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Original poster

To want to buy my neice's first birthday cake?

109 replies

AbernathysFringe · 27/04/2016 14:40

I know a great cake maker and placed an order but when she found out, her mum wanted me to cancel and to choose one herself.

OP posts:
Ginmakesitallok · 27/04/2016 14:40
Biscuit
TurnOffTheTv · 27/04/2016 14:41

Don't be ridiculous. You overstepped the mark, of course her Mother wants to choose it and order it.

CrazyDuchess · 27/04/2016 14:41

Yup YABU - should have asked mum first

Bejeena · 27/04/2016 14:41

Yes as a mother I wouldn't be happy with that myself I like making the cakes myself

Cynara · 27/04/2016 14:41

This is a reverse, isn't it?

EponasWildDaughter · 27/04/2016 14:41

YABU i'm afaid.
It's her baby's first birthday. Of course she wants to choose it herself!

TurnOffTheTv · 27/04/2016 14:42

Ah fuck have I been sucked into another troll thread?

EponasWildDaughter · 27/04/2016 14:42

oh

reverse. has to be.

AliceInUnderpants · 27/04/2016 14:42

Here, make her some Biscuit instead

TurnOffTheTv · 27/04/2016 14:42

Or a reverse?

RattieOfCatan · 27/04/2016 14:43

Yabu. It's her child's first birthday! It's her (and the other parents) choice what cake she gets for her!

MooningIntoTheAbyss · 27/04/2016 14:44

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Biscuit
MiniLop · 27/04/2016 14:44
Grin
Original poster
AbernathysFringe · 27/04/2016 14:45

I'm the mum. Had to just make sure I wasn't a bitch. And I can spell niece.
I didn't pitch a fit. Just said...ahhh we probably want to organise that from this end. It's a once in a lifetime kind of thing.
There's precedent - my birth card from her was 'Congratulations on the birth of my beautiful niece'. Not quite over that one yet.

OP posts:
KurriKurri · 27/04/2016 14:46

No yanbu - order the cake, buy all the presents, hold the party at your house, and don't invite her parents - you're an Aunty that's your job.

pigsDOfly · 27/04/2016 14:47

Reverse.

MitzyLeFrouf · 27/04/2016 14:47

What a cheeky mother, wanting to buy her own daughter's first birthday cake.

Next she'll be kicking up a fuss when you take your niece for her first haircut.

TurnOffTheTv · 27/04/2016 14:47

Did it really need to be a reverse?

Original poster
AbernathysFringe · 27/04/2016 14:48

Mitzy shudders with terror

OP posts:
EponasWildDaughter · 27/04/2016 14:48

I thought reverses were bit old hat now.

Never mind.

No, you're not being unreasonable OP.

Original poster
AbernathysFringe · 27/04/2016 14:49

TurnOff Probably not, just wanted to know if her way of thinking had any supporters.

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LittleLionMansMummy · 27/04/2016 14:50

Yanbu for feeling this way. Yabu for three reverse. I suspect the outcome would have been the same had you come clean from the start.

NotSleepyAtAll · 27/04/2016 14:50

'Congratulations on the birth of my beautiful niece' Grin

That's very funny, but kinda sweet too. She is clearly coming from a good place and adores your DD! Just needs to rein it in a bit a lot !!

LittleLionMansMummy · 27/04/2016 14:51

the reverse. Why my fucking phone keeps thinking I want to spell 'three' instead is beyond me.

MitzyLeFrouf · 27/04/2016 14:51

'Congratulations on the birth of my beautiful niece'

I quite like that!