To call off the relationship/wedding?

[Calloffthewedding]

Not sure if I should have posted this in relationships but here goes

Supposed to be getting married in July, my fiance has just had his stag do in Newcastle. To cut a long story short I snooped on his facebook because I knew when he got home something wasn't right.

He told me that his best man hadn't planned anything so they just went to a few pubs, but his story wasn't adding up. I ended up checking his group chat where I found a picture of him next to a semi naked stripper as he felt her tits.

I then realised that he had come straight home and had sex with me, obviously frustrated. I confronted him but not only did he lie about it, he accepted my apology for doubting his story.

It was only when I said I had seen the picture he admitted anything, to be honest the lies are worse than the fact he got a stripper. Not sure what to do now?

I've had a few wines so please be gentle

Ok so now I've read MensPerspectives post

shit happens and things get hard all the time

This made me vomit a little bit.

Come back Mens - I want to know why you were searching for threads about women calling off weddings because their fiance groped another woman's tits

It's a very black and white attitude, isn't it? The peer pressure from his mates will have tough one for him to avoid. He didn't shag the stripper. He was probably goaded into the groping. The poor bloke probably knew the s••t was going to hit the fan either way and gambled the wrong option. I'd forget the relationship for both of your sakes. It's plainly doomed. He's bound to do something else that'll tip you over the edge again at some point. Or take mum's advice.

Bugger. Just seen this is an old thread.

Dave it's a zombie thread.

But out of interest - I get peer pressure, especially when you're pissed and on a stag do. But do you honestly have the kind of mates who would 'goad you' into feeling a stripper's tits?

That's a bit sad isn't it? What happens if you say 'actually no I don't want to, you sad twats'. Does your penis fall off?

Badtaste - well said. Dave, what if it was your wife holding another man's cock? Is it not cheating when it's a stripper? But is cheating if someone else? To me touching another persons body (tits, genitals etc) is cheating. Simple.

We are not all perfect all of the time, we all make mistakes. Yes you must feel angry and hurt but enough to end the relationship? I would be so angry and upset for many a year but I presume you love him and everybody deserves a second chance, although I would tell him you will still marry him unde the understanding that you are a couple now so no going out to bars and clubs alone for a while I don't mean pubs etc.

We are not all perfect all of the time, we all make mistakes

I have been married 17 years and have easily avoided the 'mistake* of touching another man's cock.

Now I'm wondering if cock is actually the male equivalent anyway? But you get my point...

ZOMBIE THREAD which the Independent has also regurgitated today

So DID you marry him thats what we want to know?

I wouldn't marry a man who thought it was ok to grope a woman. Yuk.

I’d have got rid. Don’t know if you did but he’s obviously a liar x

RTFT