To want to buy my neice's first birthday cake?

[AbernathysFringe]

I know a great cake maker and placed an order but when she found out, her mum wanted me to cancel and to choose one herself.

[MarthaCliffYouCunt]

"Paternal Nan" would be the baby's father's mother.

I know...

[allnewredfairy]

I personally would welcome a doting aunt wanting to pay for a cake, lightens the financial burden and all that. However I would have hoped aunt would ask and discuss designs etc so I had some input. I hope you're not too cheesed off with her as children needs loving people in their lives. Even if they are a bit...OTT

[GraysAnalogy]

I once had 3 birthday cakes because my nan wanted to make one, so did my aunt, and my mum bought one.

It was fabulous.

[AbernathysFringe]

Thanks for all the input!

Ah, 2011, back when being up at 2am didn't mean being on MN.

Off to dream about cake.

[trufflesnout]

Reverses are soooooooo 2011

[CheerfulYank]

I "know" Abernathy, she's not whomever RudeElf thinks she is.

Ah, the old "you sound like hard work" :o You do not! It's not unreasonable at all to want to do this. Also maybe on the face of it "congrats on my beautiful niece" is fine, but if the person has form for making everything about them, it would grate.

[RainIsAGoodThing]

YANBU OP, but I'm wondering how old the auntie is. When my friends and cousins first started having babies I was in my early 20s and I said and did things that I certainly wouldn't now I'm older and understand parenting more. I was just excited and keen to be involved and didn't realised I was overstepping the mark a bit.

Give it a few years and she might look back and cringe at the card and cake ordering like me

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Op - yanbu

Martha

"Paternal Nan" would be the baby's father's mother.

[MarthaCliffYouCunt]

[Stvalentinescansuckit]

I don't know why I mentioned my nan, I'm just going to slowly back into a quiet corner and have a

[Stvalentinescansuckit]

Haha her birth* I don't think my nan even knows what FB is!

[MarthaCliffYouCunt]

I had my daughters paternal nan announce my birth on FB

FB was around when you were born? Are you very young?

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

So,e people that send a card saying congratulations on the birth of MY what ever may get annoyed because it's a ownership statement or a lack of acknowledgement that the baby is the parents child.

Or something like that

[Stvalentinescansuckit]

I wouldn't be happy if my sisters did this to me pick your own cake and have a lovely first birthday with your LO

I had my daughters paternal nan announce my birth on FB by saying 'today was a very special day - I became a nanny' I know it's silly but it still bloody annoys me!

[PotteringAlong]

"Congratulations on the birth of my beautiful niece".

How is this a problem? How is this 'form'?

My sister must hate me

[Gwenci]

At least your DD's aunt shows an interest in her neice.

My DS's uncle didn't bother to send a card either on the birth of his nephew nor for his first birthday. Still grates.

Saying that, YANBU, first birthday cake is your prerogative.

[Scholes34]

No, can't remember what any of the children's first birthday cakes were like. I do know that I made them myself though, so they will have tasted good.

[paxillin]

No biggie. My DSis saw the first step, my DMum made the 1st Birthday cake.

Doesn't make me or our bond less special at all.

[notonyurjellybellynelly]

Whats wrong with a card that says congratulations on the birth of my beautiful niece?

[PansyGiraffe]

Cake smashes are totally a thing, yes?

[ouryve]

And should have RTFT - or at least the first 10 posts!

[MiddleClassProblem]

I was on mum's side but the unnecessary reverse thread was just silly.

[ouryve]

YABU.

Fine to offer. Not fine to impose. It's your niece, not your own DD and your niece's mother is perfectly entitled to make her own choices for her own child.

[LittleLionMansMummy]

I suspect auntie has a habit of making everything about her, Pigeon, but could be wrong. There must be some history I think.

[Pinkheart5915]

I can Understnading why the mum wants to sort the cake.
I see you are the mum? It's a reverse thread so yanbu