So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

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DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

LettingAgent I would think the same thing- must be a wind up, nobody could be so nasty and deluded

Then I recall two women of my aquaintance....I use that term loosely, as I don't relish the aquaintance. They are just as nasty, if not more so.

That's what happens when you're the sort who will throw other women to the dogs, as long as you get to hold on to "your man"

I am sorry for apostrophes and grammar. I am typing on Tablet. Thank you for your answers I will just drop it and ask DP not to mention anything to ExW - that sending the petition did bother me. For exactly this reason we did not tell DSD about pregnancy to avoid any confrontation with his EXw

I hope you are a troll

If not you are selfish and insensitive. She wants to ruin your happiness?! Your ruined her marriage and split up her family. Unhappily married?! Bet he wasn't too unhappy before you turned up

Ewww, the thought of wanting to hang on to someone like that. Oh well, I guess some women just have really low self worth. Sad really.

Luckily OP's precious man hasn't married her. It'll save so much paperwork in the future. I'm sure he doesn't want it to drag out so long next time.

My ex husband and his wife didn't tell me about their second pregnancy. Instead they told my 8 and 6 year old and merrily sent them home to me. I had a very difficult few weeks with two children who were upset and confused. I would have preferred a little warning so that I could have prepared them and supported them.

But hey, let's not think about the existing children in all this. Let's make it all about the pregnant woman and her joy and happiness.

I suspect OP will be the Nemises to the exh/dp, she won't be the lose in this.

How can you 'steal' a husband? Is this a form of kidnapping?

Are they divorced? If so, does it matter? Just bin it and get on with your life.

You believe it's possible the OP is for real. The OW in my divorce was vile. Way worse than what I'm reading here. It's pretty much to be expected in the circumstances - man paints ex as nasty piece of work. OW therefore afraid of any contact and assumes it's all about her. You didn't get the prize, OP, not by a long shot. Oh....and if you read anything at all on separation and divorce it will tell you that taking time to recover emotionally is far healthier and far more likely to lead to lasting relationships in the future. Relationships born of affairs rarely last longer than it takes for the divorce to go through. Meaning you are very much on borrowed time right now.

If you are real, isn't your "happiness" already a bit wobbly with you having to worry about what a shit father your DP is being to his existing kids?

"surprise siblings" are very very bad parenting. And he seems to have no interest in he concept of co-parenting.

People should not be with one another if they are making one another unhappy. This is what happened with my DP - we are longer together than they have ever been, we have more harmonious relationship they have ever have. I am sorry that I hurt her. But they obviously were not a match. We would not have decided on another child if we were not 100% sure that this is it.

"How did she know about me back then?"

Lovely. Delightful behaviour and a delightful attitude to go with it. Well done.

You should be very smug as you've won a real prize there and it sounds like you'll fit together very well. Lots in common.

Have you had enough bank holiday fun baiting yet?

OP, you asked how she knew about you back then. How did you think she didn't know!

I was divorced when my DD was a baby (separated when she was less than a year). He claimed not to have committed adultery so I glad him to get on with it then so I could divorce him more easily (they'd been on holiday together, so I don't believe there was no adultery). I didn't name her in the divorce because it would have cost more. I'm still single and DD is 20. I'm not jealous. Ex and I get on and OW and I can be civil, but that's because we've all been honest with each other since. You in the other ban are compounding dishonesty with more dishonesty, repeatedly. Your poor children - all of them, not just DSD.

Thank you Pandora

Amazing this is like deluded mistress bingo.

Your definition of 'surprised' seems awfully close to other people's definition of a 'secret'.

Sorry I've keep biting. I should know better.

I'm calling wind up on this one.

^ this

No sexual intercourse she they were together

Anyone remember this?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=EYrdN-cUbJg

Sorry to post again, but this . We would not have decided on another child if we were not 100% sure that this is it needs comment. Your DP's ex had a baby when you got together. A baby. At what point did he decide he wasn't sure about being with her?

Ha ha, you say you didn't actually have sex until he had left!! You say you got pregnant before the divorce was done, but it took a long time.

Yeah, right!

You are named in a divorce petition because your relationship, sexual of course it was or otherwise, caused the breakup of the marriage!!

Get over yourself!

Do you totally understand him in a way she couldn't? Did she let herself go a bit after the baby, not like you, I'm sure you back in the gym 3 days after giving birth

Divorce dragged on for a year. I am in my 40s and I could not wait longer to have my second child. He is the 1

When your dp has his next affair and leaves you, you might find some empathy for his exw. Having babies won't make you infallible, sounds like exw having the child was when he starting shopping for his mistress. Don't get too comfortable .... I'm sure she was as special as you were once...

Doesn't want to marry you though does he?

Letting - back at work 2 months after giving birth, successful career, full time Nanny and younger by 10 years DP.