To give them some space even though it means I'm alone over the festive period

[eatthebloodymincepie]

AIBU to realise that it's not about me at all, that family and friends need to spend time with their own family and friends and being alone isn't the worst that can happen?

but to secretly wish I had one thing to look forward to?

FeralBeryl thanks for the

Sorry to hear about your dad too x

I'm not telling you what to do

Completely agree with no time for tossers.

Having all the sympathy in the world won't support you to feel better - suggesting ways of feeling less negative about it are far more useful - but you don't seem ready for that.

FWIW as a mental health nurse there is no evidence here at all that OP is "depressed" - flat, fed up, a little sad maybe but not depressed.

I get really fed up of people bandying around diagnoses of depression on here - depression has very clear diagnostic criteria.

I get it OP. I've been there. Similarly awful things happened to me so I have had many Christmases alone. It's not fun. I wanted to wish you a merry Christmas. Take care and I hope you find some fun and peace. Xxx

Merry Christmas OP. X

eatthebloodymincepie I hope you have a good day and enjoy your holiday. It really tough being alone and although I know I'm not in that position over festive periods I've had some lonely times in my life.

Hope you have a good day, I understand it's shit being lonely.
If I were you I'd get group texting about plans for this week and NYE. I know it can be embarrassing but once I let go of that I had much more to do. I understand pride stops you and you don't want to be a burden but if your friends don't know how you feel they'll think your busy or happy to be alone.

Once when I was really bored I joined POF it provided entertainment if nothing else

Just try and swallow your pride (easier said than done I know) and text wishing friends a merry Christmas and asking of their plans in the coming days. Or better yet plan a little gathering at yours!

www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2015/dec/24/how-do-i-spend-christmas-alone-10-ways

OP, fuck the unempathetic responses on this thread.

Some people do get it and know that Christmas (extended) alone can be really fucking hard.

I've had some shit, lonely Christmases (lived alone for ten years), also been betrayed by a DH, and lost several pregnancies (still childless now).

Things are better now though.

Hopefully your luck will change in the future. In the meantime the only way out is through, and I do hope you manage to get some joy over the holidays (I think the dog will help with that 😌)

Take care of yourself and warm Christmas Day wishes Xxx

patience well put.

Eat I totally get where you're coming from so just wanted to wish you a Happy Christmas xxx

Happy Christmas earth

Oops read your user name as earth...

Happy Christmas eat!

Just passing by again to add my best wishes ... and a pat for the dog should he/she be with you.

How did your day go yesterday eat? What are plans for today?