So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

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DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

I have watched my ex from a distance as his second wife keeps making sure I know repeat every step of our marriage with the next wife. Things he wanted to do I didn't and she did. I even see him making the same parenting mistakes. He learnt nothing from the unhappy first marriage he was 50% responsible for and is repeating if they weren't so horrible I would pity them.

No, I do not want to get married.

Good lord, you really are living the cliché, aren't you??!!

It's like you're Xenia..if Xenia were easy.

The letter is bothering you because you know it's true and you don't want to face up to the fact that what you did was truly horrible. I suspect you were sleeping together before the separation, if you weren't, you were still having an emotional affair with a married man! Which is far worse in my opinion.
You, at the very least, contributed to the breakdown of her marriage and you've tested her/her child like shit ever since. She's not the bad guy. You are.

You're underhanded, nasty, delusion and by the sounds of things, very stupid.

mystified by this
have I understood it correctly..I can't have done. No offence OP, I found your post really confusing.

the divorce has gone through hasn't it? It's finished. So legally, can the first wife get the details of the divorce changed, is that what she is trying to do?

Treated, not tested.

I really hope this is a wind up.

yeah - report her OP - for what exactly?

You really need better communication with ex. You have their child in your home. Ex deserved to be told early on about pregnancy so she could prepare her dd, basic manners. Withholding that is deliberately goading her.

oh hang on a minute, I think I've got it

she's just showing you what she could have done and didn't do in order to be decent, yes?

I would just leave it now. Don't go after her for harrassing you or whatever. She had a moment of bitterness. We all have them. If that's the correct interpretation of what you've said, just forget about it and move on. And don't give her a hard time when you see her. Just be polite.

Oh of course.

It's Easter.

Married fathers are with their families, and out of touch for several days.

Talking about them (whether the real or the fantasised about circumstances) is the next best thing.

guessing your feeling some guilt if your in so much of a panic about some papers.

Ooh the total package.

Now, what was the word I was looking for? Hummmm

EXW kicked him out of marital house, than wanted him back when it was too late. I am convinced she still has feelings for him. She wants to ruin our relationship

If she wanted to give it another go raising her child WITH the father
If she now wants to co-parent with him as divorced parents

You can't paint her as a meaney

You're basically selling her to us as a good mother. Maybe you can pick up some tips from her?

I bet she doesn't want him back now, he is spoilt goods now.

Lorelei - no, you are confused. Divorce is done and dusted. EXw is letting me know that she knew about me back in 2013. And I have never met her in person, spoke with her

EXW kicked him out of marital house, than wanted him back when it was too late. I am convinced she still has feelings for him. She wants to ruin our relationship

When she found evidence of your non sexual bullshit relationship!!

The ex couldn't give a shit about him, of that I am quite sure. I am sure she would be happy to see you both suffer, however. Tell me, will you be turning up on her doorstep demanding answers when he walks out? Will you think of her as your kindred spirit? Only as a word of warning, when the OW did that with me, she got an harassment warning from the police!!!

What happened with your parents OP? You should see a therapist to deal with that rather than hurting children and the exw.

Co-Respondents are no longer named. The court will ignore this. Ignore it.

We met when they were still together - unhappily married, we got together after
Funny how they're all unhappily married, but manage to stay where they are, often getting their wives pregnant, until the next sucker comes along...

Of course you have never met her.... There's a reason for that. He - your DP - has kept you a part because her story will be significantly different to his and he cannot risk you getting wind of that....house of cards, foundations built on sand.