To not want to go to a wedding when the invite has one of those stupid money beging poems in it

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Apparently they think shopping is a pain so we can gratefully give them cash or cheques. AIBU to actually buy them a present?

YABU to start a thread about a poem, without reciting the actual poem.

Go on, we need to see it in all it's naff glory before we can tell if you are BU or not .

I'm not giving my opinion until you've given us the poem

I think it's a bit tacky to ask for cash but since so many couples already have a home together, I think cash requests are here to stay and not uncommon anymore. Suck it up and go or buy the usual silver picture frame/ bottle of champagne.

Ywnbu to buy a present - it's a gift, they can't dictate the nature of it.

Personally I prefer money as its easier! But the poems are shit [official mumsnetter]

Well obviously YANBU, cheeky beggars, but YABU to not post the poem so we can all gawp in the true horror of it all

If shopping is such a pain you'd be very uncharitable to force them to do it by giving them money... Take the strain out of it for them by buying them a nice toaster

YABU it's not hard to give the same value of a present in cash and to not do it would be deliberately being awkward

Yanbu I really hate those money poems! I've not seen one yet that doesn't come across as cheeky.

We haven't got a wedding list, the reason we'll explain,
is to save you all the hassle as shopping is a pain.
We've been together for a while and have most things we need.
So cash or cheques would be gratefully received.
The choice is yours, so please don't fuss.
The most important thing of all is that you come and celebrate with us!
But if you'd like to contribute, our heartfelt thanks go out to you...

Do what you want. I doubt they care much.

There's nothing wrong with that.

My mum did this. Asked for money for the honeymoon in the invite. She isn't skint in the slightest, can afford to honeymoon on a round the world trip if she wanted. I was

Prefer to give a thought about present tbh and think money asking is cheeky.

Just give them what you want and pretend you didn't see that bit of the invite or something if they mention it. Be a bit shit on their part if they did though

I had no idea until I started going on mumsnet that it was considered so rude to ask for money instead of presents. Still don't see why people get so worked up about it tbh.

oh Gawd, it doesn't even scan properly

The metre on that is appalling!

There's nothing wrong with that?

It is a hideous poem. Genuinely awful poetry.

And, the bit about choice doesn't actually say anything polite. It doesn't really say you don't need to contribute. It gives you a choice of paying up, either by cash or cheque:

"So cash or cheques would be gratefully received.
The choice is yours, so please don't fuss."

Sure there's that stuff about just wanting your company afterwards, but it isn't properly linked to the lines before. So it really is just a choice of methods of payment.

Cash begging poems are awful. Especially poorly written ones like that. They're just rude, crass and cringy IMO.

Well yeah the poem is crap but it's hardly offensive

That's fine. Stop being so mean spirited.

"The choice is yours, so please don't fuss" = get them what you want (I think)

I had no idea until I started going on mumsnet that it was considered so rude to ask for money instead of presents.

It's considered rude to ask for money OR presents.

Most children know they are not allowed to demand presents from people who come to their parties by about age 5.

I am offended by people sending me shit poetry they copied and pasted off the internet.

If you're going to send someone poetry the absolute minimum you can do is to copy and paste one that isn't utterly awful.

If someone writes a poem in their wedding invite, you must respond (either accept or decline) via a poem too. IT'S THE RULES. it isn't, but I really hope my idea catches on

Well fair enough I guess wanting money rather than porcelain figurines representing togetherness or some shite. But that poem was woeful.

That's fine. Stop being so mean spirited.
I agree.