So I was named as a correspondent in a divorce petition

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DP divorced W in Jan 2015 (separated in April 2013, divorce petition issued in Feb 2014 on the grounds on her unreasonable behaviour and granted in Jan 2015). In April 2015 I gave birth to our DD. I am pregnant now with our second DC due in July. My DP has a DSD who is 4 and she spends every alternate weekend with us. Last weekend she asked me whether I was having baby as my tummy is big - I told her that it was supposed to be a surprise for her and she will have a baby brother in summer. My DP also send e-mail to his ExW Fyi that DSD will have a baby brother. Yesterday in a post I received petition in a post dated and stamped by the court in April 2014 naming me as a correspondent in proceeding of DP divorce on the grounds of adultery with an original letter issued to ExW thatshe needs to amend petition as details of marriage certificate do not match. There was also a letter from ExW that she knew about me, she showed dignity by not pushing thru her petition and she let DP divorce her on unreasonable behaviour grounds as wanted to have it done and dusted. Adding that I as a woman and mother myself should show respect and dignity to DSD and have decency to tell her about pregnancy.
I assume that she originally wanted to name me in divorce proceedings and divorce DO on grounds of adultery but filled in petition incorrectly and did not resend it as DP has already issued his petition. But why is she sending this to me now - it is 3 years on since they separated. We are going to have our second baby and she is doing this out of spite. Shall I report her for nuisance?

She is probably angry as DP has told her about our DD couple of days before I was due. Year ago she went to courts claiming to change contact as he has not disclosed the information about partner and expecting a child during final court hearing with regards to DSD child matters. She probably did not expect that were to have another DC plus that we will prepare and inform DSD in a different manner.

bitter much

Yeah, and I can see why. Not having a go at you, op, but looking at this from her point of view, it's not great, is it?

A little bit of understanding would help, especially as there is a child involved.

If you steal someone else's husband - knowing he is married with a baby, you deserve what you get from his wife.
Also, your writing is very hard to make meaning of at times.

Poor exw.

Your partner sounds like my ex.

Weak and deluded.

As for you, with your "Bitter much" - maybe learn some simple grammar, usage of comma's would be a good start.

She is the mother of your DPs eldest child

You are bringing a new sibling into that child's life

You dealt with it announcing this major life change to the child BADLY!

The ex right to be pissed off with you. It's not old bitterness or old jealousy! It's a protective mother who's pissed at how cavilier you've been with her child's feelings

And why are you so concerned that she knows how long the everything but sex as if that makes it any better affair was going on? You're with your DP now and building a blended family and you still want the start of it all to be your little secret Grow up! for your DCs and their sibling's sake.

So your DP cheated on her with you and you are aggrieved that she knew and didn't tell you?

I think perhaps you aren't the injured party in this and you should just get over it.

We met when they were still together - unhappily married, we got together after they separated him moving out. They split in April 2013, the divorce was granted in Jan 2015). I was pregnant with our DD when he was not divorced yet but Jeez they have not been together for over a year

Gross. Poor woman having to have her daughter around a woman with no morals at all.

I'm so happy you and your partner both managed to get pregnant though, I think science will be hailing the first male pregnancy.

Ah...you have a shit of a husband, you are complicit in his piss poor treatment of his ex and his child and....well, you got what you deserve. Remember how it feels now because given time, you will understand just what his ex went through. Tick tick.

You were the OW.

Just let it go. He's divorced, he's with you and you're about to have a second baby with him.
Ignore it and carry on as normal.

WTF did I just cross post

OP, you didn't tell her about your first till you were due! Fuck sake! You gave her no time to help her child adjust to the idea of not only a sibling, but a half sibling.

There are some great step mothers out there, but you OP are a peach aren't you?

Jeez they have not been together for over a year

Ok, now you are just taking the piss.

Hahaha the old unhappily married...with a baby

OP, I would honestly just put it behind you and cross any further bridges (should they arise) when you come to them. There is absolutely nothing practical you can do at this stage to either stop this escalating (if that's what it's going to do, but to be honest I would be very surprised if it did), and like others are saying she's just having a dig.

However I do not know where people get off assuming who the villains and angels are in this situation. All it takes in this place is the hint of an affair or even a "close shave" for many to assume it's cut and dried. Life is not so black and white. And it's not the main issue here.

You and your partner seem very good at keeping secrets from her and their DD.

Secret affair, secret daughter, now another secret baby on the way.

Can't say I blame her for wanting to let you both know you weren't quite as successful as you thought about pulling the wool over her eyes during the divorce.

Or blame her for not wanting to drag the divorce out by counter-petitioning his adultery with you. I'd want rid of him as quickly as possible too.

If this is all you've heard from her, leave her be and stop trying to find problems that haven't happened by making up nonsense about her waiting outside your workplace. I doubt she wants to clap eyes on you.

So dd have a few days notice that she was going to have a new sister, I'm not surprised she wanted contact changed as that's all the regard you and her dad show a child that has had its parent separate recently.
You sound very selfish. Have either of you or your do thought about how that poor child felt?

You were the other woman. She didn't find out about your baby until days before your due date despite them having a shared child, yet you are casting aspersions on her? Wake up.

maybe learn some simple grammar, usage of comma's would be a good start.

Also look up 'greengrocer's apostrophe'

Normal people do not keep the news they are going to have a baby secret from their ex wife and child until days before the baby is born...unless they make a habit of keeping lives and secrets.

You didn't tell her or dsd about your pregnancy until you were due? That is terrible behaviour

So is being the OW

Lots of people have unhappy phases in their relationships, these phases often pass without outside interference!

you sound lovely