To want to buy my neice's first birthday cake?

[AbernathysFringe]

I know a great cake maker and placed an order but when she found out, her mum wanted me to cancel and to choose one herself.

Op - yanbu

Martha

"Paternal Nan" would be the baby's father's mother.

YANBU OP, but I'm wondering how old the auntie is. When my friends and cousins first started having babies I was in my early 20s and I said and did things that I certainly wouldn't now I'm older and understand parenting more. I was just excited and keen to be involved and didn't realised I was overstepping the mark a bit.

Give it a few years and she might look back and cringe at the card and cake ordering like me

I "know" Abernathy, she's not whomever RudeElf thinks she is.

Ah, the old "you sound like hard work" :o You do not! It's not unreasonable at all to want to do this. Also maybe on the face of it "congrats on my beautiful niece" is fine, but if the person has form for making everything about them, it would grate.

Reverses are soooooooo 2011

Thanks for all the input!

Ah, 2011, back when being up at 2am didn't mean being on MN.

Off to dream about cake.

I once had 3 birthday cakes because my nan wanted to make one, so did my aunt, and my mum bought one.

It was fabulous.

I personally would welcome a doting aunt wanting to pay for a cake, lightens the financial burden and all that. However I would have hoped aunt would ask and discuss designs etc so I had some input. I hope you're not too cheesed off with her as children needs loving people in their lives. Even if they are a bit...OTT

"Paternal Nan" would be the baby's father's mother.

I know...