To think £30 each is stingy?

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DF came for Xmas dinner.

Brought a card for all of us (no separate cards for dcs) with £150 in it. There are 5 of us so that's £30 each.

He ate our 'naice' food and drank our wine/prosecco and has now left to meet his friends in the pub.

He has an income of at least £2k pcm and has had a massive amount of financial help from us recently.

Aibu to think that £30 each plus a few cheap chocs (think celebrations) is a bit shit?

(Plus he spelt dp's easy to spell name wrong on the card)

Other people's DFs/GPs aren't like this are they?

It just makes me sad tbh.

mominatrix it's great that you are happy with the chocolates from your family. I think your situation is slightly different as they are in an other country and not turning up on Christmas Day with their gifts. The fact that your happy and grateful does not give you the right to call the OP vile and grabby - that's just plain nasty.

How has he got a disposable income of 2k thanks to you?

If you begrudge giving people money don't give it to them.

I have a feeling this is one of those posts where it doesn't matter what others say OP has something set in her mind and won't be told otherwise

sand, I beg to differ. I am very confused why people expect to receive a present worth x% of their parent's disposable income, and why feeling that this is not "grabby" (not my words) is distasteful. She received a present worth greater then 33% of her father's weekly disposable income and complained about it not being enough. How is that not grabby? Furthermore, I do find such entitled behaviour to be vile. How is it not so, and where is it written in Christmas etiquette that thou must give one's child a present worth x% your total income? .

I don't know any adults who are doing okay financially, who get large presents from their parents.

Mominatrix I agree with you.
And as for the complaint that it was all in one card- words fail me.

I spent £30 on each of my kids.

He gave you £150 for your family. That is a lot of money to most people.

The OP hasn't stipulated what % of his weekly income she would like. I think that within different families the dynamics are different.If your brought up with expectations that you buy you immediate family nice gifts then it becomes the norm. Does that make you grabby?

Maybe her father's behaviour to her has in the past been vile and she feels that she's being magnanimous by inviting him in the 1st place.

I feel a bit sorry for the OP, think she's received a very harsh response. I don't think she can be familiar with MN or she would have known better than to post such a thing.

Most people I know have debts of some sort - a big mortgage or loans. People sometimes get themselves further into debt with Xmas and get sucked into the whole commercial materialistic thing. Christmas isn't really about that at all.

is it your dad? Id be happy if my loved ones attended with nothing, I'm glad for their company and I don't count the fact they eat in my house which you seem to be??

My brother earns a lot too he often comes ina rush to ours with nothing Ive never given it a thought I'm happy to have his company.

I think it doesn't matter if he bought something or not,but I suspect I'm in the minority here. But he did get something unfortunately OP I think you are being ungracious without realising.

£150 for a family pressie is much more then many get

joint cards are normal in a family

not sure how youve helped him so much that he has £2k to spend monthly but sounds like you begrudge it

least you saw your dad

Op you never know what people are going through, i have has 10p in my account before and nobody had the slightest i was struggling.