Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

399 replies

BuildingBlocks9 · 25/03/2016 19:15

DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

OP posts:
Slowlygettingthehangofthings · 25/03/2016 19:59

"If you steal someone else's husband - knowing he is married with a baby, you deserve what you get from his wife."
^ This.
No sympathy for you OP. Just remember, when a husband leaves his wife for hos mistress, it creates a vacancy...

VertigoNun · 25/03/2016 19:59

Look up spiderwomen who have affairs.

p0ppers · 25/03/2016 20:00

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

VertigoNun · 25/03/2016 20:00

How is your relationship with your mum OP?

VertigoNun · 25/03/2016 20:01

Did your Dad love you?

BuildingBlocks9 · 25/03/2016 20:01

It bothers me that she sends it now. To get back at us, to spoil our happiness of soon to be parents, the fact that her husband left her and is in happy relationship and she still is alone (no DP in sight and probably wanting to have another DC as well)

OP posts:
GooseberryRoolz · 25/03/2016 20:01

Jeez they have not been together for over a year

Un-bloody-believable.

Inertia · 25/03/2016 20:02

Oh well. Perhaps you'll understand her perspective a little more easily when your man dumps you for the next shiny new model. With a bit of luck he'll stick around until second baby arrives - wouldn't count on it though.

LettingAgentNightmare · 25/03/2016 20:02

Do your poor step daughters lovely fucking 'suprise'' was going to be AGAIN finding out she was having a siblings days before it arrives?

You let a 4 year old work it out herself?!

Well, at least when it's born you can have her maitenence cut again.

GooseberryRoolz · 25/03/2016 20:02

It bothers me that she sends it now. To get back at us, to spoil our happiness of soon to be parents, the fact that her husband left her and is in happy relationship and she still is alone (no DP in sight and probably wanting to have another DC as well)

Worraloadagoadybollox.

VertigoNun · 25/03/2016 20:02

At least OP is being honest unlike many OW.

hmcAsWas · 25/03/2016 20:02

Yes p0ppers

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 25/03/2016 20:03

I'm with P0ppers

PrimalLass · 25/03/2016 20:03

You sound utterly fucking awful OP. Just awful.

AugustaFinkNottle · 25/03/2016 20:03

By the way, you were named as a co-respondent, not a correspondent.

UnmentionedElephantDildo · 25/03/2016 20:04

I think in terms of spoiling relationships, her XH takes the prize.

After all, she was happily married with a small baby until he shat all over it (never, ever believe the script), and you are the next person in that position. Being this bothered about her is doing little other than illuminating your insecurities.

AugustaFinkNottle · 25/03/2016 20:04

I do hope she's reading this. She'll be delighted that this has wound you up so much.

LettingAgentNightmare · 25/03/2016 20:04

Ok. This is bullshit. No one is that nasty.

If it were real, I'd add she is probably still alone as she still pretty sore after being cheated on, whilst caring for a baby, and having her daughter treated like shit. She probably won't trust anyone for a long time.

GabiSolis · 25/03/2016 20:04

OP tbh all I can take from this thread is that you have behaved extremely badly and can't seem to face that. If the ex wants to amend the records to tell the truth why shouldn't she? It doesn't matter if she's bitter or not, all she is doing is telling the truth.

You and DP don't sound like very nice people.

Goingtobeawesome · 25/03/2016 20:04

You really are being unnecessary unpleasant.

TeaOnEverest · 25/03/2016 20:05

No DP in sight? Sensible woman. Hope she is enjoying the time by herself, just her and her daughter. She's doing the right thing, especially after her ex cheating on her.You do know that it's ok to be single?

GooseberryRoolz · 25/03/2016 20:05

By the way, you were named as a co-respondent, not a correspondent.

Not even that. She was named in the further information. If any of this happened at all.

Fiddlerontheroof · 25/03/2016 20:06

I named the ow on my divorce petition.

I did it as I was extremely fucked off

HTH

Arfarfanarf · 25/03/2016 20:07

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LineyReborn · 25/03/2016 20:07

I haven't understood a word of this shit.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.

Swipe left for the next trending thread