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AIBU?

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to be mightily pissed off

275 replies

MooningIntoTheAbyss · 07/05/2016 08:43

I supplement my income by doing a variety of thugs but one is alterations/seamstress work.

I tend to hold a policy that I don't do work for friends/family as it creates issues (if it's not as expected or there's a problem or money type issues)

Anyway, a friend has lost weight and needed a dress altering for a wedding. She took it to a place locally but they didn't do a great job. She begged me to alter it.
This involved some 10+ hours work.
During all the begging I clearly stated multiple times that I didn't want to die to my reasons above and that I can't afford to work for free or even much discount. I usually charge £10 an hour.
She kept saying 'I'll pay you I'll pay you' 'Money isn't the issue here I really want this dress' etc etc.

You can see where this is going right?
I caved. I did the alteration. It took me ages. Not because I'm not good at it, because it involved so much unpicking and undoing of the poor work done already.

She picked it up, fits like a dream. She handed me £20. My jaw dropped a bit and she said 'what's wrong? Oh! Your not going to exploit me are you?'
I said 'it seems like your exploiting me!'

I told her how long it took and how much work and I said I would want at least £50, which is a 50% discount and she knew this from the start.
She refused.
I have her dress.
She is now sending me quite nasty messages about how I've ruined her weekend and I'm only doing this cos I'm jealous of her weight loss and stuff like that.

I'm really fucked off.
I didn't tell her a price at the start as I didn't know how long it would take.
She says I'm being U to expect her to spend this much money on one dress (original cost plus 2 alterations) and also that as were 'friend she should get mates rates.

AIBU to have kept the dress til she pays me?

OP posts:
MammaTJ · 08/05/2016 13:26

He sounds lovely!

You say you're single?

I don't normally advocate breaking up couples but he could do soooo much better than her! Wink

Memunchiesanomanomnom · 08/05/2016 16:18

"I supplement my income by doing a variety of thugs..."

icanteven · 08/05/2016 16:59

What an ace end to the story! Smile

Bizzy2011 · 08/05/2016 17:34

I'm always 24 hours behind as I read whatever's on the email. This was epic. op and contributing ladies - you rock.

madcapcat · 08/05/2016 17:48

Love love love it!

Therewere5inthebed · 08/05/2016 18:03

Just caught up with this -busy weekend- and I'm really pleased that you got what you deserve. Some people really do take the proverbial.

MooningIntoTheAbyss · 08/05/2016 21:10

This made it onto the email? Lol.

Thanks for all your replies!

I think he meant not to take it personally as she is a tear to everyone. He never asked anything of me, but his body language and nonchalance about the whole thing screamed that he knew she was being a bitch and I was being treated unfairly

he was a bit dishy. I wouldn't have said no

Took the DC out today and got them lovely new summer shoes and pyjamas, got me some new bed linen... I do love bed linen not as much as tote bags though

OP posts:
lorilobs · 08/05/2016 22:02

You need to give her the dress.
I'd lose the friend too.
Very rude of her, but like you said business and friends are risky.
If you're not doing it for a favor-I'd have been tempted to do that here, under the circumstances-but you maybe needed to be more explicit about its cost.
Either way, she's being rude, and going back on her word.

AyeAmarok · 08/05/2016 22:13

Glad you got yourself something nice with the money for your hard work OP Smile

marjolaine · 08/05/2016 22:30

What a result! I thoroughly enjoyed this thread. Well done, OP! Enjoy your bed linen! 😎

x2boys · 08/05/2016 22:47

I wish people would rtft but well done you op Flowers Wine.

Sandbrook · 08/05/2016 23:32

A thoroughly enjoyable read. I love it when a plan comes together.
Well done OP!

situatedknowledge · 08/05/2016 23:45
Wine
Beeziekn33ze · 08/05/2016 23:57

I do like happy endings 😊 🍷Silly grin on my face, I like this story. The man is a hero!! Just sooo glad for you 💐

Dieu · 09/05/2016 00:56

She's a cheeky bitch! YANBU.

Kariana · 09/05/2016 07:10

Fabulous ending and thank you for keeping us all updated! The husband sounds lovely and I'm so pleased you got your money. He was obviously rather gleeful that someone had finally stuck up to her!

dylsmimi · 09/05/2016 07:19

Fab ending - well done op and enjoy your new things
I wonder if crazy dress ladies husband is a musnetter! waves cheery bye! Grin

BadLad · 09/05/2016 07:33

I'd love to be a fly on the wall when he gets home and explains what he has done.

MissSeventies · 09/05/2016 11:11

She is being unreasonable and rude yes, but I think you are being unreasonable. Just give her back the dress. You have well and truly burned the friendship now anyway.

Chippednailvarnishing · 09/05/2016 11:28

RTFT

Oldraver · 09/05/2016 12:52

OP..It would be funny to make a tote bag of the same material...pity it was shop bought

u32ng · 09/05/2016 20:55

I have had a monumentally shit day with the DS's. This thread has made my day!Smile

It has also made me wonder (not for the first time) why people choose to expend so much energy being dicks to other people. It's just so sad and surely only brings bad karma.

BadLad · 09/05/2016 22:48

If the husband is as nice as he sounds, why not invite him over to share the wine?

Skweeki · 10/05/2016 00:41

CLASSICS!!!

RockMeMomma · 10/05/2016 01:31

Can you imagine dresszilla's face if she's reading this thread 👿Grin

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