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Hateful disgusting pig of a husband

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leavemealone2015 · 18/10/2015 23:37

When my h and I have a disagreement about something, or if I appeal to him to behave differently or criticise him, it seems as if it's no coincidence that he often belches or breaks wind apparently spontaneously, but publicly .. As if he is using this as a bullying tactic. Is this something bullies do? Also leaving the door open while loudly passing water but as if it is on purpose .He does other things with poor manners such as lick the lids of yoghurts and lick plates at other times.
It seems to me he is doing this intentionally?

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Custardo · 18/10/2015 23:40

so he farts if you tell him not to fart?

Leafitout · 18/10/2015 23:40

Does he do this to wind you up and know that it's getting to you? Yuck to the letting loose of the bodily functions yanbu

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leavemealone2015 · 18/10/2015 23:43

Seems to me it's a wind up and disrespectful on purpose

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MerryInthechelseahotel · 18/10/2015 23:43

He sounds arrogant and disrespectful. Why are you still with him?

cariadlet · 18/10/2015 23:44

Does he do it deliberately to wind you up, or does he see that as acceptable behaviour? Does he come from a family that are very casual about belching, farting and table manners?

coffeeisnectar · 18/10/2015 23:44

I thought it was normal to lick yoghurt lids.

You don't seem to really like your husband much. Have you been married long? Is the farting during an argument thing New?

If someone was criticising me or telling me how I'm wrong all the time I might start to rebel a little too.

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leavemealone2015 · 18/10/2015 23:45

Because I basically feel I can't leave him.

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Verypissedoffwife · 18/10/2015 23:48

I'm not sure if it's something that bullies do but it's certainly something that farmyard animals do.

Verypissedoffwife · 18/10/2015 23:49

Why can't you leave him? I'd definitely leave anyone who burps loudly. Or kill them.

MajesticWhine · 18/10/2015 23:49

Yes it does sound like behaviour designed to stick up for himself and show that he can do what he likes. There is a very narcissistic character in my family who belches a lot, really loudly. It seems like it is done as a challenge to others. Laying down the law saying I can do what I like.
Yogurt lids and weeing with the door open though, I would say are fair game for most people.

steff13 · 18/10/2015 23:49

If someone was criticising me or telling me how I'm wrong all the time I might start to rebel a little too.

This. It's one thing to disagree wtih someone, but it must be difficult to live with someone who's criticising you or asking you to behave differently. And I don't think he can control how loudly he urinates. If that bothers you, why don't you close the door when he's doing it?

shadowfax07 · 18/10/2015 23:51

When you say he does these things publicly, do you mean in font of people other than you (and any DC), or in front of other people?

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leavemealone2015 · 18/10/2015 23:52

Think yoghurt lids is ok not plates though! I just think it's disgusting to do these things ! And designed as a wind up. Well I suppose if you can't think of anything clever to say you can just gross everyone out instead?

In all seriousness it feels more like he is doing it to be disrespectful to intentionally disgust me and show me that that is what he can do even though he knows I would hate it.

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HeySoulSister · 18/10/2015 23:53

Op I get what you mean.

It's something my ex would do after we had argued too. As if to say ' I'll do what I like, I've no respect for you anyway'

It just put me off him further. I left .

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leavemealone2015 · 18/10/2015 23:54

Steff .. Do you want me to close the toilet door for an adult because he can't bother to do it himself??

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HopeClearwater · 18/10/2015 23:54

Why do you feel you can't leave him, OP? You sound very unhappy.

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leavemealone2015 · 18/10/2015 23:58

I am filled with disgust for him. What sort of pathetic creature has to do that to sort of establish their territory or lay the law down like a threat ?

Has anyone read sons and lovers?

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Verypissedoffwife · 18/10/2015 23:59

leave you're right the loud pissing with the door open is fucking revolting. We don't live like that in my house and I'd be really pissed off if anyone in my family thought that that along with burping and fartinh was acceptable. Honestly you need a shovel and a patio. It's the only way.

steff13 · 19/10/2015 00:00

Do you want me to close the toilet door for an adult because he can't bother to do it himself??

If it bothers you that he leaves it open, why not? Have you asked him to close it? You have three choices - live with it, leave him, or close it yourself. You can't control his behavior.

Why did you marry someone who disgusts you so much?

itsbetterthanabox · 19/10/2015 00:04

Does he burp and fart all the time or only after you've had an argument?
Some people just these things freely when at home and don't close the bathroom door. Has he always been like if?

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MerryInthechelseahotel · 19/10/2015 00:06

Tell us leave why you feel unable to leave him

HeySoulSister · 19/10/2015 00:06

seeyou have you deliberately not read the thread?

Op I fully understand this. Not many here will do tho

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leavemealone2015 · 19/10/2015 00:06

Stuff you misunderstand me ..he is doing it on purpose to be dominant and intentionally disgusting.

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leavemealone2015 · 19/10/2015 00:07

Steff

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