To think £30 each is stingy?

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DF came for Xmas dinner.

Brought a card for all of us (no separate cards for dcs) with £150 in it. There are 5 of us so that's £30 each.

He ate our 'naice' food and drank our wine/prosecco and has now left to meet his friends in the pub.

He has an income of at least £2k pcm and has had a massive amount of financial help from us recently.

Aibu to think that £30 each plus a few cheap chocs (think celebrations) is a bit shit?

(Plus he spelt dp's easy to spell name wrong on the card)

Other people's DFs/GPs aren't like this are they?

It just makes me sad tbh.

I'm sorry but I don't think there's anything wrong with that...

Sad that someone gave you £150. Get a grip.

Exactly how much cash would you regard as acceptable?

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I would say YABU. We've spent no more than £20 on our closest relatives. The DCs maybe £50 each. Most people only around £5, but they still have lovely gifts and have been really touched by them. But then I don't have a big salary. £150 would by a wonderful family day out for everyone though

Well, if you recently had to help him financially what were you hoping for?

I think that's quite generous actually considering you know he has had financial help recently so is obviously struggling. Yabu.

Seems like plenty to me

I think £150 between the five of you is pretty generous really. Not stingy at all.

YABU. It's about spending time with family, not about spending a de minimus amount.

A gift is a bonus, not something to be expected.

Also, that's a decent amount of money. If you can't find yourself something nice for thirty quid, you're a shit shopper.

YABU and grabby. If you've needed to help him out financially then he surely isn't flush at the moment. Either way £150 is lots of money!

Yabu. £150? You should count yourself lucky.

It just makes me sad tbh.

Your post makes me sad tbh.

I can't remember the last time I had a present from my Dad!

I don't think that is stingy, rather that you are avaricious and lacking in Christmas spirit

But no I don't think £30 each is stingy. Have a lovely family day out.

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Isn't Christmas about being together with friends and family and not about the money? £150 could be used to buy a lovely family gift.

Well £30 may not be a lot but, It sure as hell aint a little either.
He ate all your food and drank your wine. Would you rather the food and Drink got wasted.

YABU. You have him financial help, maybe he can't afford anymore. And I think £30 to spend on a relative is more than enough.

How horrid.

Your reaction that is.