To think £30 each is stingy?

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DF came for Xmas dinner.

Brought a card for all of us (no separate cards for dcs) with £150 in it. There are 5 of us so that's £30 each.

He ate our 'naice' food and drank our wine/prosecco and has now left to meet his friends in the pub.

He has an income of at least £2k pcm and has had a massive amount of financial help from us recently.

Aibu to think that £30 each plus a few cheap chocs (think celebrations) is a bit shit?

(Plus he spelt dp's easy to spell name wrong on the card)

Other people's DFs/GPs aren't like this are they?

It just makes me sad tbh.

Wow. How nice you sound.

Sounds as if your relationship is strained, and that there is no way he can please you. Perhaps he's gone to the pub with friends who value and accept him without judgement?

You helped him out financially yet you think he's loaded?

Greedy, get over yourself.

Greedy, grabby and everything that's wrong with the entitled sorts of which you are a prime example.

No, it's not stingy.

Reverse surely

Perhaps you should have banished him to the doorstep outside with a bowl of gruel. How dare he only bring £150 and expect to eat your food?

YABU - shame on you, what a grabby cowbag!

If you're so mortally offended by this (IMO generous) gift, then you should return it to him. Don't accept a gift from someone and then complain it wasn't good enough. Geez.

YABU and yes, massively entitled.

Has to be a reverse. Why do people bother?

Jesus. Why don't you just go the whole hog and charge all your guests for Christmas dinner/drinks in case you think their gifts aren't commensurate to what you have laid out for them. Because that's the point isn't it? Oh no, it isn't. YABU.

You've got to be fucking joking.

You don't invite someone round and weigh their gift up against what you've served them, that's your choice!

You sound like a dick and YABVVVU.

Wow. If this is how you behave I'm surprised he wanted to spend any time with you at all.

Yabu.
That sounds like plenty to me.

Surely a reverse? In my family, we spend £20 max on adults, perhaps a little bit more on the children.

If this is real it's horrible. 30 each is not a bit shit - you're attitude is and very grabby.

Maybe you'll get nothing next year, then you'll have something to cry about.

You are incredibly unreasonable. Any gifts from my family are a bonus. Don't be so grabby and entitled

I think you've missed the point of Christmas.

Also who the actual fuck calculates an acceptable Christmas gift based on someone's bloody income?! It's got nothing to do with it. People can gift what they want and you should be grateful to accept it.

I HOPE this is a wind up.

Maybe next time prepare crap food and serve cheap wine and then you won't feel so aggrieved?

YABVVU
I don't believe this is real. If it is, count yourself that a) he's alive and well and b) he made a very generous gift to your family.
If it's real then have an enormous and get right over yourself.

jesus...

I find the transactional approach to Christmas both unattractive and utterly pointless.

Plus, everything is what you make it. I would not immediately divide the total by family member but for eg buy a National Trust membership that you could regularly use as a family and view all of those memories as a gift.

This is a reverse or wind up. It doesn't read as real at all.

I spend £10 each on relatives that aren't DH or DCs. The amount doesn't matter because of the thought and effort I put into the presents and the were very much appreciated. I'd be chuffed with £30 to spend on myself.