and hub were on foldable mattresses and kids were on the sofa!
Sometimes when renovations are happening you have to make sacrifices. And I'm in my third trimester too!
Molly cuddling kids all the time won't get them anywhere, they need to understand things aren't always rosy, there are millions of children out there who don't even have a roof over their heads let alone somewhere soft to sleep. We should look at the bigger picture and learn to be grateful for what we have, and teach this to our kids!

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wronghairdontcare · 09/06/2016 09:07

It's a concern to me if they are complaining to me about discomfort, aching backs etc.

I'd say a proper mattress on the floor or even a sofa would be more comfortable than what they have now.

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