Ok, so DP's brother and his wife have recently had their first child. I will say in the first instance that I do not get on with the wife but am civil in family situations. I am engaged to DP and we are marrying soon.
Anyway, when the baby was born I organised a gift and card, we were both very excited to meet the baby, it's the first in either of our families. I signed the card Uncle DP and Auntie me. I know I'm not technically his auntie yet but as we are getting married in two months I didn't think it was worth saying anything different.
Today I received a text from baby's mum asking would I please not refer to myself as auntie because I wasn't even married and they don't want child referring to non-blood relatives as auntie and uncle. I was taken aback and really quite upset, I consider him just as much my nephew as if my sister had a child. I don't differentiate between my own aunties and uncles and love them all equally.
So am I being unreasonable or should I just refer to myself as my name in future cards etc?
AIBU?
To be upset about comments over me not being auntie
sazzleish · 02/04/2016 19:59
Stupid phone 
...immediate. Her issue is likely to be more that she dislikes you enough that she's holding out hope that you're not going to stay together.
Reply 'haha, good one- imagine if you were tragic enough to be serious? (Extra lols 
) - anyway, how are ya sis?!' 😉
eatsleephockey is right : aunt definition in google
ɑːnt/Submit
noun
the sister of one's father or mother or the wife of one's uncle.
"she was brought up by her aunt and uncle"
informal
an unrelated adult female friend, especially of a child.
But it doesn't surprise me -my parents had us call their close friends and ironically their cousins Uncle and Aunty growing. Yet my husband isn't supposed to be called Uncle 
. They haven't discourage new partners siblings being referred to as Uncle and Aunt though.
It's point scoring in my case - and is best ignored.
So unnecessarily bitchy. My bil is not married to his DP but I would never have dreamt of saying this even if we didn't get on. She's point scoring against you. Ignore. 
Oh yeah and don't forget to comment on her facebook 'oh so is it just bil's family that have to be married before they get the family title then? '
What the hell! Flipping autocorrect serves me right for typing when holding a toddler. She is certainly an insecure and unpleasant person 
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