re widowed MIL and wedding ring?

[lulucappuccino]

FIL died (relatively young) three weeks ago, after a long illness. MIL isn't a particularly warm person, but they had a long, good marriage.

I noticed that that she's not wearing her wedding ring (not a one-off, it's been several occasions).

She's definitely not on the lookout for another man.

I haven't mentioned this to DH.

I think it's odd. It's absolutely up to her though, of course. Her marriage. Her grief. Her finger!

Just seems a bit odd. I'm being unreasonable to think that though, aren't I?

Wow, aren't you a treasure OP. So long as she has masses of support though eh?

Yes, of course support is important.

So because you have given fil support over the years that makes it ok to speculate online and call her odd for removing her wedding ring after 3 weeks? And you think thats ok because you have given them support? Really?

You really should stop now , you are sounding nastier and more twattish with each post.

She's odd in many ways. Yes, of course it's fine to ask AIBU online.

You sound really odd yourself actually.

I'm not bothered about MIL either way

You're a charmer, OP.

Oh no, that other thing. That also begins with C.

Mind your own business. It really is her decision and not your place to even comment.

I can't be arsed to advance search - is this OPs first post? No one can be this unaware of how they are coming across surely?

You might, of course, be a total wind up artist!!

Wow, such vitriol. Maybe to lulu cappuccino it seems odd because she wouldn't to the same.

Sadly not her first thread twirlypoo.

Was really hoping it was. Hate the thought that her grieving MIL is a real person with this real DIL. Really distressing.

I think there is only one reason for someone to post in the style of the op.

People are easily getting wound up its unreal. She can ask what she wants anonymously on Mn, it's a bit like thinking out loud, no need for others to get their knickers in a twist over and start throwing abuse. Sad. I agree it's not particularly odd to remove said wedding ring, it could be for a number of reasons. I'd tell my DH personally as I feel our relationship is strong enough that I don't have to censor my thoughts, even the stupid ones. Ha well.

All her posts are like this twirly. Or most of them anyway. Antagonistic and rude. Sad that she gets so much joy from being so offensive and get away with it, safely hidden behind her screen. Poor thing, I pity her.

Reported, the op is an idiot

Reported for asking AIBU about MIL and a wedding ring. Hilarious!

My mum was widowed last August. She rarely wore her wedding ring for the majority of their happy 45 year marriage. In fact I used to wear it to school thinking it was silver it's platinum

Not sure why it's even bothering you. I've no idea of my MIL wears her wedding ring or not.

You're loving it aren't you op. Super fun. What is it, have your mum and dad gone out and let you loose unsupervised on the pc

To be fair, OP this is probably the sort of thing I would notice and find strange. But, then again, I wouldn't tell anyone because I'd know how badly it reflected on me and I'd feel ashamed of myself.

Trip trap, trip trap!! Maybe?

I've reported too, OP.

Funnily enough, a post referencing bereavement attracts people who are also dealing with bereavement, who click on it to see if they have something to offer in terms of support or advice. But I'm sure you knew that already. Part of the strategy, wasn't it.

Whatever you do, do not mention it to your dh.

This better not be a trip trap. I'm emotional enough just now without wankers just making up shit for the fun of it. I usually can spot them too, which indicates just how much I hate Sundays just now