To find it annoying if men try n do certain things for me, like open car doors or help with chairs

[LardLizard]

Ffs I can open the car door myself and seat down at a table without help

I'm just *

Yes I do. Oh my fucking God.

Querty, I would very much like to read your points. Thank you.

You knew I was responding to b you're just being pedantic. I have actually explained I'm having trouble keeping up. Ffs I have mild dyslexia ok? Keeping up with this is hard for me.

What's going on? Querty, seriously, it sounds like you need help. Really - in real life - right now.

Are you having a panic attack?

Deep slow breaths. Slowly in and count to seven. Slowly out and count to seven.

No no I can respond o everyone

No ego what I meant was that the specific comment was aimed at her

And I was just explaining that if I give my true opinion it will cause a row. And I don't want to do that.

This is an assertive discussion, not an attack.
I dont like it when you do that. Hint that you have something to say but cant or wont.

But Elsie in all seriousness I'm really interested in a couple of things you said on another thread...But I'm now scared of you just shouting me down. I haven't commented on that thread yet...

You dont need to do this. You can just say what you want to say.
You cannot be shouted down online. You think about what you want to say, and type it into the box.

There are names for this method of communication, one is called 'teasing'. You leave a hint and wait for the other person to prod you and say 'go on'.
They have to tease the information out of you bit by bit, overcoming your reluctance to talk.

You dont need to hint that you have something to say, and we dont need to encourage you to say it.

Well I won't say it. And you can't make me.
B

But the other thread is fantastic. Whatever you might or might not think about me.

I haven't hinted , Bertrand asked me and I said no in order to keep the peace.

???

Weird evening on MN tonight.

And yeah I didn't comment on that thread, for this precise reason. You're not easy to talk to, sorry.

Cuntikins what you said about me earlier was plain nasty.

I'm not trying to make you say it. I'm asking you not to play that game of teasing and hinting.
Its a power game.
You dont want to be assertive or have any kind of discussion. Thats your choice, but dont blame anyone else for that choice.

"Ok do you want the brutal truth. You're not going to like it. But I will give it to you if you like. The thing is if I do it's just going to start this shit all over again so there's just no point"

"Ok do you want the brutal truth. You're not going to like it. But I will give it to you if you like. The thing is if I do it's just going to start this shit all over again so there's just no point"

Try me.

No. Fair enough. I'm not trying to tease anyone. Not Intentionally anyway. Not what I'm trying to do to you. It's quite obviously a provocative thread and it stirs strong feelings on all sides.

Bertrand I wasn't trying to be goady. It was trying to keep the peace. I don't want to intentionally offend. That is not what I want to do. I've TRIED keeping the peace I don't want a fight. I don't want to wind you up because I think something different to you.

I would love to hear the brutal truth.

So say what you think!

But if would only be my brutal truth. And I'm nothing to you. So why does it matter?