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Original poster

to think if you invite you pay

284 replies

laffymeal · 31/10/2015 21:26

Just back from friends ds's 18th birthday meal. Me, dh, dd and ds all invited to TGI Fridays along with about 20 others. Only had main course and drinks, dessert was birthday cake which dh drove the mum to Costco for, spent £50 on present, bill arrives and we're asked for £35 a head! Aibu to be fucking totally pissed off? Was happy to contribute towards drinks/tip but not whole fucking meal, which incidentally was quite shite and overpriced. Happy to be told I'm an entitled cunt btw, opinions please!

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Theydontknowweknowtheyknow · 31/10/2015 21:29

I would expect to pay, else the parents will have to cough up £800!

EMS23 · 31/10/2015 21:29

YABU - unless they said it was their treat i wouldn't assume it was.
Different if invited for a home cooked meal obvs but invited to a restaurant = paying your own way IMHO.

Are they proper minted because by your reckoning they'd be paying out close to a grand - that's a lot to expect?

BaronessEllaSaturday · 31/10/2015 21:29

That kind of meal out I would always expect to pay my way.

overthemill · 31/10/2015 21:29

I wouldn't expect to get paid for and in my small circle of friends if we go out to celebrate a birthday we split the cost so the 'birthday girl' doesn't have to pay.

Probably best to check before you accept the invite.

Perfectlypurple · 31/10/2015 21:30

I would expect to pay. Yabu.

QuiteLikely5 · 31/10/2015 21:30

You spent £50 on his present!

MistyBells · 31/10/2015 21:30

I would totally expect to pay to be honest

Alisvolatpropiis · 31/10/2015 21:31

Are you mad?

Of course yabu!

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CassieBearRawr · 31/10/2015 21:31

Yeah I'd expect to pay too. YABU.

nbee84 · 31/10/2015 21:31

I would expect to pay too.

Original poster
laffymeal · 31/10/2015 21:32

Fair enough aibu, thanks everyone. I would have hosted and paid but appreciate that others wouldn't.

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Chillyegg · 31/10/2015 21:33

Yabu I'd expect to pay.

It's odd you feel entitled to be paid for, also how much you chose to spend on gifts and lifts is irrelevant, still doesn't mean they should pay for you.

CassieBearRawr · 31/10/2015 21:33

You're either generous or loaded!

SarahSavesTheDay · 31/10/2015 21:33

I wouldn't presume to host a party at a restaurant without paying.

That said, I wouldn't presume to attend a party at a restaurant without paying.

It's a rather blurry situation.

Jinglebells99 · 31/10/2015 21:33

I would have expected to pay for our own meals to be honest. When we were invited to a friends 50th we all paid for our meals but the birthday man paid for the drinks. And when I've been out for others birthdays, normally everyone pays for their own meals.

mrsm43s · 31/10/2015 21:33

Why would you expect someone else to pay for your meal?

Lovelydiscusfish · 31/10/2015 21:33

Does sound a lot for mains and drinks though. Were some drinking loads of booze?

carabos · 31/10/2015 21:34

£35 per head? £140 for the four of you at TGI? Never been there, but from the look of the outside, I don't think so. I think you're subsidising the birthday family.

wickedwaterwitch · 31/10/2015 21:34

Id have expected to pay had I been invited but if I had invited people I'd have paid.

Shutthatdoor · 31/10/2015 21:36

I would expect to pay so sorry but YABU

Alisvolatpropiis · 31/10/2015 21:36

carabos

£35 a head at TGI's is easily done. It is quite pricey for what it is, though does have a couple of genuinely nice dishes.

cantgonofurther · 31/10/2015 21:36

I would expect to pay for my own meal.

jevoudrais · 31/10/2015 21:37

I would expect to pay too. The only time I wouldn't would be if I was being taken out for dinner e.g. my birthday.

Bimblywibble · 31/10/2015 21:37

I'd expect to pay but I would just have taken a token gift, nothing like £50.