To be upset about comments over me not being auntie

[sazzleish]

Ok, so DP's brother and his wife have recently had their first child. I will say in the first instance that I do not get on with the wife but am civil in family situations. I am engaged to DP and we are marrying soon.

Anyway, when the baby was born I organised a gift and card, we were both very excited to meet the baby, it's the first in either of our families. I signed the card Uncle DP and Auntie me. I know I'm not technically his auntie yet but as we are getting married in two months I didn't think it was worth saying anything different.

Today I received a text from baby's mum asking would I please not refer to myself as auntie because I wasn't even married and they don't want child referring to non-blood relatives as auntie and uncle. I was taken aback and really quite upset, I consider him just as much my nephew as if my sister had a child. I don't differentiate between my own aunties and uncles and love them all equally.

So am I being unreasonable or should I just refer to myself as my name in future cards etc?

Pretty sure your dad's brother's wife is your aunt no matter what this daft bint wants you to call yourself. How long 'til the wedding??

"I will respect your wishes, and of course should X and I have children, I fully expect you to do the same"

Which she wont like.

What a bitch, what does your dp say about it?

Sorry sazzle, I didn't mean it to come across the way I think it may have. In my situation the issue was that it was immediately c

Stupid phone

...immediate. Her issue is likely to be more that she dislikes you enough that she's holding out hope that you're not going to stay together.

The first time I met now-DH's family the neices and nephew were introduced to me as 'here is Uncle A's girlfriend Auntie Gark'.
Your SIL is rude and is being deliberately nasty, especially as you have been with your DP for a long time.

How horribly spiteful. In situations like this, I tend to send a wink or a lol as my reply. It's entirely inappropriate as a response which makes me chuckle to myself.
I'd ask DP to have a stern word with his brother. You're either auntie and uncle or just names. Ridiculous!

Reply 'haha, good one- imagine if you were tragic enough to be serious? (Extra lols ) - anyway, how are ya sis?!' 😉

Oh you have to comment on Facebook looking great 'Uncle' Jack. I would not be able to resist and I am usually more confrontational than PA but this is just too golden an opportunity to pass up.

eatsleephockey is right : aunt definition in google
ɑːnt/Submit
noun
the sister of one's father or mother or the wife of one's uncle.
"she was brought up by her aunt and uncle"
informal
an unrelated adult female friend, especially of a child.

But it doesn't surprise me -my parents had us call their close friends and ironically their cousins Uncle and Aunty growing. Yet my husband isn't supposed to be called Uncle . They haven't discourage new partners siblings being referred to as Uncle and Aunt though.

It's point scoring in my case - and is best ignored.

What a total arsebag.

Your DP needs to say something to his DB about it - that is not on. How long has she been with soon-to-be-BIL? Any specific reason you don't get on?

Aunty McAuntface perspic

why do people have to make life so bloody difficult? i wouldn't reply.

I think my DH would be talking to his brother and sil about how hurt you both are and why is it ok for her sisters boyfriend to be Uncle and you not Aunt.

So unnecessarily bitchy. My bil is not married to his DP but I would never have dreamt of saying this even if we didn't get on. She's point scoring against you. Ignore.

You need to make a comment on Fb asking if her sis and her boyfriend are related to each other as he gets the title of uncle even though he's not a blood relative. Might as well wind her up a bit!

What a total twat !!!

Her not you

Her husbands brother is your dp ie uncle therefore you are auntie

'Apologies, I considered him just as much my nephew as if my sister had a child today as I will in two months time when we are actually married but as you wish.' did you want to send me back the gift and card so I can get his proper uncle to replace them as without thinking I went out and organised them

Oh yeah and don't forget to comment on her facebook 'oh so is it just bil's family that have to be married before they get the family title then? '

Or just sign every card from "da biatch"

Please do what griphook said she is celery s very obscure unpleasant person

What the hell! Flipping autocorrect serves me right for typing when holding a toddler. She is certainly an insecure and unpleasant person

I would leave it, I don't know why people hold their kids up as some kind of a prize like that. My SIL was like this, she was and is a cunt. Her pfb was the first in either family too and I think the attention went to her head.
She struggled to cope with being less interesting when her kid wasn't a baby any more and my other brothers had babies. I won't forget the way she was, she hasn't met my Son at all and he's nearly 4.

Oh and don't even comment on the bil uncle thing, she wants you to care.

Cowbag. Pity her.