To think £30 each is stingy?

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DF came for Xmas dinner.

Brought a card for all of us (no separate cards for dcs) with £150 in it. There are 5 of us so that's £30 each.

He ate our 'naice' food and drank our wine/prosecco and has now left to meet his friends in the pub.

He has an income of at least £2k pcm and has had a massive amount of financial help from us recently.

Aibu to think that £30 each plus a few cheap chocs (think celebrations) is a bit shit?

(Plus he spelt dp's easy to spell name wrong on the card)

Other people's DFs/GPs aren't like this are they?

It just makes me sad tbh.

I suspect he can't win no matter what he does.....so if he'd given double the amount, you'd be upset at him for being extravagant when you've given him a lot of financial support recently.

30s fine. My parents and IL's spend 25 per head. Which we appreciate

Awful post.
Either real, in which case, you're an idiot.
Or a joke, in which case, you're an idiot.

You don't have to share it equally if you are that horrified. I have had fuck all for Christmas so comfort yourself lucky.

Read the full op!

He isn't hard up. Thanks to me he has £2k PCM disposable income. He is able bodied and doesn't work but couldn't be arsed to go to a shop to pick up a £5 gift. No thought whatsoever.

He didn't even get his grand dcs a card. Is that really normal?

He didn't even spell dp's name right! (It's an easy name).

He doesn't give a rats arse about us.

Maybe what I mentioned in the op wasn't enough context but it's just another of the million things that he's done, or not done, that makes me so sad that he isn't the grandfather my dcs deserve.

I don't want money from him I want someone who cares.

Yabvvvu if you gave him financial help, means he really does not have a lot of money.

My dad came for christmas, in fact he came up on Monday - we've fed him lovely food, taken him places and kept him entertained every day up to and including christmas day and it's never once occurred to me to question what he's spent in our presents because he's my dad, and we love him, and we want him here

You're horrid and I hope your DF has other, more grateful, less materialistic family to visit who appreciate him more than you

post like this are horrible. there are some people out their where their parents dont give a shit. and dont bother at all. there are people spending xmas alot.

i have got my first set of presents in 10 years and im so grateful for them and they have made me very happy. there are people out there with (nothing)

£30 each is fine, my present budget is around £20-30 per head and sometimes I spend less. My MIL gave me £25 Amazon vouchers which was very much appreciated

Stop digging OP. You're now sounding even more unpleasant than in your first post if that were even possible

Bye he'll spend more than £150 in the pub tonight buying drinks for his 'friends'.

Obviously this isn't about the money or the amount then, it's about what you wanted to see which is a grandparent who is involved in their lives.

I don't think there's anything wrong with the amount or giving money, my girls would be chuffed with £30 to spend as they please.

My grandma spells my name wrong every year (I haven't taken my husbands name).

You seem like you don't like him very much, but I can't imagine this is over the money, is it really?

I love these fake threads

Why have you done the "equation" of £30 each? It's £150 to your whole family. Could go towards life expenses, meal or holiday, the winter fuel bill, ie for ALL of you.

I agree with YABG above ie YABGrabby!

Who are you to judge what he can and can't afford? £30 is more than I spend on people at Xmas, including my children. If you invited him for dinner then you shouldn't complain that he ate and drank all your food. Poor man having such a grabby family!

sooper very well said.

Your dc don't care about card, they care their grandad came to see them at Christmas - give it up op you're not endearing yourself to anyone here

So why did you help him out financially then if you don't like him, he spends on his friends and doesn't spend (enough) on you?

There's obviously a huge backstory here which isn't about £150 which is quite a good amount!

good grief, how entitled are you op?

The three wise men / king that visted jesus, surely frankincense is stingy?

I bet it was the hard yellow kind and not the expensive white squares.

Thanks to me he has £2k PCM disposable income - what does this mean OP? Thanks to you?

Yabu, we had about that much spent on us by my MIL, and it did not occur to me to think it was not good enough...