to ask what contribution your partner makes to the Christmas preparations?

[harrietflies]

I'm curious. DP works from home two days per week, then is away for two days then off for three days. I'm my opinion he has ample time to have done something (anything) to contribute to the Christmas preparations for his large family and our three dc. However, he hasn't bought a single present, doesn't know what the kids want or are getting, has done no wrapping, hasn't arranged any of the elf on the shelf scenarios (we both agreed to start the tradition) or thought about food or guests or ideas for his family to get the kids.

Helped me decorate the tree this year for the first time in 7.

No wrapping, food shopping, cleaning ready for his DM arriving. He has 3 days off a week when I'd think he'd help but instead he watches our DS so I can just do more of it myself. Has no idea what anyone has for Christmas which is usually the case.

He has wrapped all the presents. Bought for some of his side. Addressed all the cards and posted them. Made the curry for BD. Cut down the tree. Got the decs out the barn. Bought some of dd1's gifts although as it was train track I think that might be a present for himself. Suggested things for my dm when the online stuff all went to pot.

He flipping hates Christmas too. Just capitulates to please me!

Equally split - financially and practically - in my household, even though DP isn't DC's father (been round since they were very small though).

TBH, I think your DP is taking the piss if he's expecting you to choose, pay for, wrap all presents and generally organise the whole festive season. I'd also be amazed if this is the only time of year he takes you for granted so horribly.

She has brought in the tree, decorated, bought all the Xmas cards. We both write cards / buy and wrap presents for our own families. I have done food shopping and baking. We will share cooking and clearing up. No complaints.

Money and taxiing over xmas period so I can get pissed after weeks of hassle.

DH does all the food shopping, for which I am very grateful. I hate shopping at the best of times but at Christmas it's awful. He battled his way around Sainsbury's this morning!