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All PIV = rape??

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Flashbangandgone · 21/05/2016 21:28

Stumbled across this article...

witchwind.wordpress.com/2013/12/15/piv-is-always-rape-ok/

Seems not only to be strongly arguing that all PIV is necessarily rape, but is incredulous that a feminist could think differently! AIBU to think this is bonkers or has the virtually the whole population of women (who don't think this way) just been brainwashed?!

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LurcioAgain · 23/05/2016 17:41

Love it, furchinchilla.

In this context it means penis-in-vagina.

bumbleymummy · 23/05/2016 17:54

User "if some people don't like the idea others don't want PIV sex then that's too bad"

Has anyone said that they don't like the idea that others don't want PIV sex? I thought they'd just said that they don't like the idea that PIV sex is rape.

bumbleymummy · 23/05/2016 17:55

all* PIV sex

PalmerViolet · 23/05/2016 18:52

Yup, using the word feminazi pretty much gives the game away.

Along with the delightful term I saw elsewhere today:

Mentalfeminist.com

All PIV = rape??
RufusTheReindeer · 23/05/2016 18:57

We are on the same threads palmer Grin

EveryoneElsie · 23/05/2016 19:14

Who said witchwinds blog was ever going to be mainstream? Certainly no-one here.
In fact, thats the exact opposite of pretty much every comment up until the feminazi one.

AHellOfABird · 23/05/2016 19:31

Oh, don't let the facts get in the way of a good Godwin, Elsie!

OP, would you honestly have preferred 12 pages of "I disagree with this blog" and nothing else? That would've been dull, wouldn't it? And you'd've missed out on the Monty Python song...

Flashbangandgone · 23/05/2016 19:35

Apparently I can't be a feminist and have started this thread?! Unless you believe that witchwind's views are a legitimate expression of feminism, then this is a bit like saying that a true Muslim can't criticise Isis, or a true socialist can't criticse Pol Pot, as those wishing to attack Islam/socialism on occasion cite these types of extremities as representative of the group as a way to undermine them..

In my opinion it is very important that the type of abhorrent views espoused by witchwind and her supporters (read her 'utopia' post on her blog if you think I exaggerate!) are shunned by feminists and called out as not representing the cause.

Going on the defensive when the likes of witchwind are brought up only serves to reinforce the view in those that are sceptical or on the margins of feminism that the movement does not represent them.... This weakens the feminist movement and the justice it seeks for women, and in so doing weakens the battle against the real gender-cide in India as mentioned by Vestal.

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BertrandRussell · 23/05/2016 19:38

Er- have you read the thread?

Flashbangandgone · 23/05/2016 19:43

I didn't use the word femi-nazi lightly... It's most used by people who think that a particular feminist is being militant on this or that - when they are actually just being feminists who have the guts to stand up for themselves. Witchwind is far, far beyond that in her views - the views of her and her likeminded friends contain some truly shocking and revolting stuff.

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Flashbangandgone · 23/05/2016 19:45

Er- have you read the thread?

Er, yes... I was responding to those appeared to think that my views somehow represented an attack on feminism.... Clearly much of the thread has been on other matters.

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AnyFucker · 23/05/2016 19:46

femi nazi is a reductive term designed to shut feminists up

AHellOfABird · 23/05/2016 19:49

Using the term "Feminazi" was the attack on feminism, OP. That's really not a helpful term for a feminist or feminist ally.

And your first post wasn't "wow, I'm a feminist and I really disagree with this", it was about whether women are brainwashed.

So yeah, your good faith is being questioned

BertrandRussell · 23/05/2016 19:58

No feminist or feminist ally would use the term "feminazi".

Flashbangandgone · 23/05/2016 20:08

Anyfucker

Why are you so reluctant to condemn witchwind's views as being inconsistent with feminism? Her views are fasci

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Flashbangandgone · 23/05/2016 20:08

Her views are fascist - full-stop.

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BertrandRussell · 23/05/2016 20:23

"Why are you so reluctant to condemn witchwind's views as being inconsistent with feminism?"

Why are you so keen for people to "condemn" her views? What would you like people to say?

Flashbangandgone · 23/05/2016 20:24

Using the term "Feminazi" was the attack on feminism, OP. That's really not a helpful term for a feminist or feminist ally.

Either you accept witchwind's views as legitimate feminism... In which case you are akin to a Muslim supporting Isis

Or you do not believe that witchwind's
Views are not legitimate feminism... And that her views are an extreme, genocidal, hideous distortion of feminism.

I hold the latter view, and believe she has as much in common with legitimate feminism as, say, the Daily Mail.

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Flashbangandgone · 23/05/2016 20:28

Bertrand

i'm so keen her views are disavowed by feminism because I believe her views are a fascist genocidal distortion of feminism that can only damage the feminist cause..... In much the same way I would expect every reasonable Muslim to disavow Isis... Muslims who refuse to condemn Isis only fan the flames of islamophobia.... Feminists who refuse to condemn witchwind only fan the flames of misogyny.

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RufusTheReindeer · 23/05/2016 20:28

What is legitimate Feminism?

BertrandRussell · 23/05/2016 20:33

Have you read the very many measured and interesting posts on this thread talking about PiV sex and whether it's a good idea to broaden our way of thinking about sex and the sexual transaction between men and women? About not just accepting the status quo and what we think of as the norms and just thinking and talking about it?

Oh, and genocidal? Really? In what way?

LurcioAgain · 23/05/2016 20:36

So a woman types (types - as in produces words on a screen, no human beings were harmed in the rearrangement of those pixels) and that's like ISIS committing genocide? Hyperbole?

LumpySpacedPrincess · 23/05/2016 20:37

You started a thread that highlighted a fairly extreme point of view held by a feminist, who you later compared to Hitler.

Yep, you're totes a feminist, nothing to see here people...Hmm

AHellOfABird · 23/05/2016 20:38

I disagree with her views; in fact, no poster on here has agreed with her views, the discussion has been

I do not find Feminazi an acceptable term and you telling me that objecting to it is akin to me being a Muslim that supports Isis is extremely aggressive. Not to mention that it's busted another irony meter just after I fixed it.

AHellOfABird · 23/05/2016 20:39

Missed half a sentence - the discussion has been around what society might be like with less emphasis on PIV

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